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And Then Life Happens …

posted by Beyond Blue

American journalist Allen Saunders was the first one to coin the phrase, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” I’m sure most of you can appreciate the truth of those words.

In the last three years, life events have had me in a kind of half-nelson, from which I keep trying to escape instead of relax and surrender … as much as human beings can. I’ve gone over some of this before, so I apologize if it’s redundant to some readers….

Three years ago, my life took an unexpected turn when the construction market sort of fell into the toilet, and the world suddenly had little need for architects like my husband. I began my mad chase for a job with benefits, or at least health care insurance and a stable income.

My mental health/ spirituality writing is, without question, my passion and what I feel is my life purpose.

But they can’t exactly feed my family or give us the health insurance we need. So I became a government contractor and consultant with one of those humongous companies that has its own TV ads. I got fired. Well, first I was sent to boot camp. But even after I graduated from there, I still wouldn’t drink the freak’in Kool-Aid. Back to freelance writing I came. However, to make enough income, I had to work like four jobs. So I wrote for a gazillion Web sites. When my appendix burst, I took it as a sign that I did not have same DNA as Linda Carter (Wonder Woman). Besides, my COBRA health insurance plan was about to run out, and I know by experience that good health insurance must be priority number one when career planning.

Last August, as soon as I got stitched up (literally), I took a full time position leading the communication efforts of a small, local technology firm. Even though I am not an engineer or ontologist (just learned what that is!), and do not get AS excited about cloud computing and Semantic Web technology as other software developers, I feel incredibly blessed to have found a company where I can be myself (sarcastic as hell) without being sent to sensitivity training, to be at a place where I genuinely like and respect all of my co-workers. It’s a first!

I have tried, over the last six months, to maintain Beyond Blue as best as I can. But it has taken a toll on me, as well as my family. In the last two months, my husband and I have also had to address some important issues that have surfaced with both kids—hours of attention (patience attention) that are impossible to give when you’re stressed out. And in the last two weeks, we’ve had a health crisis in our family that will require extra caregiving on our part (and additional hours).

Life happens when you are busy making plans.

I don’t mean to whine, as I have been criticized for doing on this blog. But I do feel the need to be perfectly honest with you about where I am, because I find that when I lay my problems and burdens out like this, some of you are relieved to know someone else is struggling to get through the day, and that the person writing this blog has plenty of issues herself.

So what does this mean for Beyond Blue?

I’ve decided to not renew a contract for right now; I don’t want the pressure of having to produce an original piece every day, or at least four times a week. However, I am going to try my best to post something at least three times a week. I may have to rely heavily on archives, but many of you come and go, so I don’t think that will be a huge problem.

On a post I recently published on how to grieve the loss of a loved one, a reader asked how to grieve the loss of a dream …

I thought it was an excellent question, one for which I’m still trying to find the answer. In a sense, I feel like that’s what I’m going through right now … I’m transitioning from being a professional writer on a topic that inspires the best in me to being a communications advisor—with a little writing on the side as a hobby. Beyond Blue is no longer a primary source of revenue. When introduced to people, I won’t say I am a “writer” or “blogger.” It’s now a hobby or a ministry that I do when I can.

I will still write original posts when I can. And you will see at least three posts/a week for now. But trust that you are not alone if life is happening while you are busy making plans.

Artwork by the talented Anya Getter.



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment JLLB

    Therese, you have to do what’s best for you and your family. I’m sorry to hear that you have some difficult situations going on in your family right now and hope that they can be resolved. Anyone who doesn’t understand your responsibility to care for you and your family first ought to take a look at his/her own priorities. I will miss seeing your daily posts, but pray that reducing your stress level will help keep your mental health in check. Be well!

