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My Life as a Bar Mitzvah Mom

Calling spiritually-inclined parents and members of mixed faith households: You’ll be interested in an article I just wrote for Beliefnet’s “Spiritual Parenting Week” package. They called it “A Christian Mom Makes a Bar Mitzvah,” and it’s about how I have raised my sons in my husband’s faith. Here’s the beginning of the piece:

It’s a thing good I’ve had thirteen years to prepare for what’s coming: I will be the beaming Christian mommy of a bar mitzvah boy this May 26th.

While my teen-to-be is memorizing his Torah portion, I’m gathering bar mitzvah tips from any Jewish mom I can stop on the street. I’ve been to only two bar mitzvahs in my life, so I don’t have much experience.


Still, I have set some goals: I want the bar mitzvah ceremony to be memorable, meaningful, imbued with gratitude and love. I want the whole day to be authentically ours, as well as in keeping with what millions of Jews have done before us. I want to bring myself, as a supportive non-Jewish parent, to the table…or to the Torah, proud of my son and his Jewish heritage. I want to show that Jewish-Christian intermarriage won’t complete what Hitler started, and that, at our house at least, faith breeds faith, and love is all that matters.

Read the rest here.

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posted May 2, 2007 at 4:10 pm

I think your boys are so blessed to have you for a Mom. I have never been to a Bar mitzvah so I dont have tips for you but I will pray for a blessed day for you and your family.

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posted May 2, 2007 at 4:49 pm

Beautifully stated. Love is what matters and of course whatever faith the source for all faith is God or whatever Higher Power we believe in. Barb

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posted May 3, 2007 at 5:47 am

I too was in a similar situation (though on the oppsite end) and found your story very touching. I come from a mixed faith household, and was bat mitzvaed. Eight years later, though I do not consider myself apart of any faith, the memory of my bat mitzvah is a very warm one, a moment when my parents and both sides of my family came together to support me. What could really be more important than that? Congratulations to you and your family!

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