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Therese J. Borchard writes the daily blog, Beyond Blue, on Beliefnet.com. She is the author of Beyond Blue: Surviving Depression & Anxiety and Making the Most of Bad Genes and The Pocket Therapist. You may find her at her personal blog, her website, or you may follow her on Twitter @thereseborchard.

Therapy Notes: Give Amy a Bottle

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From my therapy notebook: I now know who to blame for my feelings of panic and anxiety … Amy. It’s all her fault. That’s what I call my amygdala, the delinquent cluster of neurons in the limbic system considered by […]

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8 Ways to Overcome Envy

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I know that the fastest way to despair is by comparing one’s insides with another’s outsides, and that Max Ehrmann, the author of the classic poem “Desiderata,” was absolutely correct when he said that if you compare yourself with others […]

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Therapy Notes: Forecast Some Backsliding

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From my therapy notebook: The path to mental health is an uneven process: for every two steps forward, you move one and a half back. But if you know this before you start walking, you’ll be less tempted to throw […]

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Getting Through the Rough Spots

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Here is a video I made a awhile back on getting through the rough spots. Join me at A Blog of Hope.

Some Quotes on Solitude and Self-Nurturing I Like

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At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh or fleshless; Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is, But neither arrest nor movement. And do not call it fixity, Where past and future are […]

30 Ways Motherhood Is Like a Mental Illness

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Motherhood provides a host of useful lessons on how to live with mental illness, and vice versa. Here are just a few things the two have in common (in my opinion, of course): 1. Five years into both of them, […]

10 Reasons Why Catholicism Is the Best Religion For the Mentally Ill

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Sorry in advance if this post offends. Just though I’d write out why I think Catholicism is, hands down, the best religion for the mentally ill. Here are a few cool devotions and traditions within the Catholic faith that work […]

On Being an Ex-Suicide

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Paul’s letter to the Ephesians (5:8-14) reads: Brothers and Sisters: You were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light, for light produces every kind of goodness and righteousness and truth. Try to […]

Manic: One Day at a Time

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The epilogue of Terri Cheney’s bestselling book “Manic” is great reading for any manic depressive. I’m sitting in my favorite café, writing a line, crossing it out. Writing a line, crossing it out. My soft-boiled egg will be cold by […]

Loving a Manic Depressive

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Among my favorite essays on loving someone with a mental illness are those penned by Anna Bishop, my blogging buddy James’s wife. She’s written five outstanding posts on what it’s like to be a passenger on the rollercoaster of a […]

Kay Redfield Jamison: Learning to Love Our Jagged Edges

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My absolute favorite essay on depression is a piece Kay Redfield Jamison wrote for NPR’s “This I Believe” collection of testimonies. It’s about learning to love our jagged edges. I believe that curiosity, wonder and passion are defining qualities of […]

The Third Step Prayer

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God, I offer myself to Thee– to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them […]

Bipolar Disorder I, II, Maybe III: There Are All Shades

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John McManamy writes an exceptionally informative article on the types of Bipolar Disorder as defined by the DSM-IV (the shrink handbook). You can get to his article and others by clicking here. I have pasted it below. There is far […]

What Should You Do If You Know Someone Is Suicidal?

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Fortunately there are abundant resources on the Internet to help guide a person who hears a loved one talk about suicide, or who is suicidal himself. I found the following material at Mayo Clinic’s page on suicide. Visit their site […]

Thomas Merton on Fear

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I like this passage from Thomas Merton about Lent. It makes me think that Merton would approve of my Lenten resolution, to give up self-loathing. He writes: The purpose of Lent is not only expiation, to satisfy the divine justice, […]

A Sudden Shift in Moods: Andrew Solomon and Cyclothymia

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I remember reading the following Washington Post article in December of 2005, when I was trying to figure out what in the heck was going on with me. It helped me to understand the nuances that exist within the family […]

Too Many Options? Try Closing Some Doors

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I have become increasingly aware that one of the stumbling blocks to my recovery from depression is my inability to make decisions, and my disdain for closing options. And yet closing doors is good for your sanity. Even in writing […]

Teresa of Avila: The Desire Is Enough

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I wanted to share this quote from St. Teresa of Avila because many of you loved the prayer by Thomas Merton that said the desire to love God is enough. In this passage, another of my favorite saints basically says […]

Peter D. Kramer: Standing Against Depression

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I knew there was little chance of getting a personal interview with Peter D. Kramer, clinical professor of psychiatry at Brown University, and author of “Listening to Prozac” and “Against Depression,” among other books. So for my interview series, I […]

People-Pleasing: Today Is Not Your Day

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I’m reading, and rereading this archive post this week. Today would have been a good day for me to wear the t-shirt that says, “I can only please one person a day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow doesn’t look […]

The Last Lecture

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From time to time I like to go back and watch deceased college professor Randy Pausch’s video, “The Last Lecture,” as a reminder to live my days as well as I can. You probably have seen it, but here it […]

Just Listen

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I can’t count on my hand the number of times I’ve sobbed in front of a complete stranger because it’s happened more than a hundred times. But I can count the number of times I’ve been on the receiving end […]

The Health Benefits of Active Leisure

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It’s not often that I find good advice on how to approach my depression in a diet book, but as Eric was reading his most recent volume on how to shed pounds, “The Structure House Weight Loss Plan,” by Gerard […]

Don’t Ask Me What I Do, Instead Ask Me Who I Am

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I recently posted this piece on PsychCentral about the need to separate what we do for a living from who we are as people. To read the article, click here. I carry a few different business cards in my purse. […]

