10 Ways to Keep Your New Years Resolutions
What are your goals for next year? Here’s how you can achieve -- and maintain -- your resolutions for the New Year.
BY: Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo
Reprinted with permission from 50Plus
The only problem with New Year’s resolutions is that, despite our best intentions, it can be difficult to stick to them throughout the year. Here are 10 ways to achieve and maintain your resolutions:
Why do you want to make this change?
Write out a list of all the reasons why you want to make this change. Include as many as you can. For example, if your goal is weight loss, then some of the items on your life may include:
• Improve my health
• Be a good role model for my children/grandchildren
• Live longer
• Improve my self-confidence
• Reduce aches and pains
• Increased energy so that I can __________
• Improve sleep
• Prevent diabetes and heart disease
• Reduce risk for cancer
• Improved relationships
• Increase my sense of adventure
• A way to tell my loved ones I care about them because I am taking care of my health
• If I exercise as a way to lose weight, that reduces stress and depression and helps improve my mood.
What is good about the way things are now?
There is a reason (and probably more than one) that you continue to act the way you do. It is vital that you identify what is good about your habit.
Many clients look at me like I am crazy when I ask questions like “What is good about smoking?” No one has ever asked them that question. And yet, it is vital that we figure out what is pulling them to continue to smoke. If we don’t identify and address these benefits, we will never be able to sustain change.
So, write out all that is good — in your mind — about your habit. For example, one of my clients who wanted to quit smoking identified the following “benefits” of smoking:
• Smoking helps me relax.
• It is something that I do with my friends.
• I am afraid I will gain weight if I stop, so I guess smoking helps me not gain weight.
• I like to smoke when I am bored.
• Smoking helps break up long drives.
• At work, my cigarette breaks are sometimes the only time during the day when I get some peace.
Look at all those reasons this client liked to smoke. If she didn’t address them, it is very unlikely that she would be able to stop.