Guy Finley explains that the only way to genuinely help a loved one who is suffering is by first learning to bear the pain their suffering brings up within us.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about what it means to let go of something without needing to know beforehand the outcome of that sacrifice.
Question: Any thoughts on what is a good way to share my spiritual work with my kids? Answer: Be as consciously kind as you can be, which means to not express (but watch instead) your negative states. Be as encouraging […]
Hoping to help someone — who loves to be negative — see the harm of being identified with dark states, is like trying to teach a bat to appreciate sunlight, or a mud hen to preen in fresh clean waters.
Wishing for freedom is like wishing on a star: until we learn what it means to personally reach out and help produce that brighter world we envision for ourselves and others, we remain little more than armchair architects — those […]
So many people want to know, “What can I do for someone who is troubled, who comes to me for answers, or a way out of their pain?” And then, though rarely added to their question, what they don’t state […]
In this extraordinary short talk, Guy Finley talks about how each and every small act of doing what we know is true, no matter what the cost, changes the entire world. Click the following links to listen to this talk: […]
Selfishness has many forms; and there are many parts of us that do not want us to even suspect how deep and dark run their immoral fiber. I had an email from a student saying that there are some things […]
As we try to “show” others the state of their interior life, by acting as what we think is a mirror for them, i.e., by telling them how much fear they have, how mistaken they are with present choices, the […]
Here is a simple suggestion to help transform your life into its native Light. Remember that any (and every) attempt you make to manifest spiritual Light is itself a form of prayer — one that always receives an answer: Use […]
Question: It’s said that when you help others, you’re actually helping yourself. Can you explain why that’s true? Answer: We share an uncommon possibility as human beings, but the uncommon possibility that we share comes from the fact that we […]
You teach others (and yourself) when you do not react in alarm to some potentially frightening news or event. The people around you receive the lesson that those events, of themselves, have not the power to make or break the […]
Question: How can you stay peaceful when you are with people whose lives are really in distress, especially when they are close to you? Answer: You must ask yourself a different question. I’d suggest the following: What could be more […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how real compassion is the fruit of the mind that awakens to where it is harming itself. Click here to listen to “The Birth of True Compassion”
In the end, the kindest thing we can do for others is to always remember – as best we can – that within each of us lives the one true source of understanding, of compassion and love, and then strive […]
Any burden shared isn’t just half the burden — but a burden made lighter for all who agree to carry it; the unthinkable truth is that if everyone agreed to carry just a little more, everyone would carry a little […]
In this extraordinary short talk, Guy Finley talks about how each and every small act of doing what we know is true, no matter what the cost, changes the entire world. Click here to listen to “Learn to Be the […]
At the secret heart of every relationship we’re drawn into is the fact that we are brought into that relationship for the purpose of discovering ourselves. That man, that woman, that career, that possibility stands as a mirror in which […]
The best we can do for others, to help make their lives brighter, begins with the work of enlightening ourselves. In this manner — from our first tentative steps toward a life in the Light, all the way to the […]
Question: Should we try to help someone with their spiritual development, or must they be “receptive”? What mistake can there be in presenting a few truths to others with the hope that the ideas strike a right chord within them? […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can use everything that we encounter in our relationships with others to change ourselves. Click here to listen to this podcast “Use Unkind Acts to Help Create a New World”
It is so important that we do our correct part to help spread the Light, but this need not be a “big thing.” And as long as we remain considerate of others, and what may be their wish to be […]
Question: Recently a relative asked to live with us. The moment we heard from her, I sensed she was to help me with something. Two weeks later we were talking, she started to cry, and said she had had an […]
Stressful worry helps no one — not those we are concerned about, and certainly not us. Such worry heals nothing; instead, it hurts all who mistake its dark embrace as a path to empowerment. The only thing worry serves is […]
The only kind of “thanks” you can expect from others who see that you’ve decided to serve something higher than your own self-centered interests — including bringing an end to your previous support of their inflated self images — is […]
If we wish to live without resentments that linger in our hearts and rid ourselves of fear with all of its debilitating limitations, we must shed the skin of our selfishness. We must learn what it means to consciously suffer […]
There are times when the greatest act of kindness we can express towards another human being is to swallow our own sadness, or to refuse to make that sarcastic or impatient remark. Acts of kindness such as these cost us […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can experience truer, brighter, more meaningful relationships with everyone we meet once we learn to put the needs of others before our own.