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11 Ways to Grow the Tree

Last week I drafted some specific steps that I can do to “grow my tree” so I’m not as fragile with regard to my moods, so that I’m less vulnerable to wind–and my branches can bend and move without threatening my foundation.
1. Be better about my sleep hygiene: go to bed at 9, and get up at 6. Every day.
2. Return to my fifteen minutes of prayer every morning. Downstairs. Not in my bed.
3. Make room in my schedule for coffee and lunch with friends. Try to schedule at least one coffee or lunch a week. And be honest with them. Tell them how I REALLY am.
4. Have lunch with Eric as many times during the week as we can (since we can’t seem to find a babysitter so that we can go out at night).
5. Frame and hang up the pictures of our family that were taken last summer. Have them visible to remind me of the most important blessings in my life.
6. Thank Eric more for all the small and generous things he does for me throughout the day. Try to translate them into a kind of spiritual or religious language, as gestures of love, because they are. That way I won’t feel so much need to pursue spiritual connections in other places.
7. Surprise Eric by picking up the house, doing the laundry, pulling weeds, or planting flowers—in order to communicate love back to him, in a language he appreciates more than flowery prose.
8. After I’m finished with “Beyond Blue,” the book, take a break from additional work projects so I have some down time.
9. Write through the addictive cravings and hypomanic adrenalin. Write honestly. Write about why I want the thrill, the affirmation, the high, and try to find safe places I can get those warm fuzzies—like on this blog, “Beyond Blue,” and in Group Beyond Blue.
10. No checking e-mails or spending time at the computer after dinner.
11. See my therapist more often.

  • marilyn

    therese i can already see such growth in your life stay true to your plan and you will have a beautiul tree.blessing marilyn

  • clinton

    i like that plan too theresa sounds like a very healthy plan

  • Benita Martin-Boley

    Hello Therese,
    I’m happy that you made it through the “stuff” that is making you spiritually present. I enjoyed some of your writing’s. I don’t often cruise the net looking for thing’s like yours, but saw an intuition piece on the same page as your video and spent a few minutes laughing….hard….about the “40 Way’s To Keep Your Lover”. God forbid that I would have been the broad that killed seven husbands, or her mother-inlaw, but I’ve had a few men leave me for one reason or another. So, Thank’s for the insight…Chick~!….I’ll attend to my business a little better from having been blessed with your wit.
    PS. I seem to be the one that picks those men up and put’s them back on their feet after having a relationship with a woman who is manic,and/or bipolar. It is a spiritual test I think,….or a means of working off bad karma, or “Growing a Mended Tree” with ourselves being right in there mending too.
    Benita Martin-Boley

  • Margaret Balyeat

    Therese, I think that like the song by the wonderful Barbra, you’re growing a willow rather than an oak; it WILL ben rather than break!If you’ve ever watched a stately old willow in the midst of a windstorm, you know that they dance a gracefulballet that can’t be mimiced by sturdier trees like the oak. That’s how I see YOU…dancing your way through the tempests of your life ad refusing to be uprooted or thrown on top of a much-needed electrical or telephone line. Thank you for once again sharing your dance with us.

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