Prayer, Plain and Simple

Prayer, Plain and Simple


A Prayer for a Family Grieving the Death of a Child

posted by Mark Herringshaw

Who can explain a child’s suffering?

This week an 18-month old child died in St. Paul, Minnesota when equipment malfunctioned at a chiropractor’s office. The small boy crawled under the spine therapy table to which his mother was strapped and pushed an electronic button that brought the table down on him.

Tragic. Senseless. Heart breaking. “Why?” No one can answer…

 In times like this we must choose – move away from God, or move toward God.

Today, we pray for families grieving the loss of a child.

“God, bring comfort and peace. Peace is your essence. Peace is your name. Bring peace to this family who has lost their precious child in death.

We come to you, God because we know that you sorrow, and are acquainted with grief. You too have endured the loss of a child. You empathize.

We can’t help but ask, “Why?” Forgive our insistence, our confusion, even our anger. We believe that you are just, and we ache to understand how this tragic death is an expression of that justice, how it expresses your love. We also know – in our minds at least – that you seldom answer the “why?” question. We press you, but on these matters you are mostly silent.

What we ask instead is “how?” How can we move forward? How can this bring us together and not tear us apart? How can we now live under the shadow of this untimely death? Answer this prayer with your comfort and guidance.

There is no way to remove the pain. The grief is real. The only sanity is to know, to believe, in a life beyond with you, when all the scales are righted and the sufferings are made good. We trust you and your promise that while this child’s life on earth is done, his life beyond has just begun. With that release we lose him and let him go into your arms, then by faith receive in return the boundless comfort of your presence. That is all, that is enough. In Jesus.”



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kim Mays

    I’ve been reading prayers, quotes, messages, and stories from this site religiously, since my son was killed, January 10, 2010. He was only twenty-two years old at the time of his murder, and I continue to grieve for him daily. Sometimes, I read things that are sent to my emails from this site, and think they’re special messages that God wants me to have. I have always been a believer in God’s word, only I knew very little before that night. On the night my son died, I met God for the first time. I felt His presence so strongly. From that moment on, I have stuck by Him, through sadness, anger, confusion, and pain. I speak to Him now as if we are having coffee together. When I shouted out to Him for comfort, I literally felt as though someone was holding me in their arms. I can’t say why God chose my son so soon, and before me. I only know that He had His reasons, and I trust Him. My life had grown closer to Him through faith, but I still hurt so much. I know that my pain would ease up, if I was ready to give it to Him completely. For now, I’m not ready to let that part go. I can’t explain why, but I’m sure God knows the answer to that, and He’s still here, waiting. I’m scared to stop hurting, for so many reasons, but why, I can’t be exactly sure. There were times, in the beginning, that Satan tried hard to take me. I just wanted my life over! After careful planning to do this, I broke down and wept as my insides felt this overwhelming since of betrayal. Betrayal to God. It was at that very moment that I asked God to place a shield of protection over me and my family, so that Satan could not touch us. God has done just that. My life is still pretty messed up, but I’m still here, and that speaks volume to me about what God does for us. I just want our family to find some happiness again. I’ve been so selfish, not asking God to remove this pain, just so we can get some of our life back again. I ask that you pray for my family to somehow find this happiness. I feel too guilty, betraying my son who’s gone, asking for this. I know that God allows others to assist us in times when we are in need. I can’t imagine a greater need than this in our family. Maybe I’m going about this the wrong way, but my heart still aches, and yet I can’t let go, and my family needs this.
    God knows all that we are going through, He knows my feelings. In my heart I believe that I need someone to assist me in this prayer, not because He won’t hear me, but I’m too scared to make that choice just yet. Thank you for the site. It’s truly been an aid in my healing during so many days. Kim

  • http://prayingforyouKim melissa

    I pray for you at this terriable time in life that God gives you the strength to moe foward… You are a inspiration to so many & may GOd truely bless you…. as I as you to pray for me & my family as well… Life sometimes is hard to understand but knowing God is beside us makes it woth the strive…….hugs & prays for you & all that have lost a child it is the worst place to be in life.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment HH

    God Bless you and your family, trust in the Lord with all your heart. He is your shield and your strength at all moments; the Lord will always guide, protect and love you and your family. The Lord will grant you and your family joyful and beautiful things that only those immersed in the love of God will experience. Persevere, don’t let go, our Lord has a purpose.

    God bless you and continue to develop your relation with our Lord and God.

