by Paul Griffin
My partner Erin and I had a baby girl six months ago, and largely because of little Iris’s existence I’ve had more trouble getting to the cushion recently than in all my seven or so years of meditation practice. Yet, paradoxically, I feel I have had to access my better meditative self more than ever over this past half year. Meaning, I find myself resorting more and more often to mindfulness in the moment, to meditation in action. With the intense demands of child-rearing that my little angel has brought into my life, I find I need my meditative instinct more than ever.
We talk about meditation in action, but what does that really mean? Well, as I was rocking my baby to sleep for her midday nap today, I found myself brainstorming the top ten times I resort to meditation in the moment. So, for fun, I thought I’d offer these meditative moments today in this blog post. I hope you feel inspired to add your own personal meditation in action momentsto the list!
1. Rocking My Baby To Sleep
I have learned from experience that when I am rocking my baby to sleep I often have to release the tension in my own body, I have to practice some body breathing, before my baby will fall off to sleep. It’s an amazing phenomenon. The more relaxed I am, the quicker she falls asleep.
2. Subway Posture
When I sit down on the subway, I am constantly checking my posture. After I sit, nice and upright, I often do a kind of ten-points practice, meaning, I check in with ten parts of my body (two feet, two halves of the backside, tailbone, spine, two hands, chin, and the top of my head) to assure that I am assuming good posture.
As a private tutor, I am forever sitting down with students in the study. After I give a student a few problems to work through on her own, I almost always decide to take a few moments while I wait to check in with my breath and settle more deeply into my surroundings.
Writing is a big one. When I sit down at the writing desk, I always meditate first. I more or less can no longer write without at least a few moments of shamatha. I once read that before writing Salinger would lie down supine on the floor, and that he often spent entire days down there, never actually managing to write a single word.
Conversation is another huge opportunity for me. I have a bad habit of tending to dominate a conversation, of tending to want to steer it in my own chosen direction. When I find myself doing this, I stop and I listen. Also, if the conversation is particularly intense, say with someone who is in serious pain, tonglen is key.
Elevators are so, so strange. So I meditate in them, probably just adding to the strangeness.
7. Interviews/Important Moments
The other day the company I tutor for was featured on NBC News, so I was filmed while tutoring a student. As I approached the door to my office, I first did a round of lungta breathing, a kind of focused breathwork designed to lift one’s windhorse, one’s positive energy and confidence. This is the kind of natural meditation that people do all the time (whether they call it meditation or not).
8. Feeding/Dressing/Playing With Iris
Pretty much everything I do with Iris ultimately becomes a practice in patience, in mindfulness, in sinking into the moment. The moments I am most present with Iris and her emotions are the most joyful moments I’ve ever known.
At dathun last winter, I received drinking practice instruction from my teacher. Now, every time I pick up a beer or a glass of Jameson, I practice. I smell it first, letting the aroma linger in my nose. Then I sip, really tasting the complex flavors. Then I drink mindfully, and I always try to keep my mindfulness as the evening wears on!
Really, the more I think about it, the more I see how my meditation practice seeps into every waking moment: walking home from the subway (not too quickly), doing the dishes (with care and attention to detail), eating dinner (not in a single mouthful), etc. But it is with sleeping that I practice most consistently. Every night, I do a body scan, I sink into the earth, I follow my breath. (But I don’t do dream yoga anymore because remembering my dreams was freaking me out.) I suppose since I don’t have anyone to rock me to sleep, I meditate.
Anyhow, it’s not like I bless every single slab of concrete on the sidewalk before I walk on it, but I do try to always maintain a sacred sense of the world. That’s what meditation in action means to me. What does meditation in action mean to you?