Focus on Your Soul, Not Your Shape or Status
When your self-worth is tied to external markers like your looks, the car you drive and how much money you have in the bank, feeling great about yourself is temporary. It’s as fleeting as a feeling, a whim. It’s like a butterfly. You’re forever trying to catch it. And if you do, it only slips through your fingers. That’s why Marter stressed the importance of “connecting with your essence and higher power on a daily basis.” As Geneen Roth writes in her book Women, Food and God, “It’s never been true, not anywhere at any time, that the value of a soul, of a human spirit, is dependent on a number on the scale.” The same can easily be said about money and material things. Marter suggested these activities for connecting to your higher power: prayer, meditation, mindfulness techniques “or whatever works for you.” These tips help you feel great about yourself in the moment and over time. And when you’re not sure what to do or what will help, start with kindness. Ask yourself, “What’s the kindest thing I can do for myself or say to myself right now?” You’ll rarely go wrong.