The Man I Love Is Half My Age
Family and friends might disapprove, but there are ways to overcome a large age difference in a romantic relationship.
: I am a single parent with two children. I am 48 years old. My boyfriend is 27. We met about a year ago and, given our age difference, tried to analyze, dispel, and rationalize away the bizarre attraction, but love prevailed. My family and friends have responded with tremendous rejection and anger. But the relationship between my children and my boyfriend is as caring and positive as ours. I often feel I am on a roller-coaster as to what I should do. My boyfriend has proposed. My heart says YES!--jump up and down, shout for joy, this is my soulmate, etc. But I have not given him an answer, nor have I told anyone. My parents are both in their 70s, and I'm worried because my father recently had a heart attack and bypass surgery. Since my children are also involved, the guilt trip and rejection have placed a tremendous burden on me. What are your suggestions?
: There is no absolute reason why a relationship with this age difference cannot be very successful. It is interesting that if your genders were reversed and this were occurring in Hollywood, age would not even be an issue. Many leading men not only star in films with female characters half their age as love interests, but they also marry much younger women in real life. So this problem is primarily cultural and gender-based.
Some might argue that even if the age difference between the two of you is not a problem now, it will eventually become one, but the fact is that no one is in a position to know what the future holds for anyone. Some people contract debilitating illnesses; some people are vital well into their later years; there can be an unexpected death, and countless other unknowns. So to base your decision on what might happen in the future is not, in our opinion, reasonable, practical, or spiritual.