A coven may also be called a temple, or grove, or circle. If a coven has the right blend of people, it is a marvelous entity. According to Starhawk, "The coven is a Witch's support group, consciousness-raising group, psychic study center, clergy-training program, College of Mysteries, surrogate clan, and religious congregation all rolled into one." Each coven has its own personality, woven from each individual's contributions. Ideally, a coven is the training ground in which each member develops his or her pagan potential, not just a group of people who get together to work magick.
Then again, while I sometimes found it difficult, practicing as a solitary provided a great opportunity to grow without externally imposed limitations. I needed to learn to rely on my own perceptions and abilities, instead of looking to somebody else to spoon-feed me enlightenment like a baby. When I was ready to find a coven, I had already spent a long time studying in a semi-structured learning environment.
A coven is a unique entity in that each member must understand that self-confidence, sincerity, ambition, and absolute honesty are critical characteristics of a dedicated witch. While even the most traditional coven allows for some differences in belief, personal agendas that do not serve the interests of the entire group have no place there. It may take many years to find the right coven. Some people may work with several covens of various traditions before finding one that feels right. You must trust the gods and goddesses to lead you to the right teacher when the time is right. And even then, there are no guarantees that the student-teacher relationship will last forever. Most people have many teachers over time and glean valuable information from all. Your job as a member or prospective member of a coven is to be honest with yourself and the coven leaders, and to trust the gods and goddesses to guide you along the right path.
There are several excellent reasons for joining a magickal group:
Questions to Ask
Newly formed covens can be exciting, but they also face unique challenges and frequently fail. Covens that have been around for a while tend to be more stable, but if you feel changes are necessary, you might leave before change is made.
Too big to give each member a chance to feel as if he or she is a vital part of the group? Or, too small to spread responsibilities evenly and thinly? There is no perfect number, because the coven's focus influences its size. For example, in a teaching coven, the ratio of teachers to students really should not be more than one to four. Even that is a stretch; one to three is much better. If the coven only meets to do ritual, however, then the size can be much larger.
Are they of mixed gender, ethnicity, socio-economic backgrounds? Online, a diverse mix of people is easy to achieve. If the coven has a tradition based on one pantheon, the members may tend to be more of one type than another; but a variety of people should participate. If not, then you might want to ask why.
Who chooses when, where, and what rituals are performed? Is that a structure comfortable for you? If you want to join a coven to gain experience in writing and leading rituals, then being excluded from that process probably won't feel right.
If you are already juggling too many demands on your time, then perhaps joining a coven is not a good idea right now. One of the benefits of cybercoven membership, however, is that you can gain companionship and knowledge at a pace that you choose. You still have to juggle your priorities and deal with conflicting demands, but cybercovens require no travel time.
Are they willing to talk with you about how they do things and what their expectations of you would be? Openness and good communication are essential characteristics of a healthy coven.
Are they emotionally and physically healthy? Do they feel like good people to be with? These questions are a little harder to answer when you are dealing with people online, but not impossible. Listen to your intuition.
How are finances handled? Are there exceptions made? If so, how and to whom? Is the coven giving regular reports? Has anyone left the coven or been banished? If so, can you speak with the former member? Speaking with former coven people may reveal more about the internal structure of the coven and why it is not as perfect as it seems on the surface. Ask why the person was banished. The answer to such a sticky question tells you much about the politics of the group, including whether you might find yourself similarly banished some day.
No matter how much you want to work with a group of people, it is a waste of your time to join a group with which you are not comfortable. Instead, wait, practice on your own, and continue to look. It will be well worth the wait.