Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Your Body

Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for * LOA logo2.jpgToday is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love.

This is post 121 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.

Self-love means loving yourself. It doesn’t mean loving the parts you find acceptable and disliking, or even hating, what you’d like to change. So many people, especially women, believe they do love themselves but then apologize for their bodies or act ashamed or scornful about parts of it. Self-love includes self-acceptance, not just acceptance of some parts of self.

There is a big difference between self-acceptance and accepting every part of you as not needing improvement.  

You don’t have to be happy with every inch of your body to love and accept it. I don’t like my cellulite. My flabby thighs are from my family genes. No matter how much I exercise, they’ll never be slim and firm without a doc sucking it out, which I’m not prepared to do. My tummy isn’t as flat as I’d like either and I’d look better if I lost some weight. And, I’m getting older and see lines I’m not wild about. But, I’m still fine with me as I am now! None of this takes away from the unconditional self-love I feel.

Stressing out over how your body looks sends a message that you disapprove of you. That isn’t loving to you and attracts more unloving situations.

I hear few people say they’re happy with how they look. Curvy women often seem to be trying to lose weight and thin women complain they have no curves. Men complain they don’t have enough definition or can’t get rid of their pot belly. Yet these people all have wonderful qualities they overlook because of their disdain for something about their bodies. All the plastic surgery and body tweaking going on for celebrities sets standards that the average person can’t attain.

Instead of accepting it, we lament over the flaws we see or the weight we can’t seem to lose.

This is negative energy! Unconditional self-love means loving all of you, despite your flaws. It’s fine to want to do what you can to look your best. I sure do! I run and do weight training and try to eat healthy. But, it’s to be as fit and healthy as possible, not to look perfect. It’s loving to want to feel as good as possible. It’s not loving to postpone self-acceptance until your body is as perfect as you imagine it could be. I’ll tell you a secret:

When you do want to lose excess weight, lovingly proclaim an intention to do it to improve your health because you love yourself. Relax. Eat healthy and exercise.

When you’re loving, relaxed and happy in your intention to get more fit, instead of critical of your body and stressed about taking weight off, it comes off much easier. This sends a loving message to the Universe and you get much better support in taking off weight. Crazy diets and deprivation send the counter-message–that you don’t love yourself enough to be kinder to your body.

Self-acceptance attracts more things to feel good about.

When I gained quite a bit of weight from a health problem, I still loved my body. I didn’t like the extra rolls, but overall I loved my body as part of me. When I felt better, I declared my intention to take off the weight I’d gained. I did it slowly, so as not to hurt my body. I kept saying thanks for support to have enough will power not to eat sweets and to get out and exercise when I didn’t feel like it. Showing I was serious about taking care of my body helped the weight come off.

Dieting to lose weight didn’t work for me. Lovingly taking care of my body helped me lose all the weight I wanted. I truly believe the Law of Attraction supported me.

Next time you catch yourself being critical of your body, give yourself a loving hug. Affirm, “I love and accept myself as I am right now.” Coming from a place of self-love enables you to get the support you need to improve the fitness of your body. Unconditional love attracts so much more to love. Don’t sabotage your happiness by feeling angry or disgust or any of the other emotions people feel when they don’t look the way they’d like to. Loving yourself right now is a much better place to manifest from!

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series here.

Take the self-love challenge and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. And you can post your loving acts HERE to reinforce your intention to love yourself.

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  • http://www.practical-spiritual-healing-guide.com RevDella

    I can really relate to your ideas about people having a love/hate relationship with their bodies. I am a very active, 50+ woman, who exercises at least 6 times a week. I have suffered from a chronic pain condition that caused me to finally begin taking medication. One of the side effects of the medication can lead to weight gain.
    As my clothes began to get more uncomfortable, I began to criticize my body more and more. I certainly was not having a loving relationship with it. I tried eating less and exercising more. My clothes got tighter. As I continually criticized my body, I attracted more weight. I was driving myself crazy.
    Instead of focusing on the way I looked, I decided to be grateful that I could use my body. When I ran, I was expressed gratitude that I could finish my goal for the run. When I used weights to make my body stronger, I was thrilled when my body felt no pain afterward.
    The bottom line is that I began to appreciate my body for what it could do, not how I looked. Guess what happened? I went back to my normal weight.
    When I focused on gaining weight, I gained more weight. When I focused on appreciating my body, I easily returned to my normal thin body size and weight.
    Whatever we focus on, we do indeed get more of.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Fabulous Rev Della!

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