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posted by Donna Henes

By Rebecca Perkins Reprinted From The Huffington Post  “I’m not interested in being perfect when I’m older. I’m interested in having a narrative. It’s the narrative that’s really the most beautiful thing about women.” – Jodie Foster There used to […]

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Embracing Womanhood

posted by Donna Henes

When any woman honors herself, all women collectively move closer to becoming what they are truly capable of being. There are many ways and myriad reasons for women to honor and embrace all that they are. And when any individual […]

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Transforming Anger into Compassionate Wrath (Part 2)

posted by Donna Henes

By Mari Selby …continued from Part 1, published on Friday, June 5th… Dakinis by their very essence, represent a transformational journey. The Dakini principle is found in all ancient and modern cultures. Thousands of years ago, before being swallowed by […]

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Dangerous Territory

posted by Donna Henes

Dedicated to Our Great Work in the world, and The Cosmic Cowgirls We are a tribe of truth tellers. Revolution makers. Movers and shakers of things that need moving and shaking. Like hips. And old ideas that need shaking off. […]

The Joys of Menopause – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

By Roseanne Barr Sure, menopause is hell. It saps your sex drive and puffs your ankles. But when it’s over, you’re calmer and more connected. Embrace it, sisters! After menopause, I discovered the joy of drinking wine, and of sinking […]

Mother’s Day Poem

posted by Donna Henes

“Arise, then, women of this day! Arise all women who have heart, whether our baptism be that of water or tears!” -Mother’s Day Proclamation, Julia Ward Howe, Boston , 1870 She couldn’t anticipate that we’d sip champagne at fancy brunches, […]

I think I Am Having a Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

I found this article on women24, but unfortunately cannot find an attribution for the writer. It is wise advice that proves you are never to young to become The Queen of Your Self: I’m turning 35 on Saturday and I’d […]

Breaking the Taboo about Menopause

posted by Donna Henes

Kim Cattrall talks on Canadian TV about Sensitive Skin, her new television show: Kim Cattrall talked this week about why she wants to give a voice to women our age and the changes and challenges we face. Kim Cattrall is […]

The Queen of Excuses

posted by Donna Henes

By Carol Nissenbaum My favorite episode of The Twilight Zone featured Burgess Meredith as a man who longed to read all the books in the world, but didn’t have the time. I was young and don’t remember the whole thing, […]

Life Begins at 42

posted by Donna Henes

Saint Hildegard’s Guide to Becoming a Midlife Powerfrau By Mary Sharratt We live in a youth-obsessed culture. The cosmetic industry pushes wrinkle creams and hair dye on us while celebrities resort to Botox and surgery to preserve an illusion of eternal […]

Friends for Life

posted by Donna Henes

I love working and playing in groups of women. I was never in a college sorority, so my first experience was in the feminist consciousness-raising group that I joined in the late 1960s. And what an eye-opening, empowering experience it […]

How to Deal With Your Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

By Miriam Slozberg When you hear about someone going through a midlife crisis, you usually think of that stereotypical scenario of some guy in his forties impulsively buying a sports car and dumping his wife for a younger woman. Well, […]

What Not to Wear After Age 50: The Final Say

posted by Donna Henes

By Michelle Combs Google ‘what not to wear after age 50′ and you will have your pick of thousands of articles telling you what looks terrible on your old ass body. I want to point out to the writer who […]

Waking Up at Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

By Sharon Blackie It used to be called the ‘midlife crisis’; sometime later, it became known as the ‘midlife transition’. Whatever you want to call it, it happens to us all, somewhere in the middle stages of our lives: usually […]

Mad

posted by Donna Henes

I am mad. No, that doesn’t begin to describe it. I am pissed. I am angry. I am irate. I am incensed. I am enraged. I am livid. I am FURIOUS. “All men are created equal,” states the Declaration of […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that 50 years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented in history. We are blessed with an inestimable gift of many more years of life than anyone who ever lived on Earth before us could […]

Take Care

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

A Self- Esteem Exercise

posted by Donna Henes

by Madisyn Taylor Having low self-esteem is a common issue and with some introspection you can start to loosen the grip of this negative thought pattern. Our primary relationship in life is with our selves. No one else goes through […]

Empress Energy: Extending Our Influence Out Into the World

posted by Donna Henes

The Queen is a mature woman who has conquered the challenges in Her life and claimed Her own royal power. She cuts through fear and ambivalence, takes charge, and establishes Herself as the sole ruler of Her Self. She has […]

Seasons of Beauty

posted by Donna Henes

By Madisyn Taylor As we cultivate our life, our beauty becomes as much about what we are creating and doing as it is about our appearance. We tend to associate youth with beauty, but the truth is that beauty transcends […]

