The Summer of Gay Love 2003

Heterosexuality is in crisis. That's why we suddenly find gays so fascinating.

The summer of 1967, replete with love-ins from New York City to Haight-Ashbury, was universally known as the Summer of Love. This summer, filled with the controversies about sodomy, gay bishops, gay marriage, and TV-watching parties for the new show "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy," may one day be known as the "The Summer of Gay Love."



Conservatives and some religious leaders have identified homosexuality as a great threat to Western morality. In some respects they are correct. If the state has no right to legislate a narrow definition of marriage as a bond between a man and a woman, what's to stop fundamentalist Mormons, whose polygamous culture is exposed in Jon Krakauer's current bestseller "Under the Banner of Heaven," from demanding that marriage make room for a man and

three

women?

Notwithstanding my own conservative credentials, I have long championed the fair and equal treatment of homosexuals, believing we should show them all the love and dignity that is their birthright. I have debated religious figures throughout the world on the need to put the sin of homosexuality in proper Biblical context. There can be no question that gay sex is prohibited by the Bible, but that need not lead to the demonization of homosexuals. It is a sin not unlike desecrating the Sabbath, and it shouldn't be singled it out for particular opprobrium.

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Still, I'm not indifferent to the emergence of homosexuality as a political and religious issue, nor to the notable increase in gay men and women coming out. I believe this phenomenon reflects a crisis of a different kind--namely, our culture's disillusionment with heterosexuality as we know it.

In my lectures around the world on relationships, I often ask the participants, "What's more important: attraction or compatibility?" Nearly every hand shoots up to vote for compatibility. Attraction is disparaged as shallow. The most important thing, in the minds of most men and women I encounter, is having lots in common--becoming best friends.

Now this is curious. If compatibility is the mainstay of a relationship, then homosexuality makes much more sense. After all, two men have a lot more in common than a man and a woman. How many women enjoy watching hours of football, or seeing Mike Tyson tear out an opponent's spinal cord? And is there a husband who really enjoys spending the day at the mall trying on outfits with his wife?

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