Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


Helping Others Consciously

posted by Guy Finley

As we try to “show” others the state of their interior life, by acting as what we think is a mirror for them, i.e., by telling them how much fear they have, how mistaken they are with present choices, the extent to which being identified with their negative energy betrays them, etc., we actually create nothing but resistance in them. The reason this happens to us and with others, as it does, is as follows.

A mirror never tries to reflect the objects in it; to reflect the objects appearing within it is its very nature. The mirror is without choice; it doesn’t care how others feel about what it reflects back to them because it is indifferent towards its own content. It just reveals what has come into it; that’s all.

When we truly act as a mirror for someone, it’s because we are not resisting the state he or she is in, but instead we are quietly aware of its (often painful) presence within us. We suffer this similitude willingly, understanding now why the person we want to correct is in the conflict that he or she is. We know their pain directly, and do nothing toward it in ourselves or try to “fix” them.

This state of conscious self-awareness, and the sacrifice that comes with it is the true mirror; there is no division between the reflection and the reflected; they are one. And in this (higher) state a healing can take place that can’t be imagined because there is no longer anyone trying to do the healing, nor is there the one to be (judged) healed… just the light of awareness that changes all that enters into it.

Of course there is more to this than words can say, but these notes will give you a good idea of what needs to be done, and what one should cease from doing when it comes to “helping” others. The law is… as Christ said so simply, “Physician, heal thyself.”



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