Sacred Seclusion

posted by Donna Henes

Sacred Seclusion enables us to know, own, and honor ourselves as unique, individual entities. To admit our abilities and limitations, our talents and truculence on the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual planes, and love ourselves with compassion and no judgement […]

Broken Heart Work

posted by Donna Henes

A Message for those doing the hard work of heart work… by Shiloh McCloud When everything you think you know changes what do you do then? When all that you dreamed you might cause shifts what do you dream then? […]

Maenad Prophecy

posted by Donna Henes

When kings wage unjust war, When poison fills the skies, When the rich prey on the poor, When hope for justice dies When a spell lies o’er the land, Of malice and of lies, Then a wild and fearless band […]

Two Declarations of Self-Esteem By Queens

posted by Donna Henes

My Declaration of Self-Esteem I AM ME In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me Everything that comes out of me is authentically me Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me My […]

Protest is Good for You

posted by Donna Henes

The media likes to portray peace, environment and human and animal rights protesters as a fringe element of whining malcontents teetering on the margins of proper society. The truth is that those who step forward to speak their minds are […]

Letting Go

posted by Donna Henes

What do you need to let go of? I asked this question to the many Queens who have joined the Facebook page of The Queen of My Self. Q.  What have you have already released and what do you still […]

One For All and All For One Once and For All

posted by Donna Henes

Recently I was asked to speak about the shamanic point of view of team building with an emphasis on creating alliances and community. From a shamanic point of view it is redundant to think of reaching out to build teams, […]

Empresses of Influence

posted by Donna Henes

The Queen is a mature woman who has conquered the challenges in Her life and claimed Her own royal power. She cuts through fear and ambivalence, takes charge, and establishes Herself as the sole ruler of Her Self. She has […]

Affirmative Aging

posted by Donna Henes

As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand to […]

Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You need only to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours. When you truly possess all you have been and done, which may take some time, you are fierce with reality. -Florida Scott-Maxwell Each one of us […]

Becoming the Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Now It’s Your Turn!

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Lithe moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding like […]

The Queen: A Model for Midlife Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as daughter, wife, mother, lover? What exactly is our role […]

Lost and Found

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

Soul Friends

posted by Donna Henes

I love working and playing in groups of women. I was never in a college sorority, so my first experience was in the feminist consciousness-raising group that I joined in the late 1960s. And what an eye-opening, empowering experience it […]

Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.  […]

Peaches and Cream – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Peaches and Cream – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Beauty Redefined – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.  […]

Beauty Redefined – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Loving Our Bodies

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Cougar Queen – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

How to Survive a Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

by Carol Howard Merritt I was in the midst of that crisis of middle life. The one that made my eyes roll when I read of white women who felt they had no meaning. It always sounded like they inhabited a […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins   We all have a choice We always have a choice […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins Midlife crisis? What crisis? Tips on how to breeze through middle […]

An Empowering Mantra for Self-Esteem

posted by Donna Henes

Affirmations are positive statements that describe a desired situation or state of being. For example, “I am healthy, I radiate well being.” “I am a good and honorable person with a loving heart.” “I am capable beyond all measure.” Etc. Affirmations […]

What is Power?

posted by Donna Henes

With the question of power — its uses and abuses — on my mind, I reached out to the Facebook fans of The Queen of My Self to see what power means to other Queens of Themselves. Q. What does […]

Are You Ready?

posted by Donna Henes

I am fascinated (obsessed) by women’s relationship to power. It is the subject of my next book. The more I see, the more women I speak to, the more I realize that that relationship is on shaky ground. It is […]

The Empowered Woman

posted by Donna Henes

by Sonny Carroll  The Empowered Woman, she moves through the world with a sense of confidence and grace. Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom. Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation and the life […]

Deciding Times

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. These are terrible times of artificial division, manipulated resentment and palpable fear. The real dynamic being played out right now is not about warring religious, economic or […]

Becoming Our Own Role Models

posted by Donna Henes

by Madisyn Taylor There was a time where women stood together in a bond of sisterhood, women supporting women. As women embrace the fullness of who they are as individuals, they may find themselves supporting other women, helping others to […]

Speak Up!