  • http://journeyingbeyondbreastcancer.com/ Marie Ennis-O’Connor (@JBBC)

    Oh Therese, I really do understand why you have to do this and admire you hugely for knowing how to make the right decision for your health, but I feel as if I am losing a friend in the darkness here. I shall miss your posts very much – but hope that I can still continue to read you someplace, sometime. Wishing you all the very best for the future – you have made an incredible difference to my life with your writing on Beyond Blue.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Maria

    Therese-
    Thank you for all of the time you’ve spent on “beyond blue.” Many of your posts and insights have gotten me through some very difficult places in my life. You will be in my thoughts and prayers as you make this transition in your life.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Regina Brett

    Therese, your ministry is all of it. Your writing. Your husband. Your children. Your job. Your illness. Your joys. Thank you for sharing all of it with us. May peace be your companion on the next step of this journey.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Betsy

    Therese~ I first found you reading your books and then came to your blog. For me also, there were times that your insight, experience and encouragement helped get me through the day. It must have taken great courage to make the decision to step back from writing for now, but know that for me at least, as a reader I would want you to always choose yourself and your family above all else. Please be safe, healthy and happy as you pass through this challenging time.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Ron

    Best wishes to you as the rest of your life happens. I have enjoyed reading your posts and will keep an eye out for them in the future. Take care and best wishes to your husband and your children as well.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Ray J

    Therese, Thank you for explaining what is going on for you! I’m glad that you have decided to do what you need to do to take care of your family and yourself. I will always be a Beyond Blue reader (as long as it’s here). You have helped me many times more than I can say. I have both your books, and they have also been a great help to me. I’ve been very lucky in that my depression is mostly “controlled,” but when those times come when I’m looking into the black hole and feel it sucking at me, I come here and read many of your posts – thanks for the links on the side. Thank you for all you do!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Anna Balasi

    No matter where you are, I’ll find you. :P

    j/k

    I’m not trying to stalk you :D, just that I’m always glad to hear from you. Whatever and wherever your thoughts are, whether they are few and far between or frequent updates, they are always welcome.

    That said, thank you for putting the time and effort you did on Beyond Blue. Truly, your written thoughts have always been a balm to my often frantic emotions more times than you probably realize, by blog, by book, or by email. Even your automatic reply has calmed me. Seriously–a reminder that everyone should realize that emails don’t have to be answered immediately, as in RIGHT NOW. If it doesn’t involve giving blood or a defibrillator, I think emails can wait a bit.

    I’ll always be a fan of you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Barbara Bowman

    Therese,

    You are an amazing woman of incredible resilience. So much of who you are, and are able to accomplish, comes from your relationship with God. Times that you’ve written about therapy have been an inspiration to me to quit treading water, and do some work in my sessions.

    I pray that health concerns are manageable, and that your family’s path becomes straighter, and smoother.

    You are a gem, dear friend.
    bb

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Nicole

    I have learned so, so much from you (from your site & your book!), and have directed others to follow suit. Setting boundaries, like you are doing, is a great tool for finding balance. Best wishes on your new adventure.

    I was happy to read you’ll still be posting when you can & providing readers “older” posts to help light the way in all aspects of our lives.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Jami

    I can’t believe anyone could label you a whiner…I find your honesty refreshing. Don’t the vast majority of us make concessions to our dreams in order to meet our financial needs?
    Doing what one has to do is to be admired and respected, and I’ll be happy to see any of your posts, irrespective of the frequency.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mike Yuda

    Best of luck!! Thank you so much for everything…your book was/is a masterpiece. :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Melissa

    I’;m very sorry to hear that this Beyond Blue won’t continue into another contract. I just found it. Just reading the blog about you has me knowing that I’m not alone (like I have felt for all of my life). I wish you the best for yourself and your family. Things do get better, they really do. Life is what happens….. we all have learned that the older we get. Best wishes to you and your family, health and happiness. May you return someday with insprational words for all of us, I know I will be looking forward to it….

