A Simple Mantra for Healing Your Dark Night of the Soul
When you can't see the sun shining, learn these steps to find the light within.
BY: Rajiv Parti, MD (aka Dr. Raj)
Healing form my ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ was not easy but the three main steps I had to go through were: 1. Forgive 2. Love and 2. Heal.
This mantra “Forgive, Love, Heal” will help one heal from a dramatic ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ as mine or even what I call a ‘Mini Dark Night’ – which can happen all the time to us in busy modern life: they could be simple things like being shown thefinger in an unloving exchange, or being cut off on the road in traffic!
In my own ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ I had to deal with prostrate cancer, surgical complications, life threatening sepsis, depression, chronic pain and dependency on pain medications. I had to sell my house, quit my job, all the while feeling how my marriage tethered and my health suffered.
I was very angry at myself, at God, the people, at the world – at the universe.
My healing happened in three steps.
The First Step is to Forgive
I had to forgive my self for any thing I had done, or contributed to the dark night. Forgive the circumstances. ‘Forgive’ God and accept God’s will. I had to surrender to the possibility that the Spirit alone has the infinite wisdom. There were the lessons I had to learn in this life time, so that I could evolve.
The forgiveness is defined as:
“the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense,difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.“
To help in forgiveness process I re-discovered the serenity prayer:
“God grant me the serenityto accept the things I cannot change;courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference.”
It transformed me. I started to live in present in the ‘Now’ and not be stuck in what my circumstance once were in past or what I wanted them to be in future.