Re-runs, #4

Speaking of re-runs, is it almost time for a new season of Mad Men? Please?

From July 13, 2009

shmaWhen my daughters were babies, I really knew how to sleep them. I put them to bed early (and I do mean early) and on a consistent schedule. They slept for 12 (or more!) uninterrupted hours, and napped regularly. I established and followed through on bedtime routines. I successfully encouraged the girls to put themselves to sleep and to stay put in their own beds. Consequently we made it through the early years quite well-rested. Our friends hated us.

Things have changed. Our 4 and almost-6 year old daughters still share the bedroom that Zoe moved into at 6 months, when she left our bedside. But slowly – almost imperceptibly – the art of bedtime has slipped away from me. And now, the peaceful oasis, with its gentle pink nightlight, the whomp-whomp of humpback whales playing softly in the background, and the two children drifting into slumber at an hour when families sit down to dinner, is long gone. Now at 8 pm, after stories and “lights out”, the room transforms a cross between a circus (the beds are in perfect jumping distance of one another) and an orphanage (not a real one, but the one in the movie version of Annie – the stinky Disney version.) There are calls for water, hollers for cuddles, demands for more and more piles of books, and so many trips to the bathroom that the ensuing bedwetting is a true marvel of nature. (Tonight on the Discovery Channel – Bladders that Cannot Empty until after Midnight!)


Where have I strayed? My former bible, Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child, is of little help these days. I’m still doing everything “right”; unfortunately Ella and Zoe seem to have their own bible Defying Bedtime Habits, Crazy Mommy. On most nights, I resort to yelling. This works wonders for lulling children to sleep.

So when I recently received a copy of Goodnight Sh’ma from my friends at Kar-Ben Pubishing, I thought, maybe – just maybe – in this simple board book lies the secret to restoring peace to our evenings. Maybe the problem is just that we don’t consistently say the shma. Why would that matter? I had a couple of theories. Maybe God is punishing for my lapse by giving my daughters a severe case of jack-in-the-box-itis. (It’s better than smiting me.) Or maybe the shma has a magical, soporiphic effect that cannot be attained by bedtime stories alone. (Perhaps I shouldn’t be surprised that The Amazing Bone hasn’t exactly settled them down for the night.)


So after the books, the pottying, the brushing of the teeth, the turning out the lights, the tucking in were over, I came into my daughters’ room with Goodnight, Shma. I read them the simple poem that culminates with the first line of the shma, which we sang together. They were quiet. I showed them the sweet illustrations. They were still quiet. And then I tiptoed out of the room. The quiet continued. For about three seconds. And then I heard a clunk. I went back in the room. My daughters were playing catch with Goodnight, Shma.

Just because saying the Shma isn’t magical, doesn’t mean I’m giving up on the bedtime shma. It’s still something I believe in (or that I’d really, really like to believe in) and having a book like Goodnight Shma is a helpful reminder. But tonight I’ll take the book with me when I leave the room.

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Amy from VA

posted January 26, 2010 at 9:54 pm

My all time favorite line from this post: “On most nights, I resort to yelling. This works wonders for lulling children to sleep.” LOL!

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Minnesota Mamaleh

posted January 27, 2010 at 4:17 pm

Amy, hi! I love this post. So much of it resonates with me– the chaos of bedtime, the calmness of the shma. I’ve had the same experience with “Tot Shabbat” by Camille Kress. There’s something about that particular prayer that’s so calming for my kids. And for me. Which is so funny to say as someone whose technically “unaffiliated.” Thanks for another great read!

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posted January 27, 2010 at 5:00 pm

We really like “The Bedtime Shema”
But I still hold the toddler until he’s asleep. Sometimes he sleeps all night, sometimes (like last night) I actually get up and flee to the couch in the middle of the night when he comes into our room for the 5th time and let my husband deal with it.
ugh. Ick.
By the way, Ask Moxie posted about this very thing recently, siblings sharing a room and not sleeping b/c they’re talking:

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Frume Sarah

posted January 29, 2010 at 7:12 pm

We LOVE this book!!!! My almost-three year old requests it every single night. We sit in our rocking chair together. First I read it. Then he “reads” it. Then he goes into his “cribbie”, grasps my finger, and recites the Sh’ma with me.

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