    Melissa

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Claire

    YES you can say that you are a writer. You ARE. The fact that you are not getting paid to do it is irrelevant! My husband is a skier-he doesn’t get paid for it. He is still a skier.
    I will miss you but understand and look forward to whatever it is you can manage to put out there. Best to you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Myke McCormick

    I’m hesitant, Hell no I’m not At all Hesitant to offer advice!
    When I feel life has a strangle hold on me, I breathe deep, pray…a lot. Usually I discover it is my struggles that are the strangle hold, the situation…God holding me tight.
    I’m praying this will happen to you.
    The bad news…you don’t deserve it. The really, really good news…God doesn’t care. He gives. He doesn’t pay back.
    When someone asks me what I “Am” I try always to respond, Christian, Human Being, 6’1 about 200 lbs (because that one was really hard.)
    This is often followed by, “I mean what do you do?” Sometimes I just say Poet and Philosopher. (I was making quite a bit of money as a Sales Engineer when I started this practice.)
    So yes, what you do is write. Perhaps not as often as you’d like but that’s not their business unless you want it to be.
    Tell others only how much you want. Never Apologize. You’ve done nothing to apologize for.
    Listen to Argent’s, “Hold Your Head Up High, Woman!” Hang a large Calligraphy, God Is Never Surprised. put it when you will see it often. Make it really big.
    Live, your children’s memories are the most precious thing you can give them.
    Forgive long winded old men. We love you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment April

    I’m thinking that you could ask readers to submit blog posts to you as “guest” writers. Maybe we can all share the load ….. you then could publish those that seem appropriate….in the role of “editor.” This may be less stress and keep the blog going. I’d love to try my hand at a small blog post and I better others out there would too!

  • http://www.grampybill.com Bill Van Howe

    Yes, do what you need to do. Be what you want to be. You have proven that you are an excellent writer…you have proven that you have a heart of gold. Take care of the special gifted child of God that you truly are. AND thank you for being a channel for inspiration, humor, and good sense.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Paula

    I want to add my thanks to all the others. You have helped me get through the days that don’t go so easily. With all the challenges you face, I wish you well and hope that with this new job life is a little easier to manage. I’ll be reading what nuggets you are able to get out there. Thanks again for sharing.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Cheri

    Thank you for all of your honest communication! Please just write whatever and whenever….you help so much. I pray that all goes smoother for you and your family.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kathy

    wow!I am going to miss you! And I definately understand why you are doing what you are. It shows that you are person that gives things your best… I understand the need to step back and do what you are doing.God Bless you and your family I will read what you post when you can. Now to find a new beginning to my day….. hmmmm

  • http://Responsetopost Kathleen

    Have enjoyed your posts. Seven years ago I gave up a blossoming career in order to take care of our children. They were not doing well with my time away. I have never regretted it and after grieving (don’t let it last as long as I did!) you will not regret it either. I am a newcomer to your posts so archives will be new to me. Thanks.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Adam

    Beyond Blue,
    I hope you find good balance in the weeks and months ahead. And thank you.

  • http://www.MaryAWitt.com Mary A. Witt, M.M.F.T.

    I wish I could remember how I first found you! And were you the person who first introduced me to Henri Nouwen?

    I think your decision makes sense. Eight years is a long time. I’m glad the archives will still be available.

    May your marriage and family be blessed and strengthened.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary

    Hi Therese. As always, the truthfulness of your writing hits home for me, and I can imagine many, many others who read your posts and don’t comment (or comment that often). We have so much to learn from each other, and we will learn more about how to cope and in the coping, find ways to enjoy our lives when those we come in contact with share the good and bad, and speak honestly about both. I’ll continue to look forward to your posts, whenever they come. You’re lucky to have found a job that feels comfortable, I have as well since I last wrote you months ago. Take care of yourself and your family. Like the flight attendants say, “Secure your own oxygen mask first, before helping the person next to you.”

