Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


The Power to Change Your Perception of Difficult People

posted by Guy Finley

QUESTION


I get so easily confused these days as I wrestle with all the ways one hears about how to handle difficult people. No one approach seems to apply or work with everyone. It seems I can only repeat solutions that have already proven themselves to be incomplete at best. Help! 


ANSWER


Every situation in life is, in itself, new; however for us… it is only as new as is our capacity to meet it that way. So, in one respect, there is no set “right” way to deal with disturbing people, or the problems they manifest. The key here is to remember that each situation is a school unto itself, which means they are incomparable. And if moments can’t be compared, how much more true is this when it comes to the ways in which they are to be met by us? That being said, one more thought: In spite of appearances, what is true never varies in its relationship with life; what changes is the way that truth is expressed and the outcome of its effect. With this last idea in mind, seek to see the truth in each personally challenging moment by deliberately suspending the reactionary certainty that always appears on its heels. This conscious choice to be “watchful, instead of willful” changes the moment from one resisted into one that is revelatory in nature. In the end, it is this re-birth of our perception that holds the power to change all that is perceived, including difficult people and our problems with them.


Previous Posts

(Audio) Share in the Life Unending
In this special short talk featuring music performed live at Life of Learning Foundation in Southern Oregon, Guy Finley talks about the music and rhythm of life itself, and how we as human beings are meant to be sensitive instruments, responding harmoniously to each and every movement. [audio mp

posted 3:00:14am Dec. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Learning to Discern
Question: What are the first steps in learning to discern the truth? Answer: One of the things that makes music good for us is our effortless relationship with its harmony and balance, with its rhythm and composition. We don't have to be experts to discern these elements because they naturally re

posted 3:00:50am Dec. 17, 2014 | read full post »

Living in the Light of True Self
What we must learn to ask ourselves, not once or twice daily, but a hundred times and every time it strikes us to remember ourselves, is this question: Where is my attention right now, and what is my experience of the moment as a result of its placement? If we ever hope to taste some measure of true

posted 3:00:59am Dec. 16, 2014 | read full post »

The Music of the Mind
The music of the mind -- its harmony, or not, is expressed by the order of its thoughts through which it is instrumented. Confusion is dissonance; clarity is flow.

posted 3:00:02am Dec. 15, 2014 | read full post »

Freedom from the Bonds of Bitterness
Though we find no evidence of anything noble in someone who has betrayed us, neither is there anything noble in our bitterness.

posted 3:00:38am Dec. 12, 2014 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.