Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. – Anais Nin
I hope this absolutely spectacular October morning finds you happy! October might be my favorite month. It’s no longer hot, nor is it cold. A simple sweater will do ya’. The leaves are turning unbelievably beautiful shades of orange, yellow and red, and pumpkins are beginning to pop up in front of buildings and in people’s windows. Love it!!!
What makes you happy? I have to tell you that being HAPPY about something (anything!); focusing your attention on things that make you smile is a HUGE part of permanent weight removal! Your success formula is 80% attitude/20% food. In fact, ‘happy’ is my advice for T.
T., Tushkateer extraordinaire, writes, “Of course, when I decide it’s time for a lifestyle change, I just eat more. I have caught myself on numerous occasions sitting down in the evening with a glass of milk and 6 cookies. I don’t want to diet just to lose it and gain it back again.
I am so sick of trying to buy clothes. I am embarrassed that I am so fat. I am 4’11 and weigh 277#’s. I can hardly zip my jeans, I have to special order bras. I sweat constantly, so I feel like I stink. There is so much I need to change, but I can’t be a failure again.
I am 52, the same age my father was when he had his first heart attack. I have thought about surgery but we both know if you eat like a fat person after you get it done then you’ll just gain weight again. I guess my question is where do I start and more importantly how. Thank you, T.
Dear T., First, I want to thank you for putting it on the page! Telling your truth; not sugar-coating it- not throwing a ‘happy blanket’ on top of a basement of misery. You are where you are (can only be where you are) and that’s where you are going to start.
First step for you: Each and every day make note (as in write down in journal/on paper) of your best 5 moments. This is NOT a gratitude journal. BEST moments aren’t necessarily the greatest moments of your life; they are simply the best for the day. On a stressful day, perhaps my BEST moment is climbing into bed, and saying, “Ahhhhh! clean sheets.” We’re just making note of the BEST moments. 5 of them. Why 5? Because – negative thoughts are sticky. Positive thoughts not so sticky. They have a Teflon quality to them. By ‘looking for’ best moments, you will train your mind to see the positive in life. You will begin to feel good about life and yourself. Feeling good about your life and yourself is weigh important, isn’t it?!
Write down 5 BEST moments every day (at night is good; review the day scanning for best moments). Do it today, tomorrow, for the week, for the month, for the year … and see what miracles can present themselves! Let us know how it goes!!! ~ Janice, speaking on B1/2 of OLofWL
You guys can do it, too, you know. Keep a long ever-growing list of your BEST moments and then, watch out. A miracle is on the weigh-in!
Spread the word … NOT the icing!
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