Alone But Not Lonely
Many of us find there are times in our lives when we are alone. Perhaps we are living alone as a young adult in our first apartment, or newly single after a divorce or loss of a partner. Unfortunately, the society we live in does not value the concept of alone. We are often made to feel as though aloneness is sad, depressing or even socially unacceptable.
If we have not grasped and accepted being alone with just “our self”, being alone can make the space around us seem large or empty. When this happens we tend to “fill the void” with television, computer time or background noise. If those methods are not satisfying, we may engage in unhealthy behaviors such as compulsive eating or drinking -whatever it takes to fill the emptiness.
It is important to make the distinction between being alone and being lonely. According to Clinical Psychologist Dr. Martha Carmody, a primary distinction between being alone and being lonely, is that when we are “lonely” we have a sense of longing.