Depression Treatment Center’s 2013 Ten Best Depression Blogs

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I am honored to be included on Depression Treatment Center’s list of 10 Best Depression Blogs. Among the other nine are many of my friends, including Storied Mind. Click here to read the full story. Finding the best blogs on […]

Top 10 Psychology Videos

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This is a very interesting list of videos Psych Central contributor Sandra Klume compiled. She writes, “Cognitive to clinical to social, the many applications of psychology reveal profound thoughts, human frailties and strengths. These are some of the best results, […]

A Pep-Talk for Those With Treatment-Resistant Depression

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I recently wrote a piece for Psych Central on treatment-resistant depression and some good news. In his book, Understanding Depression: What We Know And What You Can Do About It, J. Raymond DePaulo Jr., M.D. asserts that for the 20 […]

I’ve Learned … by Andy Rooney

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My sister-in-law e-mailed this to me the other day, and I loved it. I’ve learned….That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. I’ve learned….That when you’re in love, it shows. I’ve learned….That just […]

When a Friendship Ends … Are Friends Like Shoes?

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A friend who watched my video on friendships ending wrote me an e-mail with the most beautiful analogy . She said: As I was listening to you and watching the video, I thought about friends as being shoes in my […]

The Depression Rules: How One Marriage Overcomes a Chronic Illness

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For Valentine’s Day, I wrote a piece for Everyday Health on how Eric and I stick together despite an illness that taxes both of us physically and emotionally. To read the piece, click this link. Here is the beginning …. […]

On Presidents’ Day: Happy Birthday, Abe!

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On Presidents’ Day I like to celebrate the birthday of my mental health hero. On those mornings I wake up embarrassed that I have aired my dirty laundry to the world–i.e. confessed to whomever reads my blog–that I am, in […]

Love Deeply

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Valentine’s Day is a good time to remember all the ways we can be loving, not just to the guy/gal sitting across from you at the kitchen table, but also your boss, your mother, your boss’s mother, and her mother. […]

12 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

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Bess Myerson once wrote that “to fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful,” especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. But to stop loving isn’t an option. […]

Prayer for Perfectionists

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I have been sent the prayer by St. Theresa, my patron saint, so many times. But reading it today, I realized it’s the perfect prayer for perfectionists. Here it is: May today there be peace within. May you trust God […]

John Grohol: 7 Ways to Cope With a Layoff

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John Grohol, over at PsychCentral.com, has some good tips for the recently laid off. He’s right in saying that losing your job feels like having the wind knocked out of you. I think this is especially true for men, since […]

On Discipline and the Small Battles

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I thought I’d repost this piece from my archives, since it is a message I always need to be reminded of. Because battles don’t go away. You just get stronger in how you deal with them. Winston Churchill once wrote, […]

The First Yes, The Moment of Conversion

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The publishing and public-speaking businesses are no different from other industries. No one wants to publish you until you get that first book, because Lord knows what you might write between the covers. No speaking agent is going to take […]

The Dark Night and Depression: An Interview With Tim Farrington

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This week I have the honor of interviewing Tim Farrington, the acclaimed novelist of Lizzie’s War, “The California Book of the Dead,” “Blues for Hannah,” as well as the New York Times Notable Book of 2002, “The Monk Downstairs.” Guess […]

Feel the Fear, But Don’t Be a Moron

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This is a favorite post from my archives on facing your fears (with a little common sense). Speaking of irrational phobias and obsessions, I learned an important lesson the morning (last month) I was supposed to run the 22nd Annual […]

Thomas Merton: Make Me An Instrument of Your Peace

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Here is the text by Thomas Merton that I read every morning to remind myself to get out of the way: All the good that you will do will come not from you but from the fact that you have […]

9 Ways Humor Heals

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Of all my tools to combat depression and negativity, humor is by far the most fun. And just like mastering the craft of writing, I’m finding that the longer I practice laughing at life–and especially it’s frustrations–the better I become […]

How Can I Make My Spouse Understand My Bipolar?

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I just received this question from an anonymous reader: I have a question. I have bipolar and depression and the holidays are always hard for me as well as all most everyday of my life. My husband has a hard […]

I, Too, Have a Dream

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Some of you may recognize my dream, but I like to repost it every now and then to keep it alive and give it legs. In celebration of Martin Luther King, Jr.: I have a dream that one day I […]

Christina Gombar: An Interview About Childless Women and Infertility

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Today I have the pleasure of interviewing writer Christina Gombar on the topic of infertility. She is an an accomplished writer whose commentary on women’s issues appeared in The London Review of Books, The New York Times, Working Woman, Scholastic, […]

Lincoln: An Oscar-Deserving Story of Hope

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The following blog was recently published on Psych Central. The 2012 American historical drama film “Lincoln”, directed and produced by Steven Spielberg and starring Daniel Day-Lewis, has been nominated for seven Golden Globe Awards and twelve Academy Awards, including Best […]

12 Winter Depression Busters

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We’ve officially entered the hard months, the “dark ages” as the midshipmen at the Naval Academy say: the time of the year when the sun disappears and the pale complexions of your friends remind you that you had better take […]

The Last Lecture: 5 Evergreen Lessons

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I am republishing a post I wrote around the time of Pausch’s death. It seems like the closer one is to death, the more genuine one becomes. The more courageous one is to speak his truth, and nothing but the […]

A Day to Celebrate Heroes and Angels

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A few days after my posts on the topic of bullying, Beyond Blue reader Barbara sent me an e-mail and asked if, in response to bullying, she might share a piece about her grandmother and how much she meant to […]

