...I am 19 and have never been kissed or out on a date. I have always wanted to be loved by someone "in that way", but the guys all pass by me and I always wake up and wonder 'how much longer?' ...I have no idea how to meet nice people...i work in a nursing home and my only 2 male co-workers are married and in their 30s, i don't know anyone from a lower grade at my school and I'm not living at a college or anything. I have no idea how to solve my problem of being lonely.
My best advice to you is to get out of your rut. Think of things that you might like to do and get involved. Schools are a great place to meet people--I see people meeting everyday in my classroom as a college professor. Also, schools have lots of clubs and activities. If school money is a problem, then begin some volunteer work for organizations in your community, through your church, or through someone else's church. The main goal here is to stay busy!. Hang in there--life will get better!
--cynthiaj (Post # 12)
...One great way that I have found to make friends is to listen. People love to talk about themselves & as you listen you can learn about some things that you have in common with them- then share yourself with them.Be willing to be open to others and to share of yourself. Be honest and kind- truely care for others(and most importantly... yourself!)... I promise you, dear heart, this will be returned to you. Most every spiritual path speaks of it... do unto others, etc...
--krhiannon (# 15)
...My best advice to you is RELAX. The more you concentrate on being lonely, the more it will bother you. I have found that the less I thought about finding a boyfriend & the more I got myself involved in other things such as hobbies, joining some clubs which interested me, & possibly taking some classes at the local community college really helped.
-- alsulliv (# 39)
In order to have friends, you have to be a friend. You have to put yourself out, take risks with your heart. What is it that makes some people so attractive to others? It's not the way they look but the way they think and act. You have to be attractive and you are attractive when you don't feel sorry for yourself. Life is not going to show up for you if you just wait for it. And people are attracted to happy, busy people.Do you have any hobbies? Join a hiking club or birdwatching club or whatever. As long as you are doing things that make you happy and know that you are worthy of love and happiness in a relationship, you will attract people to you...
--bikergirl (# 46)
Hello Lonely Girl,
Reading all of the good replies I thought I'd confuse you with one more. I am 54 and retired from the A.F. Reserves, and my advise is this: Nineteen is a great age to seek adventure and forget the difficulties of the teen years.Anyway, what I wanted to say, try seeking some adventure -- NOW --, join one of the military sevices and learn a skill, travel to a foreign country paid for by Uncle Sam, and make some new friends. If you like it, you have a career, if you don't, you have a skill, personal pride in accomplishing something difficult, and the strength to get on with your life. You can do it, take a risk -- go for it! Good luck -- and don't worry about men coming along, that will happen, I guarantee it!
--lesnout (# 55)
.There is nothing wrong in feeling what you feel, loneliness is as much a part of life as happiness sometimes we have to go through one stage to get to another. Loneliness isn't a bad thing, though it's self induced. I thought I was lonely and married the wrong man and set myself back fourteen years in that marriage and now here I sit fourteen years later feeling the same thing. Remember that another person can't take away something that you feel inside they are not a cure...
--jackiejones (# 59)