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. In light of the widespread oppression, manipulation, intimidation that surrounds us today, we most certainly need to say something. There are signs everywhere in the subways of […]

The Great and Wise Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The mighty Queen, the great and wise, brave and compassionate woman ruler, the reigning commander of Her domain, is an expansive, expressive, accessible, energetic archetype who represents a mature female power, authority, responsibility and influence worthy of our emulation. There […]

The Sovereignty of Women

posted by Donna Henes

If you have not already gobbled up the books in The Maeve Chronicles by Elizabeth Cunningham, I urge you to do so instantly. The trilogy begins with The Passion of Mary Magdalene, which is a wonderful re-envisioning of Mary Magdlene […]

Embrace Your Majesty

posted by Donna Henes

Since I started my Midlife Midwife™ practice, I have received many requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen. “Dear Mama Donna,” women would write, “I want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my power? […]

I Like Me

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Queen of All That is Imperfect

posted by Donna Henes

Just a few days ago I wrote, “The word ‘practice’ also serves to remind us that there is no perfect. Whether we maintain a spiritual practice, a creative practice or a professional practice, we are always in the process of […]

Greeting To the Women of My Tribe

posted by Donna Henes

First, a note of thanks for the work you’ve done, bringing the Queen into so many women’s consciousness. It’s such important work! Thank you. I have been pondering the Queen aspect for some time now. I wrote this piece and […]

Coming Home to Our Self

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. http://www.benetvision.org/ Good timing, Sister Queen! Coming […]

A Time For Me

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Like the moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding […]

A Self-Meditation

posted by Donna Henes

Soul searching, like the practice of any devotion, requires solitude, quiet and quality time. But life is hectic and our inner needs have often been relegated to the bottom of our endless to-do lists, our dreams and desires deferred, left […]

It Can Be Hard to Be a Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Certainly the most crucial step toward sovereignty is to know our Selves. After all our years as mothers and others, we need to reestablish who we are as individuals, separate and distinct from our relationships with those around us. Who […]

Steps to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

The Queen in Your Inbox

posted by Donna Henes

I am about to publish the 67th issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each issue […]

An Archetype That Fits

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

Ancient 4 Fold Goddesses

posted by Donna Henes

A life-long lover of the moon, I live in a constant state of lunar awareness and I attend to the process of my life and living in conscious accordance with the cycle of its four phases. It has long troubled […]

Who Am I Now?

posted by Donna Henes

  Who Am I Now? Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated […]

Step Up & Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. – Erica Jong The story of our lives is ours to create. We can design our own roles and ideals, compose the […]

Let Your Power Out!

posted by Donna Henes

    Many of you have, I am sure, come across this fabulous writing many times. It speaks to the heart of the matter of women’s dysfunctional relationship to our own power. In my spiritual counseling as a Midlife Midwife™ […]

Balanced Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Empowerment Several time ago I asked the question “What does power mean to you?” This piece about the empowerment of women was sent to me by Kali Fyre, a sister Queen and reader of The Queen of My Self. It […]

Coming Home to the Self

posted by Donna Henes

Speaking of  Self-Sovereignty, here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. Good timing, Sister […]

Sovereignty is Hard!

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Answer Only to Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I Don’t Really Care What You Think Today, we see many women in public life, ranging the gamut from Hillary Clinton to Sharon Osborne, who have stepped out of the shadows of their husbands and families to pursue their own […]

Auntie Gravity – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

 Auntie Gravity – Part 2 An Antic Cronish Goddess by Barbara Ardinger, Ph.D. “An’ you jus’ start thinkin’ of them lines,” She says, “as your Auntie Gravity’s rainbows, an’ remember all the colors of what you done in your life. […]

A Senior (I Should Be So Brilliant) Moment

posted by Donna Henes

A Senior (I Should Be So Brilliant) Moment This is the Letter of the Year from The Times of London: An elderly lady actually wrote this letter to her bank. The bank manager thought it amusing enough and sent if […]

‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’

posted by Donna Henes

 ‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’ By Maggie Lamond Simone      “What do you want to do with your life?” It’s a question I ask my college students this time of year to help them define their goals, and I’m […]

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2 by Aleta Pippin Myth #3 You Will Become Crabby and Self-absorbed Some people are just plain rude and as they get older, they use their age as an excuse to […]

7 Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

7  Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1 by Aleta Pippin When I was 18, I thought I’d know everything. In my 20’s I thought I had to wear my hair above my jaw line to look […]

What Are Your Thoughts About Aging?

posted by Donna Henes

The process of maturing is an art to be learned, an effort to be sustained. By the age of fifty you have made yourself what you are, and if it is good, it is better than your youth. ~Marya Mannes […]

Tend and Befriend

posted by Donna Henes

“Men walk, women talk.” The veracity of this the popular saying was recently proved in a landmark study conducted by two women scientists at UCLA. The long-held idea that the familiar “fight or flight“ mechanism was the universal human response […]

Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

My post Wednesday  was about the Self,  in which I wrote, “The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid Self transcends time and […]

Selfhood

posted by Donna Henes

What Exactly is the Self? The Self, according to Carl Jung, is the center, the midpoint of the personality, the crossroads where our personal and collective, conscious and unconscious processes intersect. The Self encompasses the totality of who we are. […]

Lost & Found in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Her long walk led to a period of concentrated inner questioning about what she, one person, could do in the cause of peace. This midlife meditation culminated in her experiencing a powerful spiritual vision, an undeniable epiphany. She came to […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I have found my favorite model of the Queen in the life of a remarkable woman known as Peace Pilgrim who devoted almost thirty years of her life to walking and talking for peace. Born Mildred Lisette Norman in 1908 […]

Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 2 The Internationalization of Women’s Issues By Luisita Lopez Torregrosa Published: January 8, 2013   Separately, the Women in the World Foundation, which will have its fourth annual conference in New York City […]

Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a very hopeful and heartening piece about the strides women are making worldwide. It is long. Look for the second half in my next post.   Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 1 The Internationalization of Women’s Issues […]

Say Something!

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. In light of the widespread oppression, manipulation, intimidation that surrounds us today, we need to say something. There are signs everywhere in the subways of New York […]

Resolutions for Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  Like the excellent mother, creator, organizer, administrator, mentor you are, be patient with yourself. Change is slow and you are human. Think about your daily habits. Are they healthy? Are they helpful? What improvements might you make in your […]

I Am the New Year

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Sister Queens, I am back! I took a leave of absence to deal with the immediate and then the long-term effects of Hurricane Sandy. I am glad to say that all is well with me now. And I am […]

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

The One Flaw In Women   Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They […]

The Blessing of Not Being Perfect

posted by Donna Henes

  The blessing of not being perfect  by Sister Joan Chittister   Humanity is a mixture of blunders. That’s what makes it so charming, so interesting to be around. Because none of us is complete, we all need one another. […]

Just Imagine!

posted by Donna Henes

 Imagine a Woman By Patricia Lynn Reilly   Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman. A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories. Who refuses to carry the sins of others […]

Some Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

  I have taken this ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Page on Facebook.   Q. What does being a Queen mean to you ? A. As a little girl I […]

The Steep Path to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

The Midlife Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

Advice From a Wise One

posted by Donna Henes

Here is some wisdom from the fabulous Maya Angelou:   EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…   One old love she can imagine going back to… and one who reminds her how far she has come… enough money within her control to […]

Have You Seen The Queen’s Chronicles?

posted by Donna Henes

  I am about to publish the 53rd issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly Ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each […]

Words from the (Self) Wise

posted by Donna Henes

We are the Queens of our Self. What does that mean? What is the Self? The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid […]

You Can Become The Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Every Woman Is The Queen of Her Own Heart

posted by Donna Henes

Every Woman Is The Queen of Her Own Heart By Shiloh Sophia McCloud Every woman is the Queen of her own heart. She must decide how to govern her own domain. She seeks friends and allies that honor who she […]

Queen Regnant

posted by Donna Henes

QUEEN REGNANT PRONUNCIATION: (kween REG-nuhnt) MEANING: noun: A queen reigning in her own right, as opposed to one having a royal title by marriage. Also known as queen regent. ETYMOLOGY: From Latin regnare (reign). Ultimately from the Indo-European root reg- […]

A Midlife Archetype

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

I Am Not a Crone — Yet

posted by Donna Henes

Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated with me because it belies […]

Welcome Queens!

posted by Donna Henes

Queen Sue Kearny of Oakland, California is the winner of The Queen of My Self book giveaway. Congratulations!   Welcome Queens! Are you in your middle years or about to enter them? Are you living your true potential and following […]

I’m Back!

posted by Donna Henes

Hail Queens! After writing for Beliefnet for several years, I took a much-needed 6-month leave of absence (which I am sure you noticed!) Thanks so much for checking in while I was gone. In appreciation, I am offering a special […]

Red-Robed Priestess

posted by Donna Henes

Another book that I cannot praise enough is Red-Robed Priestess  by Elizabeth Cunningham, author of the preceding three books in the acclaimed Maeve Chronicles. After a life of passion and adventure that has brought her through slavery to the Resurrection […]

Goddess On Earth

posted by Donna Henes

Winter is a great time to catch up on reading. I have a pile of books by my bed that I want to read, that I intend to read, but am too busy to read. Well, with only 12 days […]

Resolutions You Actually Keep

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

My Own Best Friend

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Another Valentine Message

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Valentine Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day and I was sick. I have been working seven-day weeks for a while now and I am beat. Yesterday I woke with a nasty cold, which lasted only 24 hours, amazingly. But it left me completely […]