    Thanks as always,
    Mary

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Barbara

    Sounds like a good idea – you have been on a roller coaster that sounds familiar to me and deserve a break. I too have taken a job primarily to secure health insurance and have had to put off dreaming of a more fulfilling job for now. The dream of being a good mother to my two girls is the one that drives me forward even when boredom and frustration make me crazy – ok crazier.

    I will look forward to any posts you can offer – there is so much solace in knowning that others struggle with the beast of depression and anxiety. Your wisdom is often a bright note in the darkness.

    Best to you and your family

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Adri

    Thank you Therese, your posts have helped me so much, I will miss you. I will look forward to any other posts, love the way you write.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Margaret

    Blessings to you. Your gift of writing will be used in ways that you now are not able to imagine. Redo the post on 10 things not to say to a depressed person and 10mthings to say.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Margaret

    Dearest Therese,

    You have made the correct decision.

    As you know, our priorities need to be this:
    God, Family, Work – in that order.

    Your posts on Beliefnet have helped keep me going. I will miss having something to read each day, that has come from your heart and experience.

    I’m Thankful I have your books. If I need a Spiritual dose from Therese, I will open one of them.

    God will Bless you, as you continue on this Journey.

    I will keep you and yours in my prayers.

    May you have God’s Peace in your heart.

    Hugs,

    Margaret

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment J

    Your daily articles are inspiring. I hope you can keep it going with repeats for awhile or have good guest writers. May God Bless you through your challenging times. Don’t quit or give up.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment djhoney

    Just wishing you the best at this difficult time. You will be in my prayers. You have made a difference in my life.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Linna

    Perfectly understandable! As a relatively newbie to Beyond Blue I know I appreciate the “reruns”! You and your family have to come first. Thanks for all you do! ;-) I’ve learned a lot.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Holly

    Here you go again, being a terrific, honest, open role model for me. I read you daily. I haven’t let you know often enough what a life raft your writing has frequently been, a comforting place of inspiration and encouragement. To see you put yourself, your health, your relationship and family as most important in your life reminds me to think and act on what mine must be. Writing about depression and its attendants may work its way back into the weave – it’s just being held in the back for now. Who knows what is waiting for you? May it be wonderful and fulfilling. Thank you, Therese, for your generosity and caring.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Jean

    I support anyone’s decision made on the basis of what is in their best interest in terms of self care!I have enjoyed your articles and have used a number of them as topics in my depression and bipolar support group when I’ve facilitated. I look forward to reading your new articles as they come out. Take care!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Carol

    Every day when I turn on my computer I look forward to Beyond Blue. It has helped me SO much to know that someone else feels the way I do, and that I’m not CRAZY. Please don’t give up writing this column, if it’s only for one posting a week. I’ll be lost without it, and you. I wish you the best of good luck.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Beth

    Thank you for this. I’m about to accept a job that is not about following my passion, that is full-time rather than the part-time that I feel is best for my family…because we desperately need the money and health insurance. My real passion will have to live in-between, for now, and with your helpful message I can see this as something other than victimization!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Nancy

    Therese,
    Your book, this blog, your honesty, humor and insight have all been a gift. I will happily read and re-read anything you write, anywhere. Wishing the very best for you and your family.

    Ok, those were my mature comments. My first selfish thought was “Say it ain’t so!” :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Gary C

    Therese,

    Nothing endures but change. Heraclitus.

    You have awakened many a miracle within my soul, and for this I am deeply grateful to you. Your words came to me is whispers, when I needed to hear; your words pierced through the darkness when I most needed light; your words appeared when I doubted the magic of hope.

    But here is the beauty, like you, your words still endear and endure. They will come to all of us when we need them most. Your are special this way. Perhaps, it is your turn to awaken to the pending miracle yet to happen. Listen then for your whisper, look then for your light, and yes, as you have taught us – discard the crutches and run.

    You will be here. We will be here. But take my thanks to your heart and know I treasure what you have given. And my friend Heraclitus reminds us both: Eternity is a child playing, playing checkers; the kingdom belongs to a child.