Been There, Done That

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You Can’t Unlearn It

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I’ve been repeating to myself lately something my therapist said in our session last month: “You can’t unlearn your progress.” Meaning, I can take a few steps backwards in my recovery from depression and anxiety, but that doesn’t erase all […]

My New Year’s Resolutions: Living the Questions

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Here are some interesting statistics I just found regarding New Year’s resolutions: *40 to 45% of American adults make one or more resolutions each year. *Among the top new years resolutions are resolutions about weight loss, exercise, and stopping to […]

5 Ways to Make Your Resolutions Stick

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I know what you’re thinking: another cheesy, goody-two-shoes article on how I can keep all those goals I’ve set going into 2010. If you abhor such articles (like 10 ways to de-clutter your bathroom), then keep on reading. I’m like […]

7 Ways to Celebrate Christmas Year Round

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Ah, the magic and wonder of the holiday season … It has even my fragile and anxious brain abandoning the logical, reasoning, and uptightness of the left side, and relying on a feast of senses–fresh evergreen, Christmas carolers, winter wonderlands, […]

The Dysfunctional Holiday Letter

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From “Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid: The Movement of Imperfection” by Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian (check out their website): It’s been a banner year!  We began by getting a new minivan complete with a navigation system. It’s been […]

Madeleine L’Engle on Christmas

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Was there a moment, known only to God, when all the stars held their breath, when the galaxies paused in their dance for a fraction of a second, and the Word, who had called it all into being, went with […]

On the Winter Solstice: New Study Suggests Genetic Predisposition to SAD

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Happy winter solstice to all my Beyond Blue readers. I am celebrating by staring into my HappyLite! Here’s an interesting article about the possible genetic predisposition to SAD published by NAMI, National Alliance on Mental Illness: The holidays are a […]

The Woman Who Gave Birth in a Tree

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I heard a story the other day about a woman, Sofia Pedro, who gave birth to her infant daughter, Rositha Pedro, in a tree, above Mozambique’s floodwaters. She climbed to shelter in the tree after being forced out of her […]

Beyond Blue Turns 6

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Since today is the sixth anniversary of Beyond Blue, I thought I’d share my very first post with you. Thank you for hanging in there with me, even as I’ve had to post plenty of archives. Although I’ve suffered from […]

Believe Without Seeing

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All the Christmas movies–from the classic “Miracle on 34th Street” to “The Year Without a Santa Claus” preach a common message: faith is about believing without seeing.   In our family favorite, “Elf,” Santa’s sleigh, fueled by Christmas spirit, crashes […]

The 12 Bipolar Days of Christmas

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It’s that time of year again!!! Ready to hear it again??? DISCLAIMER: I am no Barbara Streisand. I’ve never taken a singing lesson in my life. Not one.The inspiration for this song came two weeks before Thanksgiving when I received […]

21 Holiday Stress Busters

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I have a theory regarding holiday stress: In the month of December, high levels of Cortisol (stress hormone) turn 80 percent of the American population into fruitcakes–just like the stale one delivered to your house yesterday. Because on top of […]

The Memorare

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I have prayed the Memorare every day since my mom (and others) told me to go to Mary with my depression. It’s clear from the words of this prayer that Mary hears all pleas, but especially those uttered in desperation. […]

9 Holiday Depression Busters

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My “9 Holiday Depression Busters” are featured in a Beliefnet gallery. You can get to it by clicking here. It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year–but not if negative emotions take hold of your holidays. So […]

Do You Hear What I Hear? Christmas Disorders and Carols

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If you don’t find the humor in this, my sincere apologies. But we need as many laughs this holiday season as is possible. CHRISTMAS DISORDERS and CAROLS 1. Schizophrenia — Do You Hear What I Hear? 2. Multiple Personality Disorder […]

Mental Illness Takes No Holiday

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We often reach out during the holidays to the poor and homeless — sponsoring a family during Christmas, or distributing toys to children without presents. However, we often forget those that suffer just as intensely within the walls of psych […]

Finding Christmas

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This reflection was from four years ago, but is still very real every Christmas. I’m starting to understand Christmas as the season where Christ comes to visit you in the most unexpected ways. If you can only quiet yourself for […]

Tamar Chansky, Ph.D.: 5 Steps to Freeing Your Child (and Yourself) from Negative Thinking

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Following is the master plan to helping your child resist negative thinking that Dr. Tamar Chansky presents in her book “Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking.” However, her strategies are just as effective for adults. Used by permission of Da […]

5 Forms of Distorted Thinking

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A video including all the forms of my distorted thinking would be too big to store on You Tube. So I’ll present my top five: ways I torture myself upstairs. The good news? Then I can untwist the distortions and […]

15 Ways to Stop Obsessing

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For as long as I can remember I’ve struggled with obsessive thoughts, with severe ruminations that can interfere with daily life. My thoughts get stuck on something and like a broken record, repeat a certain fear over and over and […]

For Thanksgiving: 12 Ways to Be Thankful

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Cicero said that “gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” The English preacher John Henry Jowett wrote that “every virtue divorced from thankfulness is maimed and limps along the spiritual road.” And […]

The Good News and Bad News About Being Highly Sensitive

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Continuing the conversation from last week about being highly sensitive … Here’s an excerpt from Aron’s book, which helps to lay out the pros and cons of a being a person who should stay away from Disney World and Toys-R-Us […]

What Doesn’t Kill You … Well, It Still Really Sucks

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Albert Camus once wrote, “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” Carl Jung’s version: “There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” During the two years of my severe depression, I would have replied, “Please shoot me then, because I […]

Are You Highly Sensitive?

