Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Keeping Your Emotions Out of your Finances

Photography by: ©Michael B. LloydI talk a lot about how your emotions affect what you manifest. They can also affect how you handle your money. My guest today is Matthew T. Shafer, author of The Future of Your Wealth.  He’s a graduate of American University, where he obtained Bachelor of Arts and Master of Arts degrees in economics, with a concentration in International Financial Markets. In 2005, Matthew attended the Haas School of Business at the University of California, Berkley, where he obtained the title of Certified Investment Management Analyst (CIMA®) and joined the Investment Management Consultants Association (IMCA). He has been named one of the top 1,000 Financial Advisors in the U.S. by Barron’s Magazine (2009) and has received several national recognitions, including “Premier Advisor” by the National Association of Board Certified Advisory Practices (2012). Here’s what he has to say about avoiding emotional investing:

4 Tips for Keeping Your Emotions from Dictating Your Financial Future
By Matthew T. Shafer

You’ve probably heard of emotional eating, but emotional investing is a problem that needs to be recognized society-wide, especially since the economy has been in such sharp focus this past half decade.

The words of an experienced mentor have proven to be spot on throughout my career: No matter how smart they are, most people don’t know what to do with their money. It isn’t that people are ignorant, and it isn’t that they are incapable of analyzing investment opportunities. The challenge occurs when emotion clouds judgment.

People become too optimistic and enthusiastic when their investments are on the rise, and too fearful and skeptical when they see a decline. This holds true for all income levels. Here are some tips for avoiding the No.1 detriment to your financial well-being.

•    Create a buffer of expertise. It’s impossible to completely separate your emotions from your finances. But you can create distance between them by putting experts in the middle. During the financial crisis, I had a number of clients who would have made painful mistakes if I hadn’t helped them manage their emotions.

•    Sometimes, you have to do the tough thing. Financial advisors, too, experience emotional responses to market crashes and other startling events. That’s why it’s tough to exercise discipline, and caution against overinvesting in assets that are hot. Why? For the same reason buying a home during the peak of the real estate market turned out to be a poor decision – because bubbles burst. Similarly, the best time to invest is when prices crash.

•    Build your knowledge; it breeds confidence and prevents panic. The more I can educate clients about how markets work, and the cycles that they go through, and what is going on now, the more confidence I believe those clients will have in their investment strategy. On the other end of the spectrum, people tend to get more emotional about things they don’t completely understand. I think that’s basic human nature.

•    Don’t let malaise dominate your future; embrace optimism where you can. Today, I believe the number one emotion that clouds the future is pessimism. Even though we’re coming out of the Great Recession and things are starting to improve, a lot of people are still scarred by their experiences of the past decade, fearful that our world has permanently changed and we face insurmountable problems. Excessive pessimism is just as detrimental to your future wealth as too much optimism; balance and objectivity based on solid information will serve you best.
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