    Below is a nice prayer that works for me:

    The Serenity Prayer
    God, give us grace to accept with serenity
    the things that cannot be changed,
    courage to change the things
    which should be changed,
    and the wisdom to distinguish
    the one from the other.
    Living one day at a time,
    Enjoying one moment at a time,
    Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
    Taking, as Jesus did,
    This sinful world as it is,
    Not as I would have it,
    Trusting that You will make all things right,
    If I surrender to Your will,
    So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
    And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
    Amen.

    Amen

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Ellen

    Kim –
    I know why you are holding on to your pain. It was explained during my brohter’s eulogy. We hold on to the pain because we are scared if we let it go, we are letting go of our loved one. We feel like we are being disloyal letting go of that pain. At first the pain comforts us. It assures us and everyone around of how much we love the one we lost. But eventually we need to realize that letting go of the pain does not dishonor our loved one, nor does it make us forget them. I found that each time I grieve for my brother (which I still do 16 years after his death) I work to remember a joyful time with him. Or I do something to help others in his name. My brother was such a joy and a delight to be around. I try to be a representative of that joy, so that others know how much I love him through my smiles, not my tears. I promise you, this helps. It takes diligence and discipline. But now I love telling people of my very beloved brother, and they can see his joy and laughter and complete love of life. I pray this helps you somewhat.

  • http://www.deathletters.org/ Andi Smidth

    My heart goes out to this child and his family. I cannot help but get teary eyed here. I believe going through a difficult time could be a little bit easier if you share it with somebody else who are going through the same thing. I thought I’d share http://www.deathletters.org as it might help to know there are other people who are going through the death of a loved one.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Karie

    My children lost their 16 yr old friend in a car accident yesterday morning. Such a difficult time, I cannot comprehend how her parents will go on. Prayers to her family and those who mourn her loss. Mariah Lloyd, you’ll never be forgotten.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment marnie cantway

    To my sister Christina..losing 2 children last march My family is forever changed..angels watch over 2..love Auntie

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Rosa Milecky

    Thank you for such a wonderful prayer. I recently lost my great nephew last night, July 2, 2013, of 3 years to an unexpected drowning. May the words of God penetrate my neices heart and give her strength to overcome her great loss…love Aunt Rosa

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Alisha

    My mother in law hate me so much that she wanted me out of my husband house because i have been unable to give her a grandchild i never knew what to do one day when i was at my working place a friend of my told me about how she had a spell cast on her by this man named Adodo and after which her life came back to normal so i chosen to give him a trier which i did contacted him on his email: dradodojattotemple@yahoo.com after which he get back to me and told me what i need to do and also how my problem was going to be solve and after 1month i started seeing changes in me i and so happy now that i can now give birth to my own child and my mother in law is now happy with me since i have been pregnant for her son

  • http://PrayerforTommyJonesandFamily Jacque

    Tonight a boy I went to school with, my boyfriend’s cousin, lost his wife and 1 year old baby to a car accident. It was senseless and tragic. He is 21, and may never walk again from his injuries. Please pray for him and his family, they are broken. It is so utterly senseless. I lost my best friend, a girl of 19, to a car accident in July. I like to think now that she is watching over us, and I pray she guides mother and child into heaven. Please pray for this family, I cannot imagine the pain they’re in right now.

  • http://GodHasProvided Remembering Jennifer Shea McGee

    To my dear friend AJ,
    God always provides us with what we need. This I hold to be true in all things.
    You were sent by God to be my loving friend during my struggle with grief. I know this is true. You have stood strong, right by my side, and in my heart, during more than two years now. You never falter in providing love, support, and all the many hours you have spent in making sure my daughter is never forgotten.
    The work you have done on Shea’s memorial websites is an incredible gift I can never repay, because it would never be enough. My heart is full when I see what you have created online with all the beautiful pictures and words about my child. How could I not love you?
    I feel your presence always, holding me up, and reminding me that Shea is near.
    I love you and I thank you. I thank God he put you in my life.
    This is a beautiful website. Thanks for posting it on my baby’s site. I hope others will visit so they too can find the peace that only belief in God’s words provide.
    Forever and always, much love and peace.
    Kat

  • Michelle Johns

    hello,my name is michelle and my 3 year old son cayden passed away august 14th 2014 after a 13 month battle with a very rare form of cancer,i do not know where to turn,im so depressed,and heartbroken..,i need to talk to other parents that have lost a child..please pray for me,please help!!!!

    • Melinda Portillo

      Hi Michelle I lost my son 2 years ago on Sept the 8th as well you can add me on fb if you have onemelinda portillo or email me melportillo@email.com

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