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In my video post I mentioned Elaine Aron’s book, “The Highly Sensitive Person.” I advise all depressives to read it, because most of you are going to be highly sensitive (which is not a bad thing at all). I was […]

Discipline: How We Learn to Solve Problems

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If I had to name two things from my childhood that have helped me in my recovery from depression and anxiety more than any others, it would be these: my faith and the discipline I practiced in learning how to […]

Enough With Perfection

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I’ve been gradually learning something about myself: I want to be perfect. And the fact that I’m not causes me suffering. All of the major world religions teach this lesson upfront: you’re not perfect, and the sooner you accept that […]

Blame the Illness, Not the Patient

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One of the most hurtful comments made to me during the worst of my depression was this: “You must not want to get better.” I know that person didn’t intend to be spiteful or mean. She’s just plain ignorant regarding […]

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: They Don’t Have to Be Perfect

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Thanks to Beyond Blue reader Peg for directing me on the combox to my post “12 Ways to Overcome Jealousy and Envy” to Elizabeth Scott’s review of “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. As I mentioned on other posts, […]

Breaking the Patterns of Dysfunction

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In “Cutting Loose: An Adult’s Guide to Coming to Terms with Your Parents” Howard M. Halpern calls the interactions that develop between the inner child in us and the inner child in our parents “songs and dances” because, he explains, […]

On All Saints Day: 7 Patron Saints for Healing and Comfort

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Thomas Craughwell has compiled a beautiful gallery of seven patron saints for healing and comfort. You can get to it by clicking here. I’ve included the first three.   St. Anne: Patron Saint of Infertility According to a second-century apocryphal […]

12 Ways to Face Your Fears

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1. Yell at them. Tell them to go to a place where there are no lemonade stands. 2. Laugh at them. Start with “ha” and end with “hee.” 3. Loan them to a friend, and tell her not to give […]

How Is Depression Different From Sadness?

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One of the most common questions I hear is: How is depression different from sadness? This question was addressed by Ronald Pies, M.D., a professor of psychiatry at Tufts and SUNY Upstate Medical Center in Syracuse and one of my […]

Recognizing Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

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A family member of mine has recently been diagnosed with acute obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I am reminded of the heartbreak this misunderstood disorder can cause, the confusion and bewilderment, especially in young people. Because my mental health journey began with […]

4 Steps to Better Boundaries

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My second job out of college was with a religious giftware company. I was a product-development coordinator for “inspirational” brands, which meant I was required to do things like write directions on how to bury St. Joseph for a “St. […]

Shadows in Prayer: The Seven D’s of the Spiritual Life

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A few years back, when Mother Teresa’s surprising writings were published about her inner turmoil, my Jesuit friend, Jim Martin, penned the following piece, “Shadows in Prayer,” for “America” magazine. It’s a fascinating read and asks the very questions that […]

How Do I Care For Someone With Depression?

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I don’t know how many times I’ve been asked this question. And I can’t think of a better way of answering than James Bishop’s article, “12 Ways to Care for Someone with Depression,” which you can get to by clicking […]

Why Are More Women Than Men Depressed?

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I recently did some research for a women’s magazine about depression in young women (ages 18 to 30). The editors wanted to know why so many more women than men struggle with depression. I got out my copy of “A […]

7 Steps to Heal Your Inner Child

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According to John Bradshaw, author of “Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child,” the process of healing your wounded inner child is one of grief. And it involves these seven steps (in Bradshaw’s words): 1. Trust For your wounded […]

5 Reasons Why Adults (Like Kids) Need Quiet Time

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The following excerpts are taken from “Modern Spiritual Masters: Writing on Contemplation and Compassion” edited by Robert Ellsberg: 1. To Hear God Talk And if we really want to pray we must first learn to listen, for in the silence […]

Depression: The Greatest Character Defect of All

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Some poll somewhere said that 60 percent of the public would opt to elect a convicted child molester as president over an atheist. I’m sure the same is true about a person who takes antidepressant. Or suffers from depression, for […]

All I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten

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I can never read Robert Fulghum’s poem, “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten,” too many times. Every time I read it I gain a new truth. Today I’m concentrating on the line, “Warm cookies and cold […]

4 Ways to Clear the Mind Clutter

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Back when I didn’t have a stressful day job, I put this list together of ways to clear the mind clutter. Now it doesn’t really fly. But it might work for you! So here you go. How can I keep […]

Your Thinking Is … Well … Not Helpful

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I am trying to shift the way in which I view my work in order to take the pressure off of me, and to put it where it belongs: in God’s hands. In a letter to Jim Forest in February […]

Video: Sticky Thoughts

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I am at war against my thoughts most of the day. “I stink at this. She hates me. I’m a bad mom.” Blah. Blah. Blah. So, much of my therapy involves finding tools to help me filter and let go […]

4 Ways to Support Someone with Depression

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I loved James Bishop’s suggestions of ways to support someone struggling with depression. You can’t go wrong if you follow his directions on what to say to a friend or relative about this topic no one wants to address. To […]

On the Feast of St. Therese: Roses from Heaven

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I like to publish this story around the first of October, since it is the feast day of St. Therese, my patron saint. I owe my life to St. Therese of Lisieux. A few times over. This Carmelite nun–dubbed the […]

What If She Refuses to Go to the Hospital?

