Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Beliefs about Meeting a Romantic Partner

LOAlogoBLOGThis is post 271 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.

Valentine’s Day is coming. Seeing all the hearts and flowers in stores can awaken a need for a romantic partner if you don’t have one. It used to do that to me when I didn’t love myself. It’s normal to want love in your life, especially at this time of year. Thoughts about this can make you sad. Why don’t I have someone? What are you telling the Law of Attraction in Action?

Your beliefs about meeting a romantic partner can be especially strong against meeting someone good. Do you ever think a version of:

•    The odds are against me here. There are too many women looking to meet someone and not enough men.
•    Every woman is just looking for a man to support her.
•    Men aren’t attracted to women who aren’t slim.
•    I don’t make enough money to attract women.
•    Men don’t like my body.
•    I’m too busy to have someone in my life

I had these kinds of thoughts too and not meeting someone reinforced my beliefs, until a friend woke me up. We were having coffee when I said with feeling—“There are no good men in NY!” “I’m not slim enough to attract a man here.” She jumped on my comment and reminded me that I was sabotaging myself by telling the Law of Attraction I didn’t  expect to meet someone. She was so right and I amended my belief to —“There are aren’t many good available men in NY but there’s one for me! And he’ll appreciate my body.” I said that a lot in the next weeks and shortly after that I had a boyfriend.

If you make negative stereotypes your beliefs, don’t be surprised if they play out in your life. Remember, your beliefs attract your reality. When I believed there were no good men in NY I didn’t meet any. When I changed my belief, I met someone.

If you don’t have someone special on Valentine’s Day, remember that YOU are special! And you always have you. As you build your self-love you’re more likely to attract love into your life. I’ve been very busy and haven’t felt ready to meet someone but I truly know there’s special guy coming into my life. I believe that with all my heart and am excited to meet him.

Make sure that your expectations about meeting a healthy romantic partner are positive to give yourself the best chance of finding your next valentine.

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE.
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