Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


The Law of Attraction in Action: Kindness


This is my third start the week post in my series on the Law of Attraction that was inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. I learned about the Law of Attraction from her books and was re-inspired by watching the DVD with so many great guests.

We all have the power to heal our lives. You influence what happens to you each moment. When you stay conscious of your actions and thoughts, you can guide your path to more goodies.

But, the best way to attract good stuff is to make doing good stuff a lifestyle.

My next book, Nice Girls Can Finish First disputes the belief that nice guys finish last. But I’m talking REAL NICE, not doing things for others so they’ll like you or to get something in return. Giving unconditional love and kindness reaps the most rewards!

When I lived in DoorMatville, I thought I was nice, but I wasn’t. I desperately needed to be liked and did things for others, often at the expense of my time, money or other things I couldn’t afford. Having people around me and being “liked” by everyone was worth sacrificing my own needs! I stifled the reality that people were with me because I bought them. Deep down, I still felt lonely, since I knew there were few people I could truly count on.

Fast forward to today: I still like to help people when I can but it’s to be kind, not to barter for something.

The Law of Attraction is always on. It doesn’t just work when you do or think something special. When I was a DoorMat, I attracted more situations that helped me continue to be a DoorMat. Today, being a kind person attracts real kindness to me. I’m not kind for reciprocation. When you’re kind, you may not get a reward for it instantly. But it does come back to you, especially if you’re aware enough to recognize when it does.

A few weeks ago, I stopped into Au Bon Pain, one of my favorite places to grab a quick bite or cup of their awesome hazelnut coffee. An elderly lady with a walker was struggling to reach the coffee and asked if I’d help her. I was happy to. So I filled her cup, put in the milk, walked her to the cashier and then to a table. To me it was no big deal—a few minutes of time to do what seemed like just common courtesy to a senior. I felt good helping and she was grateful—a win/win in my book!

So I was surprised when the manager gave me a half price employee discount to thank me for helping the lady. Instant Law of Attraction result!

I was in the same Au Bon Pain on Saturday. Surprisingly, there was another senior in need of help. Once again I provided assistance—a mere 2 minutes of time to be kind. When I got to the register, I joked with the same manager that I seem to come in when seniors have problems. He remembered me and profusely thanked me for being kind, and, said my purchase was on him. He appreciated my reaching out to help and wanted to show his gratitude.

The Law of Attractions doesn’t always work so fast. It is fun when it does.

This was a strong reminder of how REAL kindness attracts more kindness. Some people encourage practicing “random acts of kindness.” To me that means being kind to others when you can, without expecting something in return. For me the act of kindness is reward enough. I enjoy knowing that I’ve helped someone when possible. I did greatly appreciate the bonus I got at Au Bon Pain. It’s nice to see that others appreciate kindness. But I did it without knowing what I’d receive.

Keep your eyes open for at least the next day and see if you can find a way to be kind to someone, just because.

Take pleasure in knowing you’ve made someone’s day a little brighter. It truly will come back to you, often in ways you least expect, like it did for me. The more good you put out, the more good you’ll receive. That’s how the Law of Attraction works!

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  • Jamel W.

    That’s a great example of how kindness attracts kindness. I do like to be kind but never really think about it. Got me thinking now! thanks!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Glad you found it helpful Jamel!

  • Beth Godwin

    This is so important to emphasize, especially to young people, who are so lost in their electronics that they can lose touch with personal interactions.

  • Anonymous

    i’ve been struggling with a neighbor who keeps on listening in on family conversations,calling us names which are sometimes hurtful. and tells other neighbors in the area, things that aren’t true. iv’e kept my silence but they still persist.. i’ve even talked to them about it.i hope i attact the laws on non invasion of privacy..

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    It’s good to put the situations into the Universe’s or God’s hands and watch for opportunities to address it or get support in dealing with it. Instead of defending yourself to the other neighbors, individually ask if they have suggestions for dealing her her lies and inappropriate behavior.

  • http://Beingkindfortherightreasons,doesattractmorekindnesstous........ Pat

    I’ve always tried to treat others like I want to be treated, being kind is a must. I never expected anything in return, but I received a wonderful act of kindness when in the flood of ’08, I love most everything I owned, plus my car. Help came quickly, cash donations, supplies, labor and I was given a Jeep Grand Cherikee w/ 79K miles from a young family. I cried when I told my daughter. She said “Mom, you are always giving to people, to church, to anyone in need, now it’s your turn. Accept and enjoy. You deserve it”. God is good!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Your daughter is so right Pat! Kindness begets kindness. And you’re right–God is good!

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