What is Your Relationship With Money Trying to Teach You?
Beliefnet contributor Christina Argo examines the relationship between money and the rest of our lives.
What if you went into a store to buy groceries and instead of handing over cash, you needed to cough-up cold hard…smiles, or hugs or stones? Would we suddenly find ourselves unable to muster up enough smiles, hugs or stones to pay for what we need? Money is, after all, just another energy. Yet so much emphasis has been placed on it. We are told as children that money doesn’t grow on trees. We are pushed to ‘keep up with the Jones’ and over and over we are told ‘money is what makes the world go ‘round.’ All of this gives money an inordinate amount of power.
For many of us money is surrounded with the energy of lack and limit. We can’t have this or that, because we don’t have enough money and we blame the lack of money for our own unhappiness or inadequacy. People oftentimes misquote the bible by saying ‘money is the root of all evil,’ but the actual passage is ‘The love of money is the root of all evil.’ Putting money above love, life and family is wrong, not the actual possession of money. Whether we apply this passage directly to money or to the things that we think we want and need, it is want and desire that places many people into financial struggles.
The Western culture, which is rapidly becoming the prevailing world culture, is about consumption and desire. We are bombarded with messages that tell us we are deficient unless we have a certain car, a particular handbag, whiter teeth, paler skin or a youthful look. Our self-worth and our personal value is constantly attached to the availability of money.
We have also become a culture steeped in immediacy. We want it right now; we have to have it and if we don’t get it, it triggers anything from panic to depression. Panic because our need can’t be met, depression because amidst all the messages, we have come to believe we are nothing unless we have whatever ‘thing’ it happens to be at the moment.
Money becomes that which stands in the way of our perceived happiness. If we only had $100 or $1000 then we could be happy. Instead of assessing what we desire, we borrow money to acquire it now.
But if your life lessons are wrapped up in money, your challenge is to learn self-worth and personal value and we don’t do that by having lots of money, we do that by having money challenges. You are challenged to find the true value of yourself and see the meaningfulness of your life with what you have, rather than what you don’t have.