    Best of blessings about to be, Therese,
    Gary

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sheila Penney

    Therese,
    You have been such an inspiration to me as I have struggled with my depression and anxiety. You are doing what you have shared with us so many times. You have to take care of yourself and those you love. Your heart warming, funny and honest writing has helped me and others so much. Please know that you are in my thoughts and that you are never far from your readers. We will embrace you in our hearts and minds forever. Thank you for showing us you are a beautiful person first, not your mental illness. I will look forward to any and all posts that you are able to share with us. Take care of yourself and your beloved family.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Melissa

    enjoy most of your articles. perhaps I could write a few? hope everything goes well with you and your family.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Marc

    It takes a lot of courage and clarity to be able to say this is where I am, this is what I can do, and this what I cannot do–at least not right now. I share the sentiments expressed by others–especially those which one way or another recognize that whether you write a column each day or once a month, or never do another, your presence in our lives will remain through your words and your person. That’s the power of what you do and I hope you put that in your “self-esteem file”.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Susan

    Therese, Sorry to hear that you will have to back off, but I am proud of you for doing what needs to be done, for yourself and those you love. You are an inspiration for me, and I’m sure hundreds of others. Like you say, “Life happens”. I too encountered a new health issue — a nasty form of arthritis — just before the holidays. There are meds, but they jazz my brain, and often deepen my chronic depression. Yet, I think of you and how well you cope with all tht has been dealt you and I think to myself that I too can “keep the faith” and keep on keeping on. Take care, dear lady. I’ll look forward to hearing from you when I can.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Cheryl

    Therese – you have been a big part of my journey over the last year to mental health (which has been a life long battle). Finding your books, this site and your videos was miraculous for me. Seeing that others struggle in the same ways that I often have lifted the cloud of isolation. I have been going through huge struggles in my life as well, but am finally seeing some light at the end of the tunnel, which only means that I think I am growing up/getting healthy – because my circumstances haven’t changed – just my perspective.

    You have helped me with your honesty and transparency which is rare in our culture. You gave me permission to expand my knowledge to include meditation and mindfulness in my daily habits. I have read virtually every book you recommended and also counted on the consistency of the Beyond Blue emails daily.

    I think of you often, and feel very blessed to have travelled the last year with you. I think you have planted some seeds that have grown well in me and I feel strong enough now to let you go on with your journey. I know who I am in Christ now, I know that He gave me a sound mind, and the one that isn’t sound, I have learned how to overcome it and get back to peace. Not always easy but it is now achievable.

    So I bless your journey, your talent and your family. God speed and peace be with you. You have made a difference in this world – never doubt it.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment margie

    Just wanted you to know that I feel your “Beyond Blue” is wonderful. Real..
    I totally relate to you as I am sure many others do. You must do what is best for you & your family. How to grieve for a dream. I guess have a new one ! Be well & know you
    have helped real people. (not whiners).
    You were named well. Smile…….

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment natalie

    Therese-You have become such a dear friend with your posts. I admire your honesty and transparency in so many writings. You will be missed, but life does indeed keep happening.
    May God’s blessings be with you and your family as you continue on the road…..may you be able to hurry back!
    Blessings and a hug,
    Natalie

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Madeline

    Dear Therese,

    Thank you for all the honest, sometimes funny, always helpful blogging and videos.

    You know your priorities, and I wish you nothing but the best for you and your family.

    We are blessed that there will still be your words to help us.

    Thank you again. Hope you realize how much of an impact you have made for so many of us struggling along.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kim

    Thank you for keeping it real, as always. I recently took a new job, working more hours than I’d like, for the good of our family. The angst I expected hasn’t happened. Rather, it’s been a blessing all around. Surprise…I have less time to ruminate and can’t just crawl in bed because it’s dreary and I feel low. All any of us can do is keep on keepin’ on, adjusting to what presents itself. In hindsight, I’ve always found blessings in change I didn’t choose or plan for. Terese, you are such a blessing and you carry that with you no matter where you are or what you are doing. Thank you for saying “yes” to your ministry and being open to God’s will for your life. God bless you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kim

    Sorry I left the “h” out of your name in my previous post. :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Moner

    Dear Therese,

    You’ve been a great source of comfort to me in the past several years.