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Following up on last Friday’s question — whether or not to take a loved one to the hospital — is this question: What if she refuses to go? Again, Dr. Mark Komrad, M.D., has some answers: The criteria for filing […]

Men, Work, and Depression

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One of my favorite male bloggers is John at Storied Mind because he writes about things most of my readers can relate to: work stress, sexual addictions, and the fine line between health and illness. I love his post called […]

Video: Good Thoughts, Bad Thoughts

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What’s the difference between say, a nutrition bar and a piece of fudge? They share some of the same ingredients, and they both taste good with coffee, but you can rationalize one as health food, where as the other, well, […]

Should I Make My Wife Go to the Hospital?

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The NAMI Maryland publication, “Connections,” published this question awhile back. It is one I am often asked: I was recently faced with the dilemma of whether or not my wife was a danger to herself and others, and whether or […]

8 Tips to Manage Financial Stress

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What do you do when you fret about losing your home, car, stocks, junk bonds, retirement savings, college funds, and everything else in the lyrics of a bad country song (truck, sorry forgot the truck)? I don’t really know, to […]

Replacing Old Tapes With New Ones

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On the first page of the book “Cutting Loose: An Adult’s Guide to Coming to Terms with Your Parents,” by Howard Halpern (same guy who wrote “How to Break Your Addiction to a Person”) a good friend wrote: “This was […]

The Bipolar Puzzle: Kids and Bipolar Disorder

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I’ve been part of too many heated discussions lately on bipolar disorder among kids. Because I know of several cases where it’s been sheer heartache for the parents, it’s difficult for me not to respond defensively at folks who dismiss […]

I Said to my Soul: Be Still

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I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith But the faith and […]

Ten (or Eleven) Days to Self-Esteem

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Each summer I pick a project. A few years ago mine was to develop my self-esteem. According to David Burns, that should only take ten days. But nine months later, I’m still not there. From June to August last year, […]

What Do I Do With My Impure Thoughts?

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I’ve been amazed by the mass of comments posted to my articles about emotional and physical affairs: “10 Steps to End an Affair,” “The Emotional Affair,” and “10 Red Flags of an Emotional Affair.” Because guilt can be a major […]

12 Ways to Make (Good) Friends

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I was really sad to read that so many Beyond Blue readers don’t have four friends whom they could ask to compile lists of positive qualities in order to start a self-esteem file. It seemed that almost one-fourth of the […]

When Crap Befalls Decent People

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Whenever I come across a very sad story like I did today–about Katherine’s fellow 8-year-old classmate having Leukemia–I always go back to Harold Kushner’s classic “When Bad Things Happen To Good People.” Now, remind me again, good Rabbi, why does […]

Dirty Little Secret: Help for Children of Hoarders

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Amanda grew up with a mother who hoarded everything from shoes to coupons. Newspapers were stacked in the bathroom of her childhood home, clothes were piled so high on her mother’s bed that she slept on the living room sofa. […]

Growing Up Bipolar

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“Were you bipolar growing up?” a magazine editor asked me the other day. “I don’t know,” I said. “Do you think you were misdiagnosed back then as depressed?” “I don’t know,” I said. I wasn’t annoyed. I wasn’t rushed. I […]

7 Favorite Prayers

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I’m publishing my seven favorite prayers today because, as I mentioned on Monday’s post, I’ve been more depressed lately than I have been in a long while. I guess that’s good for the blog, ultimately, because I can speak better […]

Why Sugar Is Dangerous To Depression

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You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to appreciate the link between sugar and depression. Anyone who doubts the relationship need only to spend a night in our house and see what type of behavior happens when two kids […]

The Samaritan Woman and Loneliness

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On the combox of my post, “Struggle With, Not Victory Over,” Beyond Blue reader Ann asked me to reprint my blog about the Samaritan woman I wrote last March. Since the topic deals with loneliness and toxic relationships, I figured […]

Struggle With, Not Victory Over

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This piece is reprinted from awhile back. It’s tempting for anyone who writes about depression and anxiety to preach from hindsight, after he has “recovered” from his mood disorder: “This is what I did to free myself from addiction” … […]

Is It a Relapse?

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What does a relapse from depression feel like?

On Loneliness …

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The research is in. Loneliness isn’t just a case of the sniffles that can be cured by a singing Hallmark card. It’s associated with increased risk of heart disease, higher rates of inflammatory disease, and diminished immune function. According to […]

6 Things Every Kid Should Know About a Parent’s Depression

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Depression never happens in a vacuum. Like a ripple in the water, a parent’s illness can’t help but affect her offspring. Different studies have documented how depression in a new mother clearly affects her interactions with her baby or toddler. […]

11 Ways to Help a Loved One in Denial

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What if your friend, mother, sibling, or father-in-law is severely depressed but refuses to recognize it? Most of us have been there at least once in our life: the awkward spot where you know a loved one has a mood […]

Quotes on Perseverance

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I needs LOTS of coaching on perseverance because this essential virtue depends on another one called patience, which God ran out of the day He made me. Here are some beautiful quotes on perseverance: “Most of the things worth doing […]

Depression and Dysthymia: What It Feels Like and What Works

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Dan Fields, a consultant to the Grief Support Services of the Samaritans, recently crafted a beautiful piece that articulates what his dysthymia feels like. I think his description does a better job of communicating the subtle signs of male depression […]

The Highly Sensitive Person and 10 Survival Tips

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The topic of being “highly sensitive” surfaces quite a bit on Beyond Blue, because there is a strong correlation between those of us who suffer from mood disorders and acute sensitivity issues. If you’re confused right about now, you might […]

Love Them Anyway

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The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent M. Keith in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders. For more than thirty years, they have circled the globe, been graced on refrigerators, featured in speeches, and even put up […]

Be Still … No Really, Be Still: An Interview with Anne Simpkinson

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I’ve dedicated many Mindful Monday posts to the topic of stillness … like how to do it. I’m still really confused, to be perfectly honest, HOWEVER, I have met several soul sisters along the way that are pursuing the same […]

12 Ways to Keep Going

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A Beyond Blue reader recently asked me to forward this piece to her. I needed to read it again, too … to try to find the dogged determination within me to stay focused on hope, not hopelessness. Sorry for the […]

Why Does God Make It So Hard?

