Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Toot Your Own Horn!

I’m delighted to have Lorraine Cohen, President of Powerfull Living as a guest blogger today. So many of us, especially recovering DoorMats, have a hard time owning our accomplishments. Lorraine has kindly allowed me to post this article that appeared on her own blog. She shares some tips for tooting your own horn that were shared by a guest on her radio show, Powerfull Living Radio.

Toot Your Own Horn!
by Lorraine Cohen

A few months ago my good friend Dale Kurow came on my radio show to talk about “Positioning Yourself for a Promotion”. We discussed specific steps people can take to position themselves to get noticed for a promotion. To lay the groundwork for a promotion, she talked about the importance of documenting past successes. That means keeping a record of every major accomplishment (big and small), awards, and any new ideas that are proposed and adopted. Dale calls this tool, “a hero file.”

Why bother?

Here are a few reasons:

**When performance reviews roll around you’ll have an impressive list of successes that highlight your value to the company. This gives you ammunition to ask for a raise, more responsibility or a promotion.

**When updating your resume, you’ll have concrete evidence to back-up your information.

**Need some inspiration and motivation? Pull out your hero file for a boost. If you’ve been following my newsletters, you know I talk a lot about creating a list of past successes to build confidence, support motivation, and challenge negative self-talk. Documenting past successes will give you fuel to maintain a positive outlook because it based on your personal history.

Whether you work within a corporation or have your own business, creating a hero file can be a great resource to add to your toolbox!

Your call to action!

Start your hero file today. Add thank you notes you’ve received, rave reviews, positive emails… what else can you think of??? Keep it handy and review often!
To hear the entire unedited audio program of my conversation with Dale, click here to learn how you can order the MP3 download. Don’t miss the special 4-part series with Dale, “Thriving in Corporate Life” throughout March on Powerfull Living Radio.

Lorraine Cohen, President of Powerfull Living, brings more than 25 years experience in personal and business coaching, psychological counseling, and sales to thousands of business owners, entrepreneurs, and executives to have greater career success and personal happiness in their life. She is also the host of Powerfull Living Radio–compelling conversations on business and personal topics. Contact her for speaking engagements and customized leadership programs for your company or organization. Visit to learn more about Lorraine’s services, success products, and programs.

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