Carolyn and Sean Savage share their incredible story of how a medical mistake turned into a lifetime of love.
Sean: We struggled at times. It was such a complex maze that laid down in front of us once the decision was made immediately to continue the pregnancy. And also the decision to not fight for custody. Once those two fundamental choices were made, it took us down a road that was treacherous and, at times, put us into kind of the depths of despair. As a couple that really challenged us, at times we didn’t treat each other as well as we would have liked. There were times where we weren’t as supportive. Certainly I wasn’t as supportive of Carolyn as I needed to be, but as we went along I really believe that our marriage vows, our commitment to each other, our commitment to this child and our faith, all combined [and] really helped us. As we got closer to delivery, and we got closer to the point of handing the child over to the family, we were so together that it made our marriage stronger even though it really was a challenge for us to get through.
Jana: I would think that your marriage is very connected to your faith. I understand that you both are Roman Catholic. What was the reaction of the church and the faith community in your hometown to all this?
Carolyn: Our faith community in our hometown was incredibly supportive. I don’t know how somebody without a strong core faith would be able to manage a crisis like this, or pretty much any crisis. I think at those times in our lives when we’re really challenged and kind of rocked, that’s when Sean and I kind of retreated to our core beliefs and really relied on our faith in God to first make the most loving decision, and second, in order to navigate this way in a very loving and generous manner. Sean mentioned earlier that there were some pitfalls along the way and I think those are to be expected with any kind of crises.
Jana: When Logan was finally born, what was going through your minds at that point?
Carolyn: You know we had worked really hard at making sure that Logan’s birth was celebrated and he was welcomed into this world surrounded in joy and love. So when he came out kicking and screaming, we were both smiles ear-to-ear. It was as miraculous as any other childbirth, and we have three other children, and we were incredibly thrilled. It was a major accomplishment for us to get him to be born. He was so healthy and it was such a great moment. About 10 minutes after his delivery they took him from the room [and] Sean accompanied him. And that was tough but I will say there was a presence of absolute witness to the work we were doing in that OR that day. Sean, myself [and] our entire medical team [all] had strong convictions about what we were doing in bringing this little boy into this world and returning him to his genetic parents. When they left it was tough. I think at that moment I can sure remember closing my eyes and feeling proud of what we had done, and thanking God for allowing him to come into this world in such a healthy manner.
Jana: It’s wonderful that he’s a healthy baby boy. How many times have you been able to see Logan?