You have a thought: “I hate my life.” And then you get another chance! “I hate my life so much.” Now consider some ways this thought is distorted. First, it’s an overgeneralization. Just a tad. And it’s pretty black or white. And involves emotional reasoning, not clear reasoning. There are lots of ways you can untwist the thought, like examining the evidence (that’s if your life doesn’t suck) and talking to yourself as you would a friend (“I promise your life doesn’t suck as badly as mine”). Let’s keep on doing this exercise, much like we were on a movie set until we get the right lines. The great news is that you are not stuck with that first thought. You don’t have to take it home like a swimsuit you tried on without the liner. You can get the thought wrong as many times as it happens. There is always another take.
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