Stay centered by realizing it's natural for a man to pull back.
Drifting away is completely natural for a man, even if he’s in love with you. Falling in love can make him feel vulnerable, so he’ll try to pull back in order to not lose himself. He’ll come in and go out – like a rubber band – while he works out his feelings and digs deeper to find his ability to go the distance in a real relationship. Meanwhile, he’s also making sure he “holds on” to his sense of self, his life, and his independence.
So, the first thing to do when this happens with the man you’re with is to remind yourself that it’s completely normal. If he’s the right man for you, these periods will significantly shorten over time, even though he’ll still need his “space” every once in a while.
After 20 years of marriage, there are still moments when my husband gets a little distant from me. The difference now is that I know that when he does it’s a natural process, so I don’t get worried like I used to. I’ve also learned what not to do when it happens. Which brings me to the next step...
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