Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Revenge

This is my eighth post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction in Action, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. This DVD is much cheaper than The Secret and the bonus talks by some of the best experts on using spirituality for your highest good make it a lot more substantive!

On Friday, OJ Simpson was convicted on all counts in his trial for stealing his memorabilia back at gunpoint. For the first time, I saw the smug, arrogant smile disappear from his face and it felt great! I admit, I believe that OJ murdered his wife, Nicole Brown Simpson, and her friend Ron Goldman. When he was acquitted for those crimes, I was furious. And when he so disrespectfully and egotistically wrote the book, If I Did It, I wished him great evil and wanted to punch him out. But instead, I looked up and expressed that I’d leave the revenge up to God.

I did ask Him to do what would be the most appropriate form of revenge.

When someone does you wrong, it’s normal to want revenge. You may try to figure out how to get even or want to tell the person off in a forceful way. Stop those impulses and let the Law of Attraction get revenge for you! It will, especially if you let it. Why do I advise that you don’t get the revenge yourself?

* Going after revenge keeps anger burning in you. Thinking of ways to get even puts negative thoughts out to the Universe. Anger NEVER feels good! Metaphysical Science (the mind creates physical ailments) attributes holding onto anger as the cause of cancer. It also creates other physical problems.

* Going after revenge keeps what happened on the tip of your thoughts. It makes you talk about it with friends and plot how you’ll get even. That can keep you stirred up. The Universe doesn’t interpret why you want to hurt someone. It does bring you back what you put out.

* Going after revenge attracts more negatives. Evil thoughts bring evil situations. So you’ll get more of the type of behavior you want revenge against. Then you punish yourself too. Negative thoughts don’t attract positive outcomes. Until you release revenge to the Universe, you’ll attract more of the behavior you want revenge against.

* Going after revenge wastes energy that you can use to do something good for yourself. A majority of people don’t feel better past the moment of doing something to get back at someone. Negative revenge isn’t sweet. It often keeps that person in your life, especially if he or she decides to get back at you for your revenge, which can create a vicious cycle, supported by the Law of Attraction.

* Going after revenge is unnecessary, since the Law of Attraction works better than you can. It will come at the right time in the best way possible. Accept that nothing you can do for revenge will undo what the person did or make up for it. Hurting the person doesn’t replace the money she took from you or ease the heartbreak he caused.

* You live with the consequences of your revenge. When a scorned woman shreds her ex’s clothing or lies to get him fired, she creates her own hell of negatives that will return to her. If a guy sabotages a colleague who did him wrong, he sabotages himself too.

Revenge from the Law of Attraction can take time to happen. OJ’s conviction came 13 years to the day after he was acquitted on the murder charges. Hmmm… coincidence? I think not! He had 13 years to live with what he’d done and get bolder in his arrogance that he’d gotten away with the crime and could get away with others. Thirteen years to feel relief that he didn’t have to go to prison; to think he was invincible; to reinforce his negative energy.

Many folks put it out to the Universe for OJ to get his due. The Law of Attraction found a way to bring OJ’s deed back to him. He got away with murder but will now be punished for a much lesser crime that could put him away permanently. That’s how the Law of Attraction can work.

When OJ got acquitted, people wanted to kill or hurt him. They lamented about how he could get away with such evil. But killing him wouldn’t have given him the punishment he’ll now get. Guilty on all counts could easily keep him in prison for life. Living a hellish existence after 13 years of enjoying his freedom and believing he was in the clear is a fitting punishment.

Success is truly the best revenge for you to get. Let the Law of Attraction do the “dirty work” for you. Next time someone does you wrong:

* Express how you feel about it if that’s possible. Don’t yell or be nasty. Smiling will dig the point in more than an emotional response. Just let them know how you feel—once.

* Put the revenge into God’s hands. Ask for Him to bring the action back to the person in the most appropriate way at the most appropriate time. Two people have stiffed me on a money for seminar fees or consulting with rubber checks. I can honestly say I rest assured they’ve gotten theirs. Both no longer have a business website. And I’m sure they’ve been ripped off by others because of what they did to me. Meanwhile, my conscience is clear and my good reputation attracts lots of other clients.

* Tell the person you’ve put it into God’s hands and won’t bother them about it again. I love to just smile and express my confidence about the person getting what ‘s coming. A few times people have bounced a check for a book they bought. If they don’t replace it after my asking a few times, I’ll just tell them if they’re okay with putting the bad karma on their music career to save 20 bucks and the bank fee, I wish them good luck. They always send a money order.

