Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something

This is post 46 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.

I have a friend who always says he can’t fix anything and hires people to do them. He’s sure he’ll break the wall if he tries to put a hook in it. I’ve tried to show him how to do simple things but he continues to sabotage his efforts by saying over and over that he’ll mess it up. Guess what happens? Yep, he messes it up, by attracting what he expected.


Believing that you can’t do something reinforces your inability to do it. The Law of Attraction supports you in screwing it up.

Most of us grew up with at least some limitations on what we can or can’t do. You may be too big to model, not smart enough to get a top job, not talented enough to do art, no handy enough to fix things. That mentality carries into other areas of your life and can make you feel somewhat out of control. Worst of all, it keeps you from trying to do those things without the mental restrictions.

If your parent or teacher or friend or the media told you what you can’t do, you carry that belief into adulthood.

My advisor in high school told me I was best suited to be someone’s wife and discredited my lofty dreams. She said I couldn’t do business or have a real career. The DoorMat in me believed her and studied Liberal Arts, which prepared me for nothing I wanted to do. But I couldn’t have a business career because my advisor said that.


It’s YOUR choice to make your thoughts positive or self-defeating.

Even if you were never able to do something before, trying it with expectations of success can make it happen! You can get someone to show you how, take a class, or just use determination, and your thoughts, to conquer it. Whatever you think becomes your reality.

* If you think you can’t, you can’t. Saying this takes away the option of learning to do something or overcoming a handicap. Thinking you can’t closes the door to overcoming what kept you from doing it before. It keeps you stuck in victim mode and dependent on others, like my friend who pays people to do what he could do himself.


* If you think you can, you can. That doesn’t mean you will. But it opens the door to possibilities. Thinking you can makes it possible. It says you’re willing to try your best and there’s a decent chance that you’ll succeed. “I can” can get you to “I will.”

* If you know you will, you will! There are 2 key words here—KNOW and WILL. Knowing is stringing than thinking, which still has doubt. WILL is the most definite. You can think you can do something but it doesn’t mean you will. It may happen but also may not. WILL sets your intention to it happening. It has no doubt.

WILL tells the Law of Attraction to bring it on!


The remote control for my VCR hasn’t worked well in a while. I finally went to Radio Shack and bought a universal one. The guy in the store wasn’t sure how to work it. The instructions weren’t clear and he said I’d have to try to figure it out on my own, or return it. I had no choice. The instructions were useless. At first I thought it wouldn’t do what I needed. Programming the remote was confusing. But I needed it to work and decided I’d figure out how to do it.

I said in a very determined voice, “I WILL make this work for me!”

A friend called during this and said, “Oh, I couldn’t program that remote.” There you go! Say you can’t and you can’t. I knew she couldn’t do it but also knew that I WOULD! I brought all my logic together, played with the buttons, said positive affirmations, “I WILL program this sucker,” and a few minutes later, it was programmed. I was proud of myself and immediately looked up and said thanks. It seemed impossible at first. I’m not tech inclined. But when I decided I WOULD program it, something in me changed.


I almost felt the invisible force of the Law of Attraction working with me! Knowing I have that support for my thoughts gave me the confidence to make it happen.

Catch yourself when you say you can’t do something that you actually would like to do. Ask yourself why not? See if you can change the possibility to “maybe I can.” Then take a leap and affirm “I WILL.” YOU determine whether you can or can’t do by your thoughts. Why not use them to help you!? ?

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  • Yanny

    The Law of Attraction teaches that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on.

  • Sheryl

    "Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right." Henry Ford

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    That Henry Ford quote is one of my favorites Sheryl!

  • Edward Litors

    This is so true. In the end, what you think about comes about. It has been countless times I've been told I couldn't do something, and once I accomplished it, it wasn't a challenge anymore. It made me feel wonderful. But the bottom line is, the ACTION that was taken. And with that, I always like to share things that I purchase that I think people can benefit from. I purchased this audio the other day, it was a conversation between a law of attraction guru, and a multi millionare. They talked a lot about LOA and taking action. It is a must have. Anyway, this is the link I went to. It's $7. Judge for yourself…. it helps!

  • Neeta

    How many times have I said "I can't" and then couldn't?? It is truly self-defeating! I never thought of it in terms of LOA. Just thought I wasn't capable. But I made myself that way. This series is such a good eye opener for me to turn it all around.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    You're right Edward, ACTION is critical to getting what you want.Time to say you can and will Neeta! Glad it showed you the light.

  • Maxx

    "I think I can, I think I can" said the little engine that could. It's so true!

  • VickiLA

    I do that when I try something new or remember something I couldn't do in the past. I never thought about how it affected me. But I do believe I can't do something and then can't do it. I'll try to be more aware and watch my thoughts more closely. I don't want to do that anymore!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I love the little engine that oculd Maxx!It's good that you'll monitor your thoughts more closely Vicki!

  • GMan

    This is a true inspiration. Your examples from your experiences really help me to see what I need to do. thanks!

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