Advertisement

Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

Good Days…Bad Days With Maureen Pratt

To Be Encouraged, Encourage Someone Else

Maureen Pratt Author PicTime and again, I’ve seen the amazing transformation in someone who is deeply suffering (whether with pain, illness, or other pressures), when they receive a kind, uplifting, or unexpectedly positive remark from someone else. Part of this is, I think, because kindness is fundamentally, well, kind, and the response to it is of like tenor.

But another reason is, I think, a bit more complicated. If you live with chronic illness or pain, you take that with you everywhere, and it has a habit of reflecting in gestures, words, or expressions. So, when you met someone who is similarly suffering, your pain joins with theirs, in a sense, and soon your interaction can become just one, big, glopping swirl of pain. But it need not be; just as pain ampilfies pain, so too can kindness or an extension of encouragement defuse it.

A simple way to test this is in conversation with a friend. Here’s the first version:

“How are you?”

“Horrible. And life is just getting harder.”

“Oh, I know what you mean. I can’t believe the way my stress is just getting worse.”

“Yeah, and there’s no end in sight.”

“No. None.”

Heavens, it makes me feel weighed down just be typing it! Now, here’s the second version:

“How are you?”

“Oh, the pain is terrible. But I’m glad you called.”

“I’m happy to hear that. I didn’t know if I’d be disturbing you, or if you were resting.”

“I was, but that’s okay. It’s always nice to hear from you.”

“Well, I was thinking of you. I really respect how you cope.”

“Thanks! It isn’t easy, but friends make it easier. ”

See how, right away, the caller and the called are acknowledging pain, but they also find a ray of encouragement for each other.  A caring friend. An appreciative patient.

Yes, it can be as simple as that, and it can work with strangers, too. Smiling, holding the elevator,  slowing down for someone who is moving more slowly than you are – these and other things are subtle but powerful ways of encouraging someone else. And in so doing, you can be encouraged that you’re living out your Christian walk and, perhaps, giving someone else the spark they need to ignite within them renewed hope.

Despite our pain and other health challenges, the more we seek to encourage others, the more we ourselves will be encouraged. We might not be able to banish our physical problems, but we can certainly lighten the load on our [emotional] hearts!

Blessings for the day,
Maureen

 

Previous Posts

Chronic Illness, Dining Out, and Holy Thursday
For those who are healthy, dining out can be pure pleasure. You get to select from a wide array of foods, you don't have to labor in the kitchen to prepare your meal, and you don't ha

posted 1:46:23am Apr. 02, 2015 | read full post »

TLC Tuesday: Be Veronica
t. Veronica is said to have lived in the first century A.D., and according to early accounts, she took pity on Jesus as he made his way to Calvary and wiped his face tenderl

posted 6:30:38am Mar. 31, 2015 | read full post »

Food For Thought: Back to Basics
A very blessed Holy Week to you! There certainly are many bible-based movies, television programs, and other works making the rounds this week. Whether another telling of Jesu

posted 6:30:25pm Mar. 29, 2015 | read full post »

A Praying Spirit: When You Don't Feel Like Praying
Perhaps you're tired. Bone-weary. Angry. Deeply torn. Spiritually dry. Perhaps it's taken a long time to admit it, but now you do. You don't feel like praying. Are you a bad person? Sinning for saying it? Hopelessly lost? Not at all. God still and always will love you, and He knows how d

posted 10:58:26pm Mar. 21, 2015 | read full post »

Just Because
Today's a great day to encourage yourself and others...just because. So often, we wait to express our appreciation, admiration, or pleasure to someone else. It might be a

posted 10:41:02pm Mar. 19, 2015 | read full post »

Advertisement


Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.