5 Ways to Overcome Fear
Fear comes in all shapes and sizes, and it's important to recognize which kind you're battling. Observing your fear is the dissolution of fear. It's that simple.
What is Psychological Fear?
Psychological fear is unnatural.
If we follow the example above, psychological fear is likely to appear later, when you’ve had time to reflect back on your close call. These reflections take on an added life when you share the story of the near collision with colleagues, family, and friends.
You can almost think of psychological fear as fear with an attitude.
Whenever fear ceases to be real fear and becomes psychological, it becomes ego-driven fear. As the voice in the head gets going, it’s prone to make a story out of the event, develop an attitude and opinion about it, and relive it in countless ways.
This remembrance manifests as anger, complaints, comments, and negativity. The longer the ego thinks about the incident, talks to itself about it, shapes a victim identity around it, and fashions it into a story to tell to others, the more personal the story becomes and the more anxious and offended the ego feels.
You will never overcome real fear. Nor should you. Ego-fear, however, can be overcome, if living from a place of peace and tranquility is your desire. And, who is it that does not desire peace?
Here are the five most important ways to overcome fear.
1. Know the difference.
Be aware of what you’re feeling—what triggered the physical and mental/emotional response—and make the distinction between the kind of fear or anxiety you are feeling.
2. Recognize fear in its other guise: worry.
This is the twin sister of fear and, while it may seem a little more socially acceptable, it is entirely ego-based, too. No less toxic, either. Worry is fear talking to itself; and it moves in one of two directions: either toward the past or the future.
That’s because worry feeds off memory, or the past, and anticipation, or the future. Neither of which, I might add, is real. Only what is now is real. So, pay attention to the mental conversation you have around any fear you feel so that, when it begins to morph into worry—as all ego fear eventually does—you can better handle it.
3. Pay attention to the mental noise that typically begins with “My.”
Ego-fear and worry both concern themselves with the stuff that happened in “my life,” (or, didn’t happen, should have, or shouldn’t have happened, and so forth). Or, it concerns itself with “my” future, (what should happen or shouldn’t happen, what might happen or could happen, and so on).