Thanks, Mom

mom1My mom sent me a link to a wonderful article by Anne Roiphe for, called Grandmothers Should Be Seen and Not Heard. It’s written for grandmothers, but it actually was a wonderful read for me. I wish I didn’t agree with almost everything she said, but I do. My mom is a superb bubbe, and I know that she thinks I’m a wonderful mom, but I still can’t handle her criticisms, or even her suggestions (even the good ones), very gracefully. The comments on the article are all from grandparents – I’d love to hear what some moms think about it.
Of course, I too need to be reminded to shut up from time to time. Here’s a great poem to that effect (sort of) that I read on the bullseye, baby blog. Warning: contains the f word a few times. Thanks, Jena!

Comments read comments(5)
post a comment

posted November 3, 2009 at 9:38 pm

Can you link to the article? Did a quick search but didn’t see it….

report abuse


posted November 3, 2009 at 9:43 pm

whoops! I thought I had – I’ll fix that now-

report abuse


posted November 4, 2009 at 9:01 am

Having an empty nest and not yet a grandmother, I feel I can be somewhat objective about this, and I too agree with pretty much everything the article says.

report abuse


posted November 5, 2009 at 11:53 am

Thanks for the link – it was a great article! What I loved about it was the tone, how “real” and kind it was. I have to say I don’t completely agree though – I like hearing advice. Sometimes I need perspective, and other times I’d rather just talk about the difference in assumptions rather than have them be an elephant in the room. That’s not to say that I’m never upset by grandparently wisdom, though.

report abuse


posted November 18, 2009 at 4:10 pm

I stumbled on your blog while doing research for a sermon about Jewish parenting. The article by Anne Roiphe (one of my favorites) recommended by your dear mother, Judy, (one of my absolute favorites!) spoke to me loud and clear about my own struggle to find the right balance with my son, his wife, and my granddaughter. I hope that you are well, and have enjoyed your books so much.
kol tuv, Gila

report abuse

Post a Comment

By submitting these comments, I agree to the terms of service, rules of conduct and privacy policy (the "agreements"). I understand and agree that any content I post is licensed to and may be used by in accordance with the agreements.

Previous Posts

More blogs to enjoy!!!
Thank you for visiting Homeshuling . This blog is no longer being updated. Please enjoy the archives. Here are some other blogs you may also enjoy: Truths You Can Use Inspiration Report Happy Reading!!! ...

posted 9:57:03am Jul. 06, 2012 | read full post »

Teaching the Four Questions to young children
One of the greatest privileges of being a kindergarten teacher in a Jewish day school is having the opportunity to teach children to recite the four questions. Unlike almost anything else I teach them about Jewish ritual, this is "real work." ...

posted 7:36:03am Apr. 01, 2012 | read full post »

Guess what's Kosher for Passover (this will change your life.)
I'm not exaggerating. The bane of my Passover existence has been pareve baking. I cook a lot more meat during the holiday than I do the rest of the year, which means a lot more pareve desserts. Which has, up until now, usually meant margarine ...

posted 5:02:27pm Mar. 22, 2012 | read full post »

Why I love the New American Haggadah (and it's not just because I got to have a martini with Nathan Englander.)
I'm not a haggadah junkie. I know many Jews whose shelves are overflowing with numerous versions of the Haggadah - from the traditional Maxwell House to the not-so-traditional Santa Cruz - and whose seders are an amalgam of commentaries, poems, ...

posted 9:25:37pm Mar. 14, 2012 | read full post »

Best Hamentashen Ever, even better. And, a Purim opera.
This time of year, I'm always excited when I look at my google analytics and see that people have landed at my blog by searching for "hamentashen recipe". I love the idea of people all over the world making my great-grandmother's fabulous ...

posted 7:13:38pm Mar. 05, 2012 | read full post »


Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.