When we Re-Act we are not seeing ourselves on the same team as our partners. We have to remember that we are on the same team. Try and understand where your partner is coming from and see the good in what they are saying because it is there. The intention is to come together. In order to do this, you need to stay calm and try and see the bigger picture. Most reactive people stay focused on small details that do not matter when it comes to the bigger picture. Learn to be collaborative not competitive.
Love can only thrive in mutually beneficial relationships where there is an equal give and take and a mutual back and forth. In order to love and be active in your love relationships you must realize that you do not have to be so emotional all the time. There are ways to be clear without being obnoxious. You have to know yourself well enough to say no when you need to, to be flexible when you need to and to know when to compromise. If you are not clear within yourself you will not be clear in your love relationships. We all desire love and we desire love that works. So, work on yourself by becoming less reactive.
Little life message: There is always something to learn from putting yourself aside to consider the needs of others.
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