Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Law of Attraction in Action: Appreciating Life Right Now

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love.

This is post 169 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.


You may not be where you’d like to be in your career or have the romantic relationship of your dreams or have the body you think you should have or be making the money you think you need. But, you can still appreciate your life right now. Too often people come to me and express their discontent with their lives. Their focus is on what’s wrong with it instead of what’s right. They live for the future—hopes and dreams of what they want to have—instead of appreciating what they have now.

That negativity sends a message to the Law of Attraction, which responds with more reasons to feel negative.

Many of these people have made positive inroads to their ultimate goals yet they don’t appreciate them in pursuit of the bigger picture. That can be self-defeating, as all negativity is when it comes to the Law of Attraction. You may want to lose 20 pounds so badly that you don’t appreciate that you’ve lost 10 pounds. Or your desire to be a VP of your company may keep you from feeling good that you’ve become a manager after starting in an entry level position.


Dreams and big goals are good. I encouraged having them in my recent post, Reaching Higher. But that’s the future and now is what matters for the vibration you give off for manifesting. If you wait to appreciate what you have now because it isn’t enough for you, you block your chances of reaching the bigger goals. All gratitude helps to attract more to be grateful for.

As you reach for the things you’re striving for, stop and find the blessings you have already. Don’t postpone feeling good until you get the brass rings. Allow yourself to feel good about every step you take toward achieving a goal, every pound you lose, every pleasant evening you have on a date, even if the person is not “the one.” Life is too short to postpone pleasure. Appreciating what you have feels good! And the more you feel good about what you have, the more likely you’ll be to attract what you want in the future.


I’ve lost 31 pounds. Did I do it in a year? No In 2 years? Uh uh! In 3? Nope! After my 3-month book tour in 2005 I’d gained 30 pounds. I lost 10 by summer 2006 when I went on vacation and gained it back. As I get older, weight seems to stick to me despite my efforts. But slowly I’ve taken off 31 pounds over 5 years. I’ve had setbacks. Last year I only lost 3 pounds because of medication I had to take that made it harder. But I appreciated every pound I lost! I made a chart in 2006 with 30 numbers.

When I’d kept the first pound off for a full week, I crossed off the number one and patted myself on the back. Those first few pounds didn’t show much but I knew they were gone. Losing them meant I had less to lose. Each time I looked at the numbers crossed out on my chart reminded me of my accomplishment. Each pound was a step toward my goal. When I went down a size I reminded myself it took losing every one of those pounds to accomplish that! That told the Universe I was thrilled with every ounce I lost. I also appreciate maintaining the loss of each pound.


Often the big goal clouds our vision of our lives. Don’t let what you don’t have yet hurt the vibration you send to the Universe. Let the Law of Attraction feel your appreciation of the blessings you have now. The more you appreciate, the stronger the message to support you in getting more!

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE.

Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2011 HERE.

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  • Cindy

    Loved this post! It is oh so true that I sometimes get discouraged that I am not exactly where I thought I’d be by now – namely out of debt. But, after a terrible divorce with dire financial consequences, I’ve been able to hold onto my job, my car and my house and I know that I need to remain grateful. Still, like you do with your weight loss, I press on and each time I can afford to pay more than the minimum on my debt, I am grateful. Of course, I also reward myself a little along the way. Thank you for your encouraging words and reminding me that patience is truly a virtue! Happy New Year!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks Cindy! Glad it helped you! Happy New Year to you!

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