Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Living Like a Winner


This is the 19th post in my series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day!

Many people hope and dream and wish to be successful in what they want to have. Yet they don’t know how to cross over the line from longing to making it a reality. For the Law of Attraction to work, dreams must begin in your head and then also begin to manifest in your head. It’s not just about wanting and then doing. Or saying prayers. It must come alive in your thoughts and beliefs.

You must feel it happening and know it’s in the works to have the best chance at success.

My Law of Attraction in Action: Luck post talked about how people see me as lucky. But we create our own luck by what we attract with our intentions. You can become the lucky person that others envy by cultivating what you want in your thoughts. Hoping expresses doubt. Thinking as if you already have what you want helps make it real. A winning attitude helps build the confidence to win.

Olympic Figure Skater, Nancy Kerrigan said, “Part of being a champ is acting like a champ. You have to learn how to win and not run away when you lose. Everyone has bad stretches and real successes. Either way, you have to be careful not to lose your confidence or get too confident.”

I often quote Rene Descarte’s empowering thought, “I think, therefore I am.” Five small words make up this HUGE mindset. If you think it, you will be it. That includes being a loser or failure. When you act the role of the person you want to be, you can grow into it. If you doubt it will happen, it won’t. If you say lots of prayers, you’ll be very good at praying—and wondering why you’re not getting the goods.

If you want to be a winner at what you hope to do or be, become it in your thoughts and act like it’s already who you are or that what you want is yours.

When I wanted to be a writer, I got a new business card that identified me as a writer. I wasn’t published. Nor was I that good yet. But I intended to be and gave out the card as a writer. And I wrote and wrote, every day. I got better. It took a while to get the guts to try to get published, but it all began with becoming a writer in my head. You can’t get to Z from A without going through the other 25 letters of the alphabet. People get impatient and if the instant gratification they want doesn’t come fast, they lose faith.

The greatest expression of faith comes when things aren’t looking good.

If you express that you can’t call yourself what you want to be yet, the Law of Attraction picks up on it and keeps you from being it. Then you feel like you’ve lost, and your faith goes down the toilet. My faith has gotten very strong by using it with the patience to wait until it’s the right time for my desires to manifest. If it takes ages, my faith tells me that the Universe is just waiting for the perfect time. Because I have so much faith, I can wait without stress.

Even if you feel insecure in a situation, fake confidence! Put your head up, shoulders back, a smile on your face and with a few deep breaths, speak with conviction. Then the Law of Attraction can pick up on that. It feels much better than believing what you want will never happen, and making that true with your thoughts.

When you live as the person you CHOOSE to be, the Law of Attraction will support your beliefs and guide you to making it a reality. Start the New Year right with winning thoughts!

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  • El

    it is so true!!!!My husband told me his salary would improve and I just felt it would–It had nothing to do with spending or saving–just believing that the money would be there –and it happened!!!!!! I just had faith in G-d that we would have money for what was necessary and somehow it has been there each paycheck!!!

  • Pat Miran

    I intend to make that my lifestyle in 2009. Your blog continues to motivate me.

  • Ayesha

    At the moment my life cant get worse…. feels like everythings falling apart. i havent got a job no love life and no happiness. i heard abut the law of attractin 3 yrs ago, and since then i have tried to apply it in my life. but i always fail some how. i feel like my mum is really disapointed in me because im 28 going on 29 and still living with her. she wants me to get married and enjoy life, but things arnt working out. ive been praying hard for love happiness ec, but they havent as yet manifest. i do try my best to make my mum happy but still she makes remarks that burn me inside. im very upset at the moment i feel like i have no one to talk to. i have no friends either. also im overweight cant seem to loose my weight. please what can i do to take a u turn and change my life totally. i dont like anything about it. everyone see's me as a loser, and no one respects me. what shall i do ???

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    You have to begin to LIVE the LOA Ayesha. It's a process on working on yourself and practicing respecting yourself first. Take the first step to walking more to feel healthier. And if you want spiritual help, ask for it. TELL God you need guidance and then watch for signs.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12030679818078002900 Goran

    Daylle, i wish to thank you for simple approach you asume in delivering your messages.I found myself in trying personal situation and right motivation is not only god but esential!It is fantastic idea that you also introduced "gratitude blog", thank you for unselfishly sharing your resourcesKind regards from PretoriaGoran

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for your very kind words Goran! Every person I help is a blessing. : )

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12030679818078002900 Goran

    It's a pleasure Daylle, just received some mails with gratitude ideas, they are fantastic reminder, every day to pay tribute and focus on WHAT IS GOOD!Blessings, Goran

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16180175984113733829 c2

    I've just discovered this series and am enjoying it very much. I read a couple every day and it keeps me focused on keeping a positive attitude. You need to correct the Descartes quote to 'I think, therefore I am.'

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for stopping by and for pointing out the error. I fixed it. Shows what happens when I rush too much. Glad you like the series.

  • Mary

    I too have just discovered this series. It is terrific! I have dedicated myself to learning all I can about the Law of Attraction, and I love reading how it has been applied so well in your life. Thank you.
    And this post, on how you use Descarte’s “I think, therefore I am” is brilliant!!
    I walked all around my rooms saying things like “I think I am in perfect health, therefore I am”! Really powerful stuff!
    Thanks!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for your very kind words Mary!

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