* Be patient and move on. Don’t watch for it. Knowing it will happen is enough. Dwelling on it hurts you. Trusting it will happen and letting it go will allow the Law of Attraction to work its magic. Just know it will come at the perfect time. Happy 13-year anniversary OJ!

* Forgive the person in your heart. Having that positive spirit will attract other good opportunities to you that will make up for it. Somehow it all works out when you let it!

I’ve never regretted not doing more to get even with someone. Nicole Brown Simpson’s and Ron Goldman’s families may feel more satisfaction from this ruling than from winning the civil suit and getting little from OJ. Let the Law of Attraction assist you next time. Truly convince yourself that the Universe will deal out appropriate revenge for whatever you’re angry about. I feel more powerful than ever know I can let the Law of Attraction take care of revenge for me. And I know it will be a better rev
enge than I could deal up. ?

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  • Paul.

    Thanks for the timely post, Dallye. But I have to confess that, as I was reading it, I was rooting for you, wondering, “when is she going to get to Forgiveness?” I was thrilled that you did get there but still wished that you spent more time on that topic as I believe forgiving is widely misunderstood and one of the most powerful thing that anyone–but especially doormats, recovering or otherwise–can do for themselves. Maybe as a topic of an upcoming post….?Thanks again.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks Paul. I have addressed forgiveness in many posts as related to the topics. sometimes more, sometimes less, like in this post. I try not to have one big post on a topic like forgiveness as I’d rather include it whenever it’s called for. Forgiveness and compassion run through a lot of my writing as antidotes to anger and other negative emotions.

  • http://www.mizfitonline.com MizFit

    fantastic post and blog.just clickstumbled upon you…finally/

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for stopping by! I want to share the blessings that I learned for myself.

  • El

    Someone at work unfairly sabotaged my promotion. I was not angry with with them and just hoped that whoever is not telling the truth and caused this gets what is coming to them. For me it worked for the best as I got a transfer to a division that was the best thing ever!!!! and got the promotion. So G-d will get them back in HIS time but as for me I did not waste my time seeking revenge but changed myself and moved on for the better!

  • Paul.

    Thanks, Daylle Deana. I haven’t read through a lot of your older posts, so I wasn’t aware that you’d already shared your thoughts on that important topic. I’l go check them ut for myself. Thanks.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    To me, forgiveness is critical in many situations so it’s not uncommon for me to bring it up.

  • pk

    This stuff works!! It worked for me like miracle!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Elle

    Daylle,

    What about in a case of what feels like Justice, and only you have the knowledge or proof of an injustice that occurred that you feel should be brought to light and made known that it occured because the crime was, for “example” impersonation of another person and a business to intimidate you, and you want to let that person who was impersonated, and the business for whom the ACTUAL person DOES work for but IS not, that the event occured unbenounced to them, and it just so happens to be a form of revenge. It would feel “good” to know I set them straight by letting the TRUTH out and alerting another victim of Their malice, to it.

    What about that? What do you do when you know all you have to do is provide evidence of something that is as easy as sending that evidence to let ANOTHER person know they’ve been wronged. Should we not.. inform people even if it does make it obvious the the tables of power have been turned?

    In a non-spiritual sense it makes all social sense but in terms of MY OWN karma I fear for my motives (being honest).. thats the only reason have hesistations. But I dont think its fair to those who dont know they have employees that would do this or they trust this person who quite honestly used their name and could’ve had me accidentally have to have my lawyer take action against what I thought was a BUSINESS, but instead.. it is an employee posing as the owner and reaping the benefits of working there still. I dont care if they lose their job, thats NOT the point.. my POINT is to alert the business.. But ultimately I know it will be addressed if I send the proof that the police department provided me for evidence that this person was impersonating someone else. Its a document. Do I send it… or is that the UNIVERSES job.

    I just feel like, God loves us ALL, and though we are punished or though the universe returns our energies to us… I feel the impact is made lesser and … as you say..13 years later.. that hardly seems FAIR when 2 people were stabbed to death in a terrifying episode of fear, physical pain, and god knows what else they felt… I dont know.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    A Law of Attraction take would say that everyone is responsible for their own circumstances and attract things for a reason. The truth is always good to tell. But you need to clear your motives first, and also decide if the consequences that could occur later is worth it. I’d ask God for guidance and watch for signs. If it’s right to tell, things will happen that make you focus on it. Otherwise, ask God to support justice being served. That’s just my take!

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