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Part of the development of character in a human being — which can only be nourished by humility — is a growing recognition of how totally and undeniably they have missed the mark. There is only one way that a […]

The false self, ever-pursuing or struggling to protect the dream of its imagined sense of importance, doesn’t care who or what it picks a fight with; all that matters to this divided self is that it finds someone or something […]

Many times the very thing we want from those we are with—for example, respect, patience, or a just little tenderness—is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise somehow are withholding from them. The “catch” […]

Judging yourself, or others… seems to prove the presence of an innocent “you” — someone superior to the inferior character now being condemned. But reproving yourself, or others… is actually the avoidance of seeing yourself as you are in that […]

You never again have to wonder why people behave as they do… once you learn to watch the way you are (around them).

Question: How do I let go of my disappointments with other people, including my wish to punish them for any pain or sorrow I still feel due to my relationship with them? Answer: We can never hope to be free […]

We can never hope to be free as long as any part of us struggles with, or suffers over what others are doing, have done, or won’t do with their lives. If we could remain aware of the often-compromised state […]

How many men or women do you know that when a fight has begun – or even in the middle of one – they suddenly see and agree that to blame the other person for the state that they are […]

Our resistance to any evil or otherwise corrupt character — regardless of circumstance — proves the presence of an unseen similarity; there can be no recognition of any exterior degraded nature that isn’t born of our interior resonation with it. Which means…any […]

One way to prevent yourself from going through a considerable amount of useless pain is to see the truth of the following, and then to act upon your discovery accordingly: judging others doesn’t change how much they disturb you; it […]