    I’ll settle for even one weekly post, instead of not hearing from you at all.

    Take care,

    >^..^<

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment kate

    congrats on doing what you need to do and on making changes where you need to…you must be grieving and we will miss you but you and your family come first! thank you and take care! xx

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Anne Thompson

    T,

    U do what u need to do to take care of yourself and those precious children God blessed you with. While I know I would miss it if I didn’t see your blogs I can always look at old posts, see your picture, pick up your books that I am proud to have and go on. You are not our Dr’s and we are not your responsibility. I think you need someone to tell you that you owe NO one an explanation. I pray that things improve for you, with the personal issues you have had as well as financially. I am glad you like the fit in the job you have secured and wish you only the BEST! Keep in touch and know that you have alot of people supporting you as you have us!
    love, Mary Anne

  • http://www.storiedmind.com/ John Folk-Williams

    Hi, Therese -

    Blogging may become a spare time activity, but your deeply wise and funny writing, as well as your great videos, will always be as important to me as life is. Maybe that sounds a bit grand, but I’ve learned too much from you to put it any differently. Family needs always come first, and I hope life will turn again to give you free choice in what you want to do with your amazing skills. I look forward to every original post you have time for – and I hope there will be many.

    John

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Marianne Griebler

    Theresa, I just want to tell you that I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself and your family. It’s absolutely what you must do and I’m glad you found the courage to follow your gut! That said, I also want to tell you how much your blog has meant to me; how greedily I’ve read each post because the message is always — loud and clear — that I am not alone in how life so often leaves me bruised and bewildered. So I’ll take whatever posts you have time to put together and will lap up the “repeats” as eagerly the second, third or tenth time. Because you’ve spoken to the truth in this blog and that’s a gift worth recycling. Peace, my sister.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Michelle

    It is hard to know what else to say, I agree with all of the other thankful and supportive comments from others. I have struggled with chronic depression for over 30 years but have never related to anyone more than I have to you. I found your blog and books last summer and they have helped me to feel less ashamed and more able to recognize this condition as an illness instead of a failure. I respect you and admire you and feel sure that you will continue to increase understanding about mental illness. If not through a daily blog, then through your interactions, the way you care for yourself so you can care for you family, your perseverance, your honesty, and for your recognition that this condition is tough and you have to make the hard choices sometimes. I wish all good things for you and your family and hope the coming year provides courage and stability. Thank you so much.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Joyce

    Therese, I am so going to miss having you show up in my inbox every day, but I understand the pressure you’re under and that you absolutely DO have to take care of YOU, absolutely. In the end, you are left with you, and nobody else, so you’d better be as healthy as possible so that you can deal with yourself(I sure hope that made sense, lol. I didn’t get it into the words I thought it should be.). But, I will definitely be grateful to read you at least three times a week…please, more if you can without stressing over it, ok? Mainly, tho, please just take care of yourself, and then your family. And good luck to you!!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Paula

    In my on-going relationship with depression NO ONE has reached me and healed me like you have. Heaps and heaps of blessings and gratitude. Less can be more. XO

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment julia

    As a reader of your column for about 8 months, and a woman probably old enough to be your Mom . . . let me just say the pause button is very often the best choice. Take the time you and your family need. And above all do not feel the least bit guilty, yes a hard thing for any Catholic woman. You are where you need to be, the inner voice of the Holy Spirit is never wrong. Blessings my friend . . .