On Valentines and Vulvas

posted by Donna Henes

  From the beginning, women were exalted as the image, the echo, the counterpart companion of the Goddess. Their access to ecstasy, imbued with spiritual significance. As priestesses, they tended the fires and fanned the generative flames from Her sex, […]

Hard Work of Heart Work

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

The Garlic Lady in February

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Our Lady of the Growing Light

posted by Donna Henes

February 2 marks the exact halfway point of winter. Along with the two equinoxes, two solstices and the three other seasonal midpoints, it is one of the eight energy-filled sacred days in the pagan calendar. Purification is the recurrent mythic […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self Love Quotes

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self Now

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Be Good To You

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Meditation for the Fully Realized Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  Blessings, one and all, for a New Year filled with promise. May you continue along your path to Self-sovereignty with purpose, passion, and power. With Queenly aplomb.   May you live as a Fully Realized Woman. With blessings of […]

Into the Darkness

posted by Donna Henes

Into the Darkness By Max Dashu, CA I love December. It’s a powerful time to absorb knowledge, write, create art, chant, dance. To conjoin and celebrate, feast and rejoice in community or – my great pleasure at this season – […]

The Empowered Woman

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Unfinished

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Emerging Maturity – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Boomer Women Trends

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles, poems, and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is a subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

MidLife Crisis: Life Renewed

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women.  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

A New Life – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A New Life – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A New Life – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

‘ I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

When Everything You Think You Know Changes

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Birthday Declaration of Independence – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

You Think You Are Not Enough

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

The Awakening – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Today is the Day

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

To Make A Difference

posted by Donna Henes

  I just came across this touching testament to the power of one person’s devotion to peace. It is the perfect wrap up for this week’s posts about 9/11.There IS still a chance for peace!   To Make A Difference […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for the next while. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

Begin Again

posted by Donna Henes

  Fall always feels like New Year to me. It carries so much more significance than does January 1. The first crisp hint of a chill in September always shakes me out of my summer lethargy, wakes me, makes me […]

Have a Love Affair with Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

What Could Be More Sexy?

posted by Donna Henes

    It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever […]

Sex Goddess

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Anoint Your Self for Pleasure

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Good Vibrations – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

    It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever […]

Masturbation Queen

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Homage to My Hips

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

All About Eve’s Garden

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Sexy Brain

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

The Beauty Of A Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

In Praise of Older Women

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3 By Evelyn Lim www.abundancetapestry.com 10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

A Lot of Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

According to Dr. Ruth

posted by Donna Henes

  Why do women over 50 lose their sex drive? By Dr Ruth Westheimer    Q. Why do a large percentage of women over 50 lose their sex drive? It is not just my wife, but many others that I […]

Peaches – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

I Am

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Redefining Beauty – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Redefining Beauty – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Loving Our Bodies

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Desert Cougar Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article […]

Poem for the Woman Who Doesn’t Want a Daughter

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   Poem for the Woman […]

Calendar Girls

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   In 1998 Angela Baker […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Phenomenal Woman

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

How I Transformed My Life After 50 – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

How I Transformed My Life After 50 – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

Where Womyn Gather

posted by Donna Henes

  Congratulations to the winners of The Queen of My Self book giveaway: Terri Miller, FL Anna Mills, OH Clara Vaughan, MO Enjoy!   June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride […]

Our Deepest Fear

posted by Donna Henes

We have now passed the milestone of 250 posts on this Queen blog! Hurray! To celebrate, I will give away 3 signed copies of The Queen of My Self to the first 3 readers who request one. thequeenofmyself@aol.com June is […]

Audrey Hepburn’s Beauty Tips

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

What Are Your Experiences of Beauty and Age?

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

On Beauty and Age – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Calling all Queens, Empresses and Ladies in Waiting

posted by Donna Henes

Calling all Queens, Empresses and Ladies in Waiting, The Queen is coming to Syracuse, New York on May 14 for a wonderful day at the fabulous Sanctuary Spa. If you have friends in the area, I would greatly appreciaten your […]

Interview with a Canadian Queen – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

I recently attended a talk by Canadian author Catherine Gildiner and was quite taken with her good humored wisdom. When I read her book, After the Falls: Coming of Age in the 60s (Viking, 2010), I was hooked. She graciously […]

Interview with a Canadian Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I recently attended a talk by Canadian author Catherine Gildiner and was quite taken with her good humored wisdom. When I read her book, After the Falls, I was hooked. She graciously allowed me to interview her and I would […]

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