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Be You Very Well

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St. Francis de Sales had four words of advice for pursuing spiritual excellence: “Be you very well.”
I used to think if you survived junior high without too many scars, you could live comfortably in your own skin for the rest of your days.
But the last six months at a large consulting firm made junior high seem like one long love fest. It was clear from the start that one thing in that place was different from the others (me) and the only way to thrive would have been to morph into an entirely different kind of person.
While I was employed at the firm, I could not publish anything new or personal. I had signed a non-disclosure agreement that had my hands tied … thus, all the book reviews and interviews and posts that I had stockpiled last summer to last until the day I could invest myself again into writing. Every day I lived in fear that I’d be fired, paranoid that my casual and very personal way of being would win me yet another invitation for behavior modification. So when I was finally laid off, I felt tremendous relief.
Emerging from the firm with my soul intact is, I feel, a tremendous accomplishment for me, one that goes into my self-esteem file. Because by far the easier thing to do would have been to lose myself within its walls. To put work in front of health, and business before laughter.
God’s timing was perfect. An hour before I was laid off, another writing gig was offered to me, so between that and writing Beyond Blue, I should be able to concentrate on what I’m good at and leave the consulting behind me.
Thank you immensely for your ongoing support during the last six months. You have no idea how many times I came home from my job in tears only to read your beautiful affirmations.
Remember those four words: Be you very well.
Illustration by Anya Getter.

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  • Elizabeth

    What a terrible time you must have had! I am glad you are out of there and able to work on your writing again.
    What is your other writing gig? Another blog? A book? Anything we, your Beyond Blue readers could have access to?
    Elizabeth-

  • http://www.beliefnet.com/beyondblue Therese Borchard

    Elizabeth,
    Thank you! Now I get to respond to comments too! I will be writing another blog, in addition to Beyond Blue, but need to wait to the formal announcement is made. Thank you for your support. Therese

  • Tom

    I felt the same way when I was layed off over 2 1/2 years ago (you go, girl!! ;-) In fact, when the VP called me into his office I had to finish his sentence for him (followed-up by high-pitched laughter from me, yet somehow I was able to keep it from hysterical proportions). He gave me a letter of recommendation anyways.
    Cheers.

  • http://www.beliefnet.com/beyondblue Therese Borchard

    Funny, Tom! I love it!

  • Renata

    Wondered why there was no new material, but I still enjoyed the older postings. I am glad you are so much happier,and I have very much enjoyed your new postings.
    You continued to be a bright light to so many folks, our angel Therese!
    Blessings, dear one!

  • Nancy

    Therese,
    I read your blog every day. It really is like therapy for me. I have learned so much more about mental illness because you are so honest and informed. Your blog helps me remember that my emotional heath is something I need to constantly monitor. I hope you continue to be able to do the “personal” writing as long as it is fulfilling for you. I am sure it means so much to many – as it does to me.

  • Barbara Bowman

    I am so happy for you Therese. What a sense of relief! And how special that your new writing gig came “coincidentally” when you needed it. I had a similar “coincidence” back a few years ago when my unemployment ran out and I was offered a well-paying tutoring job which tided us over till I got the teaching position I have now. Please let us know about the new blog as soon as you can.
    Much love.

  • BellaTerra66

    So good to have your back, Therese!

  • Jen

    You’re freeeeeee! Your patience has paid off, Terese :-) It’s so wonderful to have YOU back and I can’t wait to hear what’s going on in your life. In good times and difficult, I find myself going back to Romans 3:5b-6, “we rejoice in our sufferings because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance, character, and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us.” Not only can we find hope in our suffering (ok, we can try, though there are many times none of us want to), but we can look back in times of hope and see that we survived some terrible times to reach them! I think Dory from Nemo gives her own spin on it, “Just keep swimming.” You kept swimming, Terese!

  • Frank

    Therese! You have been rescued from the crusher! Hahaha! My career has been spent in what I affectionately call the bone crusher. At various times it has been a place of crushing monotony and boredom but most of the time it was a place to try to conform or perish. The twice monthly deadlines were terrible for a person who thrived on adrenalin and suffered from the swings of bipolarity. How did I survive? I think God was looking out for me. And in the latest iteration, I see that I make better health choices and am able to be more proactive in speaking out for myself – and others. That has been empowering. But it will never be the place where creativity is given half rein – much less full rein. The crusher doesn’t value creativity but rather conformity. Somehow, the corporate persona, in spite of speaking to values and mission statements that value the identity and integrity of the individual, really is almost exclusively concerned with cutting off the tops and bottoms of all the waves so that they can be neatly shoved through the shreader. You have escaped! That is the important thing – for you – and for us. You are a source of wisdom, humor, hope and friendship. Those values are revealed because of your creative freedom and personal pain – the honesty is more than refreshing; it’s invigorating. Keep on the sunny side and know that your readers are celebrating your return!