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This post is from last year this time. A Beyond Blue reader wrote to me the other day and asked, “How do you know that you are on the right path, and that God approves? Because if He did, why […]

Do You Hate Summer? You’re Not Alone

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Who would have known that there are so many summer haters out there? I didn’t think to write about summer depression until the cool website Mermaids of the Lake asked me to. (You must check out their site, because the […]

The Idiot’s Guide to Dealing With Idiots

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Idiots. The world is full of them. How hard it is for us, non-idiots, to put up with them. But to get our jobs done, our kids fed, and our pets groomed, we must deal with them. Idiots come in […]

10 Things To Do If You’re Stuck In a Rut

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What do you do when you’re stuck in a rut? Even though I’ve written about this in several posts—“12 Ways to Keep Going,” “Getting Through the Rough Spots,” and “12 Strategies to Help You Recover From Relapse”—I fail to remember […]

The Incredible Shrinking American Vacation

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Vacations are theoretical concepts that exist today only on paper. That’s according to Joe Robinson, work-life balance speaker, trainer, and author of “Don’t Miss Your Life.” His statistics are dire: Some 25 percent of Americans and 31 percent of low-wage […]

Better By Mistake: An Interview with Alina Tugend

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Afraid to make a mistake? Don’t be. According to author Alina Tugend, the best way to become an expert in your field is by making mistakes, lots of them, but to cooperate with the brain on learning from them. In […]

6 Ways to Stay Effective At Work When You’re Depressed

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How do you work when you’re depressed? I get that question a lot. Here’s the honest answer: I can’t. At least at my rock bottom, I wasn’t able to work. My efforts failed miserably because my self-confidence was way below […]

Therapy Thursday: Go Through It, Not Around It

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Beyond Blue: 12 Lessons of Depression

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Here are a dozen tools that help me manage my depression: the lessons and tricks I rely on to (try to) remain “Beyond Blue.”

6 Tips to Help Summer Depression

posted by Beyond Blue

The kids are out of school. Your neighbors are whistling on their way to work, greeting you with an enthusiasm peculiar to warm weather. And if you hear one more person ask you about your summer vacation plans, you will […]

Therapy Thursday: Don’t Take It Personally

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

The Wisdom of Knowing What and When to Let Go

posted by Beyond Blue

The following essay is an excerpt from a wonderful little book, “The Art of Uncertainty: How to Live in the Mystery of Life and Love It,” by Dennis Merritt Jones. Fruit drops from the tree when it is ready. Staying […]

The King’s Speech: A Story of Courage

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I am reprinting this post from this time last year. In the 2010 Oscar-winning historical film “The King’s Speech,” King George VI (Colin Firth) reluctantly assumes the throne and must overcome his stammer in order to speak with the authority […]

How Helping Others Can Get Us Through Tough Times: An Interview with Stephen G. Post, PhD

posted by Beyond Blue

One of the most powerful tools in my recovery from depression has been the act of helping those who suffer the same kind of pain as I do, and those whose pain I can’t imagine, like mothers who have lost […]

The Stupid Complex

posted by Beyond Blue

Nowhere in the DSM-IV does it mention “the stupid complex,” but I’m telling you it’s an epidemic these days. I used to suffer in silence. But ever since I’ve come out of the closet, I swear I find a fellow […]

Stop Thinking, Start Feeling: Take Your Hurts to Your Heart

posted by Beyond Blue

If you’ve studied the human brain as much as I have, you know exactly what is going on when you hit a patch of acute anxiety. You realize that the amygdala (fear center) of your brain has duct-taped the other, […]

Find Your Way: Check Your Assumptions

posted by Beyond Blue

Fellow Annapolis author R. K. Caroland wrote a nice little book called “Find Your Way.” I especially appreciate what he wrote about assumptions:   One of our biggest mistaken assumptions is that everyone thinks like me. So most of the […]

12 Office Depression Busters: Tips for Work Depression

posted by Beyond Blue

Tips to manage work depression.

Mindful Monday: Mourning the Loss of a Relationship

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As I read through the comments posted throughout Beyond Blue and on the discussion threads at Group Beyond Blue, I realize that a lot of readers are mourning the loss of special relationships. This prayer, by Henri Nouwen, articulates this […]

Are We Overmedicating? Or Is Our Health Care System Inadequate?