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Tracy

    You have been an inspiration and a blessing! Thank you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Bern

    Thanks as always for sharing–I have always enjoyed your posts, when I’ve had time to read them–they resonate with me in a special way. Enjoy what you can, every day, and never give up the dream. Trouble don’t last for always.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Terri

    Thank you Theresa for opening your heart to other people like myself with anxiety, fears, and negative thinking………I have been getting your beyond blue blogs for about maybe 2 years…….thank you for your honesty about your struggles that you face because I know i can relate to many things your write about but I just let don’t speak them out loud…i’m so glad you have found a job you like and that you like the people and can be yourself……blessing to you and your family……..take care of yourselves, i will also try to take care of myself and my family….i am actually in the same situation with my husband losing his job and health care benefits running out in 3 months…i have applied for health insurance but was denied because of my bi-polar…..with Aetna………i’m glad you have a job that covers your health insurance…i’m hoping I can do the same as I am a substitute teacher and do not have benefits………..i am hopeful to find a solution to this issue soon…….

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Claire

    As one of your faithful readers (but a RARE commenter), I just wanted to throw out there that I/we do understand. We appreciate your ministry so much, so very much, you have no idea. But in the midst of life making other plans, I expect you to take care of yourself and your family FIRST, and we will be here when you have a chance to say Hi. :) Thank you for your ministry here. :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Larissa

    Thank you for this blog and sharing your decisions and thoughts. I will look forward to the times when you can be in touch.

  • http://www.whystaycatholic.com michael leach

    Therese, this is one of the most honest, beautiful blogs by a beautiful, honest person. We all hope things change, as they do, and you will be back doing what you love fulltime. You are not saracastic, by the way, you are ironic. Saracasm is mean-spirited and aims to hurt others. You are never like that. You are often ironical which pokes fun at the human condition. We all love you for that. Don’t give up BB completely. Please!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Lori S

    Thank you for being a human being. Most of us will be here supporting you from afar, trusting that everything happens for a reason. Take care of yourself and family first. And thank you for sharing your talent, your hurt and your insights with us. Know that you made a difference.
    All my heart to you.
    Lori S

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Amanda

    Therese:

    Thank you for your efforts here. I found my way here somehow and REALLY appreciated finding a place focused more on recovery and thinking clearly than on depression itself and wallowing in it.

    I relate totally to your comments above – like trying to find a job with benefits. Hell I’d take one without benefits at this point too.

    Take good care and stay strong.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment GINNY

    Therese
    learning that you must move on from beyond blue is quite a blow. You have inspired me countless times and pulled me bacl feom black more than once. I will miss your wisdom and that of the many readers as well. Best of luck in your new career.

  • http://www.lorihope.com Lori Hope

    Therese, you don’t know me, but as a fellow author/blogger whose chosen work doesn’t pay many (if any) bills, I want to say how deeply I feel for you. Our lives can change in a moment: mine did, when I was diagnosed with cancer. Others change (and mine could) when they faced with unemployment or a dire need for health insurance (it disgusts me that this should be of concern…but that is another story…)
    In any event, I can see how beloved you are and how missed you will be. Hopefully you will be back here in full swing before long.
    Always hope,
    Lori

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Lori

    But I just found you! I do understand. I hope you are able to write. I will pray for you

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Cristina

    This is the only blog I read from time to time. It has been VERY helpful to me life. Love you honesty and how real you are!
    I totally understand and relate to your life… my husband is also an arquitect and we live in Florida, so you can just imagine how crazy our life has been the past few years. Health insurance is a dream for me right now. But things are slowly getting better. One day at a time.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sue Colvin

    hi Therese :)

    i haven’t posted before but i wanted you to know that your posts/blogs will be missed.
    you’ve been an encoragement to me.
    i’ve never consider you a ‘whiner’.
    i’ve found it helps to rant & get things off your chest. plus you can help others at the same time :)
    thx for all you’ve done <3
    i understand all too well that life happens.
    be well & may god bless you richly as you progress in life.
    big hugs/prayers, sue

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