I suffer from a social double whammy. My husband is a minister, an announcement that generally creates a sudden clearing of space around us at parties. (I can usually see the alarmed thought passing over the face of a new acquaintance: "What offensive things have I already said?") And we homeschool our children, another conversation-stopper.

Religious homeschoolers are, as everyone knows, tax-dodging, militia-supporting separatists who spend four hours per day on Bible study, only allow their children to read books published before 1900, and think immunization is the tool of the coming one-world government.

Because of these stereotypes, I've developed my own knee-jerk reaction: "But of course, I homeschool for academic reasons," I assure my listeners. I cite the dismal academic performance of the local public school and the unreasonably high tuition of the nearest private school. My husband and I both have graduate degrees, and I was homeschooled myself, so I'm comfortable with the job of teaching my own children. I feel I can do a better job than the classroom.

This defensive reaction doesn't do justice to my own reasons for homeschooling. The truth is, I am teaching my sons at home for religious reasons; I find most classrooms to be toxic social environments, where children are taught to gang up on the weakest to survive. As a Christian, I want my own sons to turn away from violence, to learn humility, compassion, and patience. This, to me, is proper socialization. It isn't going to take place if my three boys are surrounded for most of each day by a crowd of peers who thrive on aggression and a steady diet of multimedia bloodshed.

But my religious convictions can't be separated from my academic goals for my children. Classical education--my mother's method of teaching, and the method I now use to teach my own children--views teacher and student as bound together in discipleship, in which a respected elder leads a receptive learner toward knowledge and wisdom.

In classical education, the teacher doesn't lecture while the student passively absorbs. Rather, the student respects the teacher's wisdom and superior knowledge, and is willing to bring concerns, doubts, and difficulties to the teacher's feet.

This can't take place if the student is forced to doubt the teacher. When my mother tells the story of her decision to homeschool my siblings and me, back in 1972, she talks about my brother's boredom, my kindergarten teacher's worries that my love for reading was unhealthy, the bullying on the bus that often delivered us to school weeping. But one incident finally pushed her into homeschooling. My brother, age 7, came home one spring and confronted her in the kitchen, putting both hands on his hips and glaring in the knowledge that someone was pulling the wool over his eyes. "You said God made the world," he announced, "and the teacher says no one made the world. Now I want to know: Who's telling the truth?"

She couldn't accuse herself of untruth; nor did she want toexplain to my brother that he was to sit, for the entire next year, under the teaching of a person he could not trust. We started homeschooling the next fall.

This exchange had nothing to do with the details of seven-day creation, the existence of Adam and Eve, or scientific evidence of evolution. My brother wasn't questioning the exact mode by which the world came into existence. Instead, what he saw was more profound--a basic conflict between two truths. In his teacher's universe, the physical world was all that was or would ever be. In the world of his family and church, the unseen was as real and powerful as the seen. These were two worlds that couldn't coexist in the mind of a bright and inquiring second grader.

Why homeschool, though? Why not just put children in religious schools, where the classroom reinforces home values? I haven't found this to be a solution for my family.

Classical education leans heavily on the evaluation of evidence: The educated child learns to avoid logical fallacies, to decide whether arguments are trustworthy or flawed. And both secular and religious classrooms are proneto simplistic thinking. "The evidence for evolution is unambiguous!"announces the public-school science text, without any reference to thegrowing "intelligent design" debate. "The evidence for a young earth can't be refuted!" insists the Christian school text, in a breathtaking display of selective reasoning. Ad hominem attacks abound. "Only people who are in rebellion against God espouse evolution!" concludes the science teacher in the Christian school. And the secularist retorts, "Creationists want to plunge education back into the Dark Ages!"

With which teacher should I entrust my children?

Nor do I want my kids to learn history with all questions ofreligion either censored or simplified. Were the Crusaders soldiers ofGod or soldiers of Western imperialism? Religious educators are often too afraid to admit that devout believers did bad things; secular educators are often all too happy to point out that the love of God is the root of all evil.

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