Tarot and I-Ching for Relationships

Intuitive tools can enhance understanding of self and significant other.

BY: John Gray, Ph.D.

This article appears on Tarot.com and is reprinted here with permission.

Ancient systems of intuitive decision-making like Tarot cards and the Chinese I-ching are becoming more and more popular, at the same time that their psychological validity is being recognized and understood.

For thousands of years these classical systems have been used to help people make better decisions around questions and issues that logic can't handle, which includes most relationship issues. Now a branch of modern psychology is explaining how and why these classical divination systems work.

All too often we over-analyze when we would be better served by an experience of intuitive opening.

The father of depth psychology, Carl Jung, researched classical oracles for over 30 years. He used the term "archetypes" to describe internal energy sources available to every human being from our "collective unconscious." Each of the 78 cards of a Tarot deck, and each of the 64 hexagrams of the I-Ching, represents such an archetype. Tarot cards can be looked at as symbolic flash cards for one's inner life, because every one of the 78 archetypal energies is present within every human being in one form or another.

Oracles on Relationships

Ancient oracles have historically been consulted by sages and emperors about strategic matters as well as by the common people about issues of personal concern. These days, according to my friend, Paul O'Brien, founder of Tarot.com and I-Ching.com, 65% of the queries that people bring to these intuitive tools are about intimate relationship.

This makes sense because there is a greater need for clarity about relating in a chaotic age like ours, lacking the traditional structures that used to make relationship a much simpler (if not predestined) matter. With freedom comes greater responsibility, but modern relationship quandaries do not often lend themselves to simple, linear solutions. All too often we over-analyze when we would be better served by an experience of intuitive opening.

When one is confronted with a problem that logic can't handle, it's good to reflect and gain perspective. But how do we step outside the "rational" realm to activate intuition and gain perspective?


is one powerful way to become free from the tyranny of limited thinking. And, for thousands of years, people have used the Tarot and the I-ching, which are actually powerful meditation tools in their own right.

John Gray is the author of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" and other books, tapes, etc. on relationships. For further information on John Gray's work, please visit his website.

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