  • Chris

    I am so glad you are back!

  • bette

    I wish you the best, your words are so inspiring, I look forward to your insights daily.
    I am grateful

  • Joan

    I too am glad to have you return. I look forward to your inspiring articles!

  • Andy

    Congratulations Therese. To thine own self be true (and you were). To me and many others your writing talents are appreciated very much.

  • viqueen

    I’m certain your corporate experience will serve you with greater understanding of others’ as they struggle to survive in a left brain world.
    You rock.

  • Janet McMahan

    Thank you. You are a beautiful soul.
    Blessings to you!

  • sgb

    WOW! This was right on time…thank you so much for sharing a piece of your journey. Wishing you peace, joy and inspired thoughts.

  • Steve Parker

    I’m certainly not clairvoyant, but it always seemed to me that your consulting job was not “tuned in” to your many strengths. From your description, it sounds like you were trying to put a square peg into a round hole. It’s a blessing to so many like me who deal with depression that you’re back doing what you do so well.

  • Althea

    Therese, Again you have shown the willingness to do whatever is in front of you to do for your family … a journey many women have made. And now … God’s grace and abundance continues to be yours. Just want to say I am encouraged by your story. For whatever reason, the words I want to say are not available … side effect of being me. Best wishes on your future adventures in being you.

  • Shelley

    Thank you Andy for saying the words I was thinking! Blessings Therese on your new endeavor. God takes care of things in his own time.

  • Lisa

    Our paths are what (gulp) make us happy! Amazing as that truth is, it takes so much courage to live it out loud. Thanks again for being a trail blazer–and for your ability to follow your heart, ultimately the greatest intuitive strength we have. You will never know how many other hearts you have inspired…and always at the right time.

  • Ellen

    Yeah! You are where you need to be. I have missed new posts and this was a breath of fresh air. While you were at work in the consulting business the Beyond Blue community missed you! Welcome home!

  • Therese Borchard

    Thank you all, so much, for your words of support and encouragement. They mean more than you know.

  • S

    Time & again I have noticed that people who are totally in love with themselves are truly happy in life…They are the Sun around which others lesser mortals orbit around..[orbit around ??? well u got the point]. Right from my college days the girl who kissed her reflection in the mirror when I thought she was a superficial crazy bitch till date the prick of a colleague who thinks his village needs to be made into a separate country on its own have one thing in common…They have more ego than I can handle & love themselves like crazy when I struggle to even acknowledge and accept my blessings & talents. I beat myself up severly from the day I’ve turned 16 and still struggling to accept myself in a world where nothing or nobody is real or scared to love or laugh. At every corner there is doubt & fear with no one guiding you or assuring you that its gonna be ok.. To the handful of people that I can bank upon I am grateful..Last but not the least my dear Therese…Madonna would suck had she been a phycisit…U r meant to be a writer…a motivational guide for people suffering from mental ailments..you are a teacher…a friend..a confidant…and we dont even know each other..but I dunno Y I feel so connected to you :) Please follow your passion knowing you have friends from all over the world silently rooting for you.

  • Nancy Brenet

    Therese,
    I have you on my google homepage, an RSS feed so I can keep up with your blog.
    Being ourselves is hard, and you have inspired me over the last few years with your words, observations and talent like few have. Please, keep up what you love, and don’t ever take ‘no’ for an answer as you pursue it.
    Lots of love,
    Nancy

  • Anya

    Hi Therese,
    I was wondering ow you were doing with your company job, and I am sorry to hear that it turned out being such a trial for you. But all well that ends well, and I am thrilled that there is yet another door opened for you!
    And thank you for reminding me of those four words!
    Anya

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  • barb

    today is by far one of the worst CFS days i have had in a very long time, yet i read Beyond Blue, and somehow, your words bring me to a better place. God is awesome. He led me to you, and He led you outta that place so you could be yourself, your wonderful, blessed self and be back here where you belong, with people who love you and hang on your every word, so that on a bad day, like today, i can manage to keep one foot going in front of another. i can’t say that i am sorry you got laid off, but i admire the courage and strength and stamina it took for you to take that job in the first place. bravo, Therese, and once again, thank you. we love you.

  • Rebec

    Thank you for being here. I have been struggling for quite sometime to like myself, love myself, figure out who I am, and how to pursue this. I have a tendency of being my own worst enemy. It seems like I have always tried to put other peoples needs and wants in front of mine. I recently got out of a very controlling relationship.
    I have tried many different kinds of antidepressants and anti anxiety medications. I have visited with counselors and psychiatrists.
    Life can be going great and then all of a sudden, something happens, then my brain reverts back to the old way of thinking, and tries to sabotage things. Is there a way to keep that from happening…Re-write the files in a positive manner and purge the negative crap out of my system for good? If so, how???
    Please and thanks so very much.

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