Alice continues: When we arrived at the shelter, the boys sat on the floor and played while I answered questions and filled out registration forms. Then we were shown our room. We woke in the morning and went for a walk. With the first step outside the door, I knew we were home. I knew God had brought us home. At some point during our ten-year marriage, I conceded and simply accepted the abuse. But with acceptance I was still imprisoned. Now that I have broken free of that prison, I can choose to forgive my former husband’s actions, but I no longer choose to accept them. Forgiveness is, for me, a continuous issue. It is an ongoing process. Forgiveness allows me to tell my boys stories of the good times, memories that show them they come from a place of love. With forgiveness I feel no more anger. Forgiveness allows me greater perspective and helps me see our relationship for what it was.
How can I ever forgive?»