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The “Being” in Human Being

posted by kjackson

This morning when Joe was getting up to go to work I mumbled incoherently “I’ve been to hell and back in one night”. Yes, I am a drama queen and that was an overstatement, but it was pretty awful. Any parent can relate to this:

Last night, just as I drifted off to sleep after an incredibly busy day, a little girl came to my bed, “Mom? My tummy hurts” (Don’t panic. It was Easter Candy Consumption issues.) and that was the beginning of the end. I offered the love, the compassion, the Tylenol (is there *any* medication for under-12-year-old tummy aches?), and the couch. Thirty minutes later she returned…and again…and again. Finally, I simply moved to the couch with her. When I would start to drift off, she would cry…or moan…or whimper. Once when I got quiet, she startled awake, “MOM! Oh….I just thought you had left!” This went on for three hours…followed by the inevitable vomiting…followed by an hour clean-up. And then, after she crawled up in her bed–fully healed, glory Hallelujah!–and fell in to a deep slumber, I *of course* couldn’t sleep.

This morning I wake very late to find her humming a little tune as she chomps on her cereal! She looks up brightly, “Good morning, Mom!” I just had to laugh. “Umm….how about a ‘thank you, Mom’ for last night’s love and support?” She giggles, “Yeah…I was trying to think how to say that…”

But here’s the thing. I didn’t DO anything. I had no magical cure. Heck, I didn’t even have the appropriate medicine! I felt so helpless and ineffective. Yet she wanted me there…begged for me to be there and panicked if I wasn’t. What was I to her in those hours? I was simply being.  My being was with her being and there was great comfort in that. So many times I get caught up with what I can do or what I can say but many times the hurting people in my life just need me to BE.  Most children have a grasp of this and know to ask for it. My child even said so eloquently, “I just feel better with you here”. Adults, however, sometimes have a hard time asking for it.

It gives meaning to the phrase “just be there for me”.

And so I take a deep breath… let go of my perceived wisdom, abilities, talents, information…and determine to simply “be there” for the people in my life….

 



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your northern friend

posted April 30, 2011 at 1:42 am


try a little bit of coke (real stuff not diet) or dr. pepper for tummy aches. You can also buy a cola syrup that works sometimes on sick tummies for little ones.



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    kjackson

    posted April 30, 2011 at 8:12 am


    I suggested this one but she didn’t go for it….



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Tanna

posted April 28, 2011 at 2:31 pm


I like the simplicity of this. I like to simplify life. You did this so well in your blog. Thanks



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    kjackson

    posted April 29, 2011 at 10:08 am


    Thank you, Tanna! Yes, I’m always trying to think of how to pare life down to the best parts :)



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Andrea

posted April 27, 2011 at 8:50 pm


Ah! so true. We just need to “be.” We don’t need to try to fix all the time. I will remember that today and just be there for the people in my life.



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    kjackson

    posted April 28, 2011 at 8:49 am


    Since I had been up all night, I didn’t write this one until noon….I like how it still managed to start your day! That’s the only advantage to having you across the ocean, Girl! Miss you. I was thinking some more about this blog yesterday and I remember reading in some book about how after a tragedy there was a group of women who would go to the peoples’ house and just sit. Just be there. For hours. Crocheting on the couch.



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vi

posted April 27, 2011 at 2:25 pm


I am a teacher, not a nurse, but I gave one to my world and that has been very helpful for many. And I did clean up after them often because that is what mothers do. Carry on!URL



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    kjackson

    posted April 27, 2011 at 4:19 pm


    Mom, you were always good about “being there” when I was sick.



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