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People who’ve read only the first part of my book, Beyond Blue, often categorize me as being “anti-med” or a “psychiatrist-hater,” because in the early chapters I describe the arduous journey through hell and back trying to find a doctor […]

Getting the Love You Want, Over and Over Again

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In his New York Times bestseller, Getting the Love Your Want, psychologist Harville Hendrix explains why people who grew up in homes — well, a little like the one in the 2006 flick Little Miss Sunshine — without proper emotional […]

Mindful Monday: Words of Hope for Despair

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I wrote this response to Beyond Blue reader Kate after reading her despondent comments, but I wanted to republish them in case any of you are in a similar state. You say that no one could understand your despair. I […]

Therapy Thursday: Negotiate for What You Want in a Relationship

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Therapy Thursday: Give Back

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

12 Strategies to Help You Recover From a Relapse

posted by Beyond Blue

It’s a dreadful place. Relapse. Maybe you had hoped you’d never go there. Or maybe you stay awake fearing you will. It doesn’t matter. You don’t have to stay there for long. You’ll be on your way shortly. I prefer […]

6 Things Cancer Patients Have Taught Me

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As a graduate student pursuing a degree in theology twelve years ago, I took a course called Systematic Theology–by far my toughest class–by a brilliant professor who was dying of bone marrow cancer. No one knew she was dying. She […]

The 8 Best Spiritual Sound Bites of Graduation Advice

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I can’t remember all the speeches at my commencement ceremony. But I do remember looking up on the stage to see my best friend, the valedictorian of our class, sitting there among all the luminaries, and wondering how in the […]

Struggle With, Not Victory Over

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It’s tempting for anyone who writes about depression and anxiety to preach from hindsight, after he has “recovered” from his mood disorder: “This is what I did to free myself from addiction” … “Here are five steps to instant weight […]

Ring the Bells That Still Can Ring

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Last year this time I delivered the Commencement address to my alma mater, Saint Mary’s College in Notre Dame, Indiana. Since it is graduation season, I thought I’d repost it. Thank you, President Mooney. And thank you to all the […]

Label Me, Please

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For a long while I was afraid to write things such as “I am mentally ill” or “I am bipolar.” I was afraid of labels. By calling myself a manic-depressive would I trap my psyche in “sick” mode? By accepting […]

In Sickness and In Health

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“On Wednesday, I will leave my husband of twelve years. He is a depressive. He uses prescribed medication and has available to him a phalanx of good therapists. But he also self-medicates with alcohol. He disdains therapy. He refuses to […]

Therapy Thursday: Imagine the Worst

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Give Up on Being Perfect

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In “Being Perfect,” bestselling author Anna Quindlen advises high school and college graduates to work from a clean slate … to give up on being perfect. I keep the gift book beside my computer (with Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements” […]

The Fern and the Bamboo

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A classic that I like to post on Beyond Blue every now and then … One day I decided to quit…I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality…. I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to […]

The Moment I Knew I Was Depressed

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I have stopped describing what depression feels like to the person with no experience of this “black dog,” as Winston Churchill called it, or even an occasional bout of melancholy, because my inability to express the physical and mental deterioration, […]

Talent Isn’t Everything. Persistance Is.

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Whenever I see a cocky musical sensation laugh hysterically at the performance or audition of a desperate wanna-be pop singer on “American Idol” or any of its tacky knockoffs, I want to take the mic cord and wrap it around […]

The Addictive Personality: Why Recovery Is a Lifetime Thing

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In his insightful book, “The Addictive Personality: Understanding the Addictive Process and Compulsive Behavior,” author Craig Nakken explains why, even after an addict has given up the bottle or the weed, she will never be done with recovery:   Addiction […]

7 Favorite Prayers

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The Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment […]

Thank You

posted by Beyond Blue

I just wanted to say thank you for all of your supportive, kind, and touching comments. I’ve been having a difficult time lately, but your comments inspire me to keep going and worry only about the next 15 minutes. Thanks […]

Therapy Thursday: Imitate an Eagle

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

12 Ways to Keep Going

posted by Beyond Blue

A Beyond Blue reader recently asked me to forward this piece to her. I needed to read it again, too … to try to find the dogged determination within me to stay focused on hope, not hopelessness. A woman who […]

Art Buchwald: A Mental Health Hero

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I always like to feature the lives of my mental health heroes because I owe my life to their words, their testimonies, that fed me morsels of hope during my suicidal days. One is Art Buchwald. He was one of […]

Therapy Thursday: Build a Guesthouse For Your Feelings

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

No April Joke: 20 Things You Should Know About Suicide

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No joke. More suicides occur the month of April than any other month of the year. That doesn’t seem right, I know. Peach and azure tulips begin to open, the cherry blossoms, stunning with their pale pink flowers, perfume the […]

The Greatest Commandment: Show Up With Flowers

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I stayed relatively silent about my depression for two decades because I felt I had no right to complain. Two million children in Africa die a year from Malaria. That’s suffering. Mothers risk their lives to give birth in war-torn […]

Therapy Thursday: Get Off the (Legal) Drugs

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Am I Depressed or Just Deep?

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I spent my adolescence and teenage years obsessing about this question: Am I depressed or just deep?   When I was nine, I figured that I was a young Christian mystic because I related much more to the saints who lived […]

9 Ways to Live Easter Every Day

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The following piece is also featured as a Beliefnet gallery, which you can get to by clicking here. One of my favorite scripture verses is John 20:15, when Jesus finds Mary Magdalene crying at the door of the tomb and […]

On Good Friday: God of My Bitter Hours

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I thought it was appropriate to share this beautiful reflection of Joyce Rupp’s, inspired by the theologian Karl Rahner, on Good Friday. I found it in a beautiful book of reflections by Joyce Rupp called “Fragments of Your Ancient Name” […]

Be an April Fool … 9 Ways Humor Heals

posted by Beyond Blue

Of all my tools to combat depression and negativity, humor is by far the most fun. And just like mastering the craft of writing, I’m finding that the longer I practice laughing at life–and especially it’s frustrations–the better I become […]

