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March 2009 Archives

Brains of People with Depression Are Different (As if you didn’t know that)

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I admit that I find it somewhat consoling to read studies that prove our brains are different because that makes me feel legitimate in my gripes, or vindicated in my efforts to correct my thought distortions. Like there really is […]

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Mindful Monday: Practicing Presence (or Mindfulness)

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On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

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Mindfulness: Building INNER Boundaries

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Abby Seixas, author of “Finding the Deep River Within,” compares practicing presence to building some INNER boundaries. Just as we might opt to let our voicemail pick up when we see a 1-800 number (meaning telemarketers), we can do the […]

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Elisha Goldstein: One Story That May Change Your Life

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Vietnamese Buddhist Thich Nhat Hanh writes: “Life is both dreadful and wonderful. To practice meditation is to be in touch with both aspects.” I touched on this topic back on my post “When One Door Closes.” In his post, “Reclaim […]

Friday’s Question: How Do You Grow Your Faith As a Person With a Mental Illness?

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On Fridays I will address a question related to depression and find the answer from an expert. If you have a question you want answered, please ask it on the combox of this post, and I’ll try my best to […]

Depression: It’s Spiritually Incorrect

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I’ve been politically incorrect for as long as I can remember. I really should wear a sign around my neck that says “I apologize if I say something offensive,” because it feels like I am eating the soles of my […]

Surviving Depression: A Mindful Way

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I’ve had the great pleasure of developing a relationship with Dr. Elisha Goldstein who writes the blog “Mindfulness and Psychotherapy” for Psych Central. I’m featuring an interview with him coming up, but I wanted to link to one of his […]

John McManamy: Depression … Are We All Alone?

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Many thanks to my friend John McManamy for blogging on my post “Depression: They Just Don’t Get It” last week. I like how he answers the question, “Are we all alone in our depression?” No, not really. Way too many […]

Three Steps to Better Therapy

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I was surprised to read on the combox of my post “9 rules for surviving therapy” how many readers are unsatisfied with their therapy. Here’s an article by Jennifer Bechdel of Psych Central that touches on a few steps to […]

Group Beyond Blue: What Have You Learned in Therapy?

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I started a thread over at Group Beyond Blue about what you all have learned in therapy. It’s now filled with a lot of insightful nuggets of wisdom. Check it out by clicking here.

10 More Stress Busters

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In November I shared with you 10 of my stress busters. But lately I’ve needed 20. So here are 10 more. 1. Avoid stimulants and sugar. Here’s the catch-22: the more stressed you get, the more you crave coffee and […]

How Stressed Are You?

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I was too stressed out to take Tara Stile’s stress test over at the Huffington Post. Here are her ten questions, but I advise you to check out her entire post. 1. Do you ever feel like you’re running out […]

Russell Bishop: Is Multitasking Good for You?

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Russell Bishop over at the Huffington Post has an interesting take on multitasking. I like his distinction between multiple goals versus multitasking. He writes: When you take on a goal, figure out what you have to deliver in order to […]

Stress Kills: Do Something About Yours (Before It’s Too Late)

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I apologize if this post reads like your grandmother’s obituary, but I want to drive home a very important point: STRESS KILLS YOU. I’ve always known that chronic and severe stress can damage your body and mind, blocking the fluid […]

Mindful Monday: Taming Self-Expectations

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On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

Yikes … God Is an Architect: On Work, Vocation, and Doing God’s Will

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I really liked this passage from Father Bede Jarrett, a Dominican priest from England, because it takes the pressure off of me to figure out my life and calling and therefore loosens the harness of my self-expectations. On the other […]

Fresh Living! An Interview with Valerie Reiss and Holly Lebowitz Rossi

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You all know of my editor, Holly, because I talk about her all the time and because I interviewed her way back. Now she and Valerie Reiss, Beliefnet’s holistic health editor have combined talents and skills in their blog “Fresh […]

A Chemo Cocktail Recipe

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One of my favorite Fresh Living blogs is Valerie’s “Cancer-free-aversary & a Chemo Cocktail Recipe” because she approaches this topic with such humility. I have a good friend who was also was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma, and I know how […]

Video: A March Madness Chant

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You absolutely have to watch this video of Holly chanting. She sent it to me right after she made it with a question mark, just like I did to her after I taped “The 12 Bipolar Days of Christmas.” Actually, […]

11 Ways to Live Fresh

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Check out Holly and Valerie’s “11 Ways to Live Fresh.” After I read it, I started writing out all the names of my friends and finding verbs for each letter. They weren’t as poetic as this Fresh Living post.

