Life in a Polygamous Marriage
Meet the Husband: Joe
Joe, what is it about your faith that led you to want to live a polygamist lifestyle?
Joe: You go back six generations in my family and it was very much a part of my culture and my history. An integral part of our faith and so for me, some of the men I admired the most growing up were polygamist men, men who had plural families.
In your family you have 24 children. How do you find time for all of your wives and your children in addition to having a job?
Joe: I think the biggest challenge is finding time, to find time for them all like making sure I see them every day. We’re all in one home and we connect with them on a daily basis. I may not go to every parent teacher’s conference but each wife will come back [after] they went to the conference. They can come back and say okay these are the issues we have. Then I can speak with all the children and talk about [a] problem or accomplishment that should be addressed.
What do you want readers to know about people living in polygamous marriages? What is the main message that you want to get across?
Joe: I think that we’re a family first and foremost. [The] second part is our faith. We wouldn’t do this if is wasn’t part of our faith and part of culture of where we’re from and as a result of those two aspects we should have freedom to structure our family as we see fit. It’s something that we want the rights to be able to do freely.
It’s like I finally have a voice. I’ve been quiet for so many years and it’s really hard being in public in one way. I mean most of my associates, my business associates and even a lot of friends are finding out for the first time right now and that’s a hard place to be. But it’s almost a little liberating.