Circumcision: A Jewish Inquiry
Is the pain of the brit milah ceremony really necessary in welcoming Jewish male children?
Nonetheless, Jewish deaths from circumcision have been documented in modern times. For example, two infants are known to have died of brit milah in 1957, and another in 1978.
Many mohels and rabbis argue that circumcision deaths are so rare as to be a nonissue. Besides the fact that we don't know how rare they are, this perspective seems a strikingly un-Jewish one. Judaism affirms the sanctity of human life, embracing the idea that every life is of infinite value.
Accordingly, it would seem, every loss of life must be considered an infinite loss. Halakah also tells us that since danger to life takes precedence over all else, medically, hazardous medical procedures are strictly forbidden.
As Jews and as Americans, we have been conditioned to think of circumcision of older children and adolescents (as is practiced in some other cultures) as deeply offensive. Most of us would find it impossible to subject an older child to unanesthetized circumcision for any reason other than absolute, life-and-death necessity.
It is often argued that the surgery is easier on infants that on older children or adults. Though infants' tissue seems to heal faster, current research suggests that early painful and traumatic experiences are far more difficult on infants than was previously imagined. Overall, we do not know whether surgery is easier on infants than on older children or adults. What we do know is that our bond with our infants is not as strong as our bond with our older children. Circumcision of infants is certainly easier on us than circumcision of older children. As Moses Maimonides, physician as well as rabbi in the 12th century, tell us when he advocates circumcision at eight days:
"...the parents of a child that is just born take lightly matters concerning it, for up to that time the imaginative form that compels the parents to love it is not yet consolidated. For this imaginative form increases through habitual contact and grows with the growth of the child...the love of the father and of the mother for the child when it has just been born is not like their love for it when it is one year old, and their love for it when it is one year old is not like their love for it when it is six years old."
Maimonides says that we must circumcise our sons as infants, lest we neglect to do so as we get to know them better and love them more deeply. He encourages us to call upon our natural indifference to our newborns--in effect, to do to a "stranger" what we could not do to one we know well.
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