Top 10 Psychology Videos

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This is a very interesting list of videos Psych Central contributor Sandra Klume compiled. She writes, “Cognitive to clinical to social, the many applications of psychology reveal profound thoughts, human frailties and strengths. These are some of the best results, […]

Depression: They Just Don’t Get It

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I’ve learned in 12-step support groups that if you decide to share something important with a loved one, or try to amend a broken relationships, you should do so without any expectation of a response. I wish I had followed […]

When a Friendship Ends (The Text Version)

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A few readers who couldn’t view my video, “When a Friendship Ends,” asked if I would write out the content in a text post. Here you go: Friendships are a lot like marriages in that some are healthy and some […]

Fresh Living: Friends for a Season or a Lifetime?

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Valerie Reiss asks some great questions about friendship in a post on Fresh Living. She writes: There’s something about betrayal or abandonment in friendship that often feels harsher than that of a lover. Partly because (and pardon if I sound […]

Stalking Irish Madness: The Video

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Patrick produced a very cool video of himself in Ireland, which really gives you the feel for the book. And to get to his website, visit www.stalkingirishmadess.com. To watch the YouTube video, click here. To read more Beyond Blue, go […]

Mindful Monday: Befriending Feelings and Choosing Forgiveness

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On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

Exercise: Practice Befriending a Feeling

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I have condensed an exercise Abby Seixas offers in her book, “Finding the Deep River Within,” for befriending a feeling. 1. Take a couple of deep breaths and allow your awareness to move inward. Now recall a situation in the […]

Melzoom: Heroic at Processing Feelings

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When Group Beyond Blue Co-moderator Melzoom forwarded me her most recent journal entry, I was blown away. Not just at how she can articulate her feelings, but at how she can feel them. I mean, really feel them. I have […]

An Interview with Mary Elizabeth Williams: Your Place Affects Your Mood

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Photo of Mary Elizabeth by Bill Wadman You’re going to love today’s interviewee, for no other reason than the essay she contributed to my compilation of mom stories, “The Imperfect Mom,” was about how she allowed her infant daughter to […]

Mary Elizabeth Williams: Gimme Trailer

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Okay, not only is Mary Elizabeth Williams a talented writer, she’s also a producer! She must have taken a course on how to make videos, one that I haven’t taken yet. This will give you a great snapshot of her […]

The Clutter and Hoarding Police: I Smell an Intervention

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This is one of the more popular pieces from my archives. The sad truth is that I haven’t gotten any better. Look at these photos I took the other day. Now I not only hoard books. I hoard nuts as […]

Fr. Jim Martin on The Colbert Report: He’s the Show’s New Chaplain

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I’m going to do a little name dropping here and say that my FRIEND Jim Martin has become Stephen Colbert’s chaplain. This is his THIRD appearance on The Colbert Report, and Jim invited me to be part of the audience! […]

A Coffee Break

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What’s the Ideal Number of Friends?

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I can’t get off this friendship topic. My FRIEND James over at Finding Optimism (by the way, we just clarified our status … as fellow bloggers that are friends, meaning he and Anna get a Christmas card and Eric and […]

Susan Schechter: Tribute to a Friend Who Committed Suicide

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Today I published John McManamy’s tribute to Kevin, a friend he lost to suicide. I wanted to link to Susan Schechter’s tribute, as well, because it not only tells us about a lovely soul that was suffering too much to […]

John McManamy: When a Friend Commits Suicide

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I was moved by fellow bloggers John McManamy’s tribue to his friend, Kevin, who commit suicide just six months ago. John has channelled his grief by producing an important suicide prevention video “The Road to Nowhere.” I urge you to […]

Continuing a Friendship After Losing a Baby

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The video post on Monday and other posts on friendship this week have inspired and uncovered lots of topics I hadn’t thought of … like how to continue a friendship after losing a baby. I have heard from my friends […]

More on Exhale Magazine

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I thought I’d include the recent press release about Exhale E-Magazine since my interview with Christina Gombar on the topic of infertility and depression was so popular. To get to the zine, click here. Some more information follows…. Is it […]

John Grohol: 12 Most Annoying Bad Habits of Therapists

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This post by John Grohol had me cracking up. I’m including his intro and first three annoying habits, and then you’ll have to visit his site to get the others. I think the only thing I can add to the […]

