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Kick Tush Tuesday: 7 Tips – What to Do When Feeling Judged?

smile therapyEvery so often, someone says something to me about my newly found thinness that is upsetting and sends me reeling. (Yes, it’s been twelve years since I permanently removed over 50 pounds, but it still feels newly found. Until I have lived more years thin than fat, I believe that I will consider myself newly thin.)

Attacks have been made on my weigh-of-life – some critical of my eating style, some critical of my tight jeans, some lash out over my arched eyebrows, some don’t love my big hair (the nerve!).

When we change in any way, shape or form, it can upset another’s apple cart. Change tends to unnerve people.


The attacker is more than likely overcome by a flurry of uncomfortable feelings. If they feel threatened by your new lifestyle, your new svelteness, your beauty, your calm, your fabulous hair … anything … they may lash out. Their emotions are spilling out and over.

What to do when Judged:
7 Tips ~

  1. Stay cool man, real cool. – No point in escalating the negative vibes.
  2. Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you. You are not responsible for the attackers issues.
  3. Do NOT counter attack. If you feel compelled to say something, simply express how you felt when they said what they said. You do not want to escalate the ‘war.’
  4. Take in a deep breath. Breathe out an audible “Haaaaaaaaa.”
  5. Smile. Send a friendly signal.
  6. Walk away.  If still frustrated, angry, ready to return the attack, simply walk away.
  7. Remember:  You cannot control other people’s actions, but you can control your own.

What’s your ‘stay cool’ strategy?  For tips, utterly useful conversation and love, join Our Lady of Weight Loss’s Club:  Kick in the Tush Club/FB.Deliciously yours,


Janice Taylor
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