Palm Sunday: Seeing the Big Picture

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Twelve years ago I sat next to an Indian man at the wedding reception of Eric’s best friend. He claimed that he was trained in the art of palm reading and asked if he could read my palm. “Ahh. Very […]

The Prosperous Heart: An Interview with Julia Cameron

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Six years ago, when I was climbing out of my severe depression, I read Julia Cameron’s bestselling book, “The Artist’s Way.” It helped me move from a place of insecurity to one of courageous creativity — laying out my innermost […]

Therapy Thursday: Get Off the (Legal) Drugs

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Living the Compassionate Life

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In November 2007, religious historian Karen Armstrong won the TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) award because of her many contributions that have made a profound difference in the world. Each recipient is given $100,000 and a wish for a better world. […]

Mindful Monday: Worry Not!

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A reader recently emailed this beautiful reflection: Do not look forward to what might happen tomorrow; the same everlasting Father who cares for you today will take care of you tomorrow, and everyday. Either He will shield you from suffering, […]

Therapy Thursday: Keep a Consistent Rhythm

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Springtime Depression: Don’t Worry About Not Being Happy

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(Formerly) Fresh Living blogger Valerie Reiss wrote a poignant post on Springtime depression. I found it very comforting because, although I am energized by the changing of seasons and more sunlight, I also feel pressured during the months of April and […]

I Pray For Dawn

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If I counted up all the minutes I’ve spent staring into a flame, I wonder how many years of my life that would be. Certainly more than the hours I’ve spent brushing my teeth or combing my hair. It would […]

Therapy Thursday: Carry a Blankie

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

10 Things You SHOULD Say to a Depressed Loved One

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The other day I covered 10 things you should not say to a loved one if you don’t want your name to come up in her therapy sessions. It covered a lot of ground, so I get why some folks […]

Mindful Monday: Get Lost During Lent

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In her new paperback, “An Altar in the World,” bestselling author Barbara Brown Taylor writes: Popular religion focuses so hard on spiritual success that most of us do not know the first thing about the spiritual fruits of failure. When […]

Therapy Thursday: Start Uni-Tasking

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I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

10 Things Not to Say to a Depressed Person

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CBS News and Health.com recently published a nice gallery listing what you SHOULD tell a depressed love one and what you SHOULD NOT. I have my own list. Here are 10 things you definitely DON’T want to say, a collection […]

Empty Yourself This Lent

posted by Beyond Blue

For me Lent is about emptying–a glass, a basket, a soul–so that it can be filled up again…with wine (or sparkling cider), peeps (think Easter basket), and hope. The forty days before Easter is one big humbling exercise–where you remind […]

Therapy Thursday: Find a Mentor

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

What Comes First? Religion or Depression

posted by Beyond Blue

There’s a cartoon picturing a chicken and an egg in bed together. The chicken is smoking a cigarette with a very satisfied expression on his face, and the egg is restless and disgruntled. The egg finally looks over to the […]

12 Ways to Pray During Lent

posted by Beyond Blue

This blog post has been also featured as a Beliefnet gallery. To get there click here. Lent, the 40 days preceding the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus, is supposed to be a time of fasting, where we chocoholics take […]

Therapy Thursday: Take a Shower

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Understanding Faith and Depression: The Ashes This Year Were Perfect (Staying Open to Grace Is Enough)

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I was so moved by this essay on faith and depression composed by an anonymous Beyond Blue reader. I hope you find as much hope in it as I did. There is a dark smudge on my forehead. I am […]

On President’s Day: How Lincoln Used Faith to Overcome Depression

posted by Beyond Blue

Abraham Lincoln is a powerful mental health hero for me. Whenever I doubt that I can do anything meaningful in this life with a defective brain (and entire nervous system, actually, as well as the hormonal one), I simply pull […]

How Do You Heal Loneliness?

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If I had to name the most common complaint I hear among depressives, it is that they are lonely. Just five minutes ago, I replied on a thread within Group Beyond Blue to a woman who started a thread called […]

Rewire Your Brain For Love: An Interview with Marsha Lucas, Ph.D.

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In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I thought I’d feature an interview with a very cool licensed psychologist and neuropsychologist that I was lucky enough to meet in person at a book signing back in September. Marsha Lucas, Ph.D., has […]

Love Deeply …

posted by Beyond Blue

Valentine’s Day is a good time to remember all the ways we can be loving, not just to the guy/gal sitting across from you at the kitchen table, but also your boss, your mother, your boss’s mother, and her mother. […]

Therapy Thursday: Sweat

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Scrupulosity: What It Is and Why It’s Dangerous

posted by Beyond Blue

If you sprinkle a hefty dose of Catholic (or Jewish) guilt unto a fragile biochemistry headed toward a severe mood disorder, you usually arrive at some kind of a religious nut. Not that there’s anything wrong with that! For I […]

The Treasures of Darkness

posted by Beyond Blue

We often equate darkness with sorrow, misery, get-me-the-hell-out-of-here reaction. At least I do. That’s why I keep a mammoth Happy Lite on my smallish cubicle at work. But darkness can also be a treasure. Say what? J. R. Miller writes […]

On Groundhog Day: 12 Winter Depression Busters

posted by Beyond Blue

Last year on this day, I got fired. That was a real pleasant Groundhog Day. I was so confused by what had happened that I drove around the D.C. beltway twice. I missed my exit, and realized that halfway around […]

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