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Therapy Thursday: Befriend Yourself

pocket therapist front cover small.jpgI have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. Many of them are published in my book, “The Pocket Therapist: An Emotional Survival Kit.

Have you ever wondered how long one of your friends would stick with you if you talked to her the way you shout at yourself?


My therapist calls me on this dichotomy practically every session.

“What would you say to a friend in your shoes?” she’ll ask me.

“I’d tell her to be gentle with herself, to eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s and spend three hours watching Oprah if it made her feel better.”

Of course I need not go that far—especially if I don’t want to weigh 300 pounds–to exercise a little kindness to myself. Most of the time, all I have to do is to put away the whip, and make myself a friendship bracelet instead.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sam Gyura

    Love this

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Anne Thompson

    If u read my comment from yesterdays post then u know that right now being my own friend is tough. I am closer to my cat and dog who are here with me and know something is wrong with Momma than most people!
    I normally enjoy cross stitch, crafting, especially this time of yr with the Harvest decorations. I just can’t get past the front door. My wrecked car is in the driveway, gives me PTS everytime I look at it. I have decided to have it hauled off. I have my Mother’s family giving me a hard time about the house I am living in which my Mother was given a life estate to. But now that she moved in with my Sister to care for her they want me out and want it back. A 70 yr old, woodframe house that needs ALOT of work. But it is paid for. Being perm disabled I live off of $449 a mth and food stamps. I get just enough to pay the utilities. I do not have the money to replace my car. I am just hanging in here till whatever happens in this World happens. My personal belief is all HELL is going to break loose in Oct/Nov of this yr. With my Native American bloodline and beliefs I know our time left on this planet is very short. I am just occupying until the end…..

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment tutelstar

    Wow. I should remember this. Thanks.

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