Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Realizing Your True Inner Power

I write a lot about the Law of attraction and about self-empowerment. Today I have Sugandhi Iyer, author of Joyful Manifestation: Ten Steps to Empower Yourself and Attract a Happy and Successful Life as my guest today to share how they work together. She’s also a Law of Attraction Success Coach based in California. Sugandhi studied the nature of consciousness and found that with skillful thinking, energy can move in different ways getting a person right into the reality he/she wants. She helps to enable them to experience the life they always wanted. Here’s what she has to say:

The Law of Attraction and Self-Empowerment
by Sugandhi Iyer

Most of this world’s issues have come from people exerting power over each other in a careless manner. When power is repeatedly exercised in a hurtful fashion, it strikes fear in the minds of the ones dominated, and no-one profits in the long run. The victims in these situations are left to cope with memories that forever keep them down and suppressed and they continue to attract situations of similar nature because of the energy vibrations they carry. The fear experienced by a person not situated in his power can only be described by a person going through such a situation, feeling unable to take a stand and rise above the situation, keeping him trapped in it.
What is this power that some people have while others suffer a lack of, and why does it keep individuals and entire nations caught in its loop resulting in suffering?

Self-Empowerment We can start by understanding that everything is consciousness, and it is consciousness that moves energy into action. The nature of a person’s consciousness determines how he uses the power/energy available to him to do things with. Does he help by giving more joy to people, or does he contribute to the loss of it?

Every person has a right to respect and dignity. When respect is denied and a person is subject to hurt and ridicule, he loses power and experiences unhappiness. The presence of fear means the absence of self-power because that which is feared has a hold on you until you rise above the thing or person feared. So many people and so many nations in the past have used sheer physical strength and power to browbeat and control people and it worked for some time until the suppressed persons became empowered and physically got out of the situations that kept them down, or mastered the situations, and won.

Self power can be lying dormant within you and not showing its presence to the extent required.  When you realize this power within you, you become able to handle situations that you could not before and that too with an ease that leaves people stunned. A poor man realizes his dormant power to become successful in the world, a rejected woman realizes that she deserves love and has the power to attract it, an underpaid and overworked employee realizes that he deserves better treatment, a country harnesses its talent and resources in a way to benefit mankind and rises beyond its socio-economic conditions, removing itself from the label of being a third world country; all of this happens when there is self-empowerment.

When self-empowerment happens, the need for negativity reduces, such as being subject to other’s unnecessary control and constantly having to fight for respect, recognition and love. The need for negative action also reduces, since the feeling that everything is well increases, as one becomes peaceful inside. Happy thoughts happen because happy beliefs take hold, flowering into positive energy.

The thoughts you have arise because of the beliefs you hold. If you believe that you are empowered with regard to any situation, the ratio of light and dark in your mind shifts, resulting in happy thoughts and healthy vibrations, attracting happy situations to you. The more empowered you feel about life, the Law of Attraction proves you right bringing you even more empowering situations. When you feel that you have the various elements of your world working well for you, you will have the Universal forces work in your favor, and not against it.

Take the example of a person who feels that he can never get the promotion he wants because he believes that he is not sufficiently skilled. As he empowers himself and feels good, either by thinking of his already existing achievements and qualifications, or by adding to his qualifications, he increases his feeling of self-worth, changing the type of situations he attracts.

Self-empowerment is the key to rise above the negative forces that try to keep you down. Some simple steps to follow are:

1.    If something is bothering you and you cannot shake it off, decide to resolve it;
2.    Think of the subject matter and find out what buttons it is pushing; release anything from the past that is being re-enacted in the current situation.
3.    Rob the subject of its ability to hurt you, neutralizing the negative energy and your propensity to attract similar situations. Don’t let your happiness depend on it.
4.    Empower yourself. Build yourself up in your mind, and your reality will reflect that. Take up activities that make you feel good about yourself.
5.    Allow the good in the situation to start showing itself. Focus on the positive and let the positive vibrations in, attracting good to you.
6.    Whatever you feared earlier should be in a happy and powerful position in your mind, contributing to your welfare, and not acting against it.
7.    Now that you feel empowered, become quiet again. True self-empowerment is about being peaceful in one self. External recognition of the new state of your self-empowerment will happen by itself.
8.    When you feel empowered, you are in the energy of Joyful Manifestation.

When you empower yourself, you win against the negativity in any situation because you become bigger than the situation. Negative external forces are attracted to you because of the power that you give them and the lack of power that you personally feel. Repeated calling of attention to your weak points and the negativity that exists in any situation gives it a power and life that actually works to your detriment. It bothers you whenever it comes into the sphere of your experience and weighs heavily on you not allowing you to reach the state of your true joy and power. In such cases it is best to reduce its importance in your life and take away its power to affect you. Decide that you will be happy no matter what and that you will retain your state of joy because it is your joy that fuels your creations.

Become bigger than your fears, and completely rob them of the ability to keep you down. Be convinced that there is nobody better than you.  But even as you come to the conclusion that you are the best thing to happen to mankind, retain your love, goodness and compassion because true self-empowerment should always bring you into a state of love and joy, as it is in the state of joy that Joyful Manifestation happens. Self-empowerment brings you peace, joy and inner stillness as it is your very nature. Feel empowered now!

With love,
Sugandhi Iyer
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