Pat’s Story of Hope

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As I said the other day, I think it’s important to share stories of hope from my readers to give the ones who are stuck in darkness a little glimpse of the light. So here is an e-mail I just […]

Fresh Living: How to Break Up with a Friend

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I loved Holly Rossi’s post (at Fresh Living) on how best to break up with a friend. She brings up so many important issues: how to deal with the hurt, what’s the best technique, what to do when you just […]

On Breaking Up with Girlfriends

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I very much like this comment on the combox of my friendship video: This video post on friendship really hit home. I’ve had a lot of shame about having girlfriendships blow up. Now I can see that they were unequal, […]

On Finding Optimism: 10 Ways to Make Friends

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My FRIEND (not dumped, not getting dumped, hasn’t dumped me) James Bishop over at Finding Optimism has a great new design. His blog, which features the best mental health article for the day, has moved to www.findingoptimism.com/blog, and you will […]

Friends Are Like Shoes

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A friend who watched my video on friendships ending wrote me an e-mail with the most beautiful analogy . She said: As I was listening to you and watching the video, I thought about friends as being shoes in my […]

Video: When a Friendship Ends

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This video was produced awhile back, when I was letting go of an important friendship. But I seem to always struggle with friendship … boundaries and so forth. I think friendships are just as complicated as romantic relationships. Especially when […]

On the Huffington Post: The Disease of A-Thousand-Things-To-Do

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Not that I’m following my own advice today, but the Huffington Post just published my post, “The Disease of A-Thousand-Things-To-Do,” inspired by Abby Seixas’s book, “Finding the Deep River Within.” But I’m hoping if I continue to try everyday to […]

Mindful Monday: Four Steps to Better Personal Boundaries

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Mindful Monday: Making Boundaries On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to […]

Create Your Own Personal Shield–Like Derrie Did!

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I was so excited to see this creative personal shield by Beyond Blue reader Derrie! Doesn’t this make you want to do your own? Thanks, Derrie. (For instructions, review my video again.)

I’ve Learned … by Andy Rooney

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My sister-in-law e-mailed this to me the other day, and I loved it. Very Candy-Landish! I’ve learned….That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. I’ve learned….That when you’re in love, it shows. I’ve […]

Two Days to More Light!!

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I LOVE that those in charge (whoever they are) have moved up Daylight Savings to early March! My friend Michelle and I celebrate the day we SPRING FORWARD! It’s better than Mardi Gras for us! So, as you fix your […]

Video: Daylight Savings Time

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This video was taped going into winter, but it’s message is the same for leaving winter: I’M MOODY. And my moods are so vulnerable to the season. Thus, I mourn Daylight Savings Time when it goes bye-bye in October, and […]

For the Last Days of Winter: 12 Depression Busters

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Yesterday I saw both my therapist and my doctor, and we all agreed this winter is dragging on and on and on. Dr. Smith told me that an unprecedented number of her patients had relapsed in late February. I keep […]

Your Assignment: The 12 Days of Rehab

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I love to report success stories, because we need to hear them. We always need a piece of hope, and Beyond Blue reader Camille gave me one when she wrote this on the combox of my post “The Bipolar Singing […]

The Health Benefits of Active Leisure

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It’s not often that I find good advice on how to approach my depression in a diet book, but as Eric was reading his most recent volume on how to shed pounds, “The Structure House Weight Loss Plan,” by Gerard […]

Reverend Anne Naylor: Celebrating Now

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Blogging for the Huffington Post has allowed me to meet so many other interesting bloggers. Like Anne Naylor! For a peak at all of her Huffington Post article click here. I love this part of Anne’s bio: Anne’s mission is: […]

Practicing Mindfulness, Practicing Sabbath: My 10-Day Computer-Free Mental Health Experiment

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In her new book “An Altar in the World,” bestselling author Barbara Brown Taylor writes about “the practice of paying attention.” She explains: The practice of paying attention is as simple as looking twice at people and things you might […]

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.: Mindfulness and Psychotherapy

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I was so excited to see that PsychCentral.com added a blog on mindfulness and psychotherapy. Dr. Elisha Goldstein, a Clinical Psychologist, does a super job of translating the sometimes-complex practices of emotional health into language that the average depressive like […]

Group Beyond Blue: ?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

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Ah. Yah. I know. Big problems. When I went to log on and saw that it was the wrong address (new address includes an underscore between “beyond” and “blue” so it’s http://community.beliefnet.com/beyond_blue), I knew there were problems. Then I couldn’t […]

Mindful Monday: Taking Time In and the Gift of Solitude

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On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

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