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The false self, ever-pursuing or struggling to protect the dream of its imagined sense of importance, doesn’t care who or what it picks a fight with; all that matters to this divided self is that it finds someone or something […]

Many times the very thing we want from those we are with—for example, respect, patience, or a just little tenderness—is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise somehow are withholding from them. The “catch” […]

Judging yourself, or others… seems to prove the presence of an innocent “you” — someone superior to the inferior character now being condemned. But reproving yourself, or others… is actually the avoidance of seeing yourself as you are in that […]

Question: How do I let go of my disappointments with other people, including my wish to punish them for any pain or sorrow I still feel due to my relationship with them? Answer: We can never hope to be free […]

In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the absolute fact that it is never too late to open yourself up to the possibility of being a better human being and having an authentic relationship with real life.  

Violence is how ignorance answers the conflict and pain that is born out of what it causes without understanding this fact.

Question: When I look at myself, it seems that my most prevalent emotion is anger. It’s always there. I frequently find myself caught up in what you call “mental movies,” remembering all the cruelty and unfairness that seem to justify […]

Before we can know a happiness beyond the reach of conflict or sorrow, we must ourselves be whole; for any happiness apart from self-wholeness is only half a happiness and must, in time, prove itself so.

In any moment of conflict that we can remember to remember ourselves (and the Supreme) we may still have to go through that struggle, but by our inner work we have chosen the “high side” of it. This conscious choice […]

No individual relationship is the (sole) cause of one’s conflict or pain; our relationships reveal the nature of an unconscious pain that we bring into them with us. To start discerning the difference between these